Haha, not really, but I just wanted to log back in real quick to write this update. I initiated conversation with someone! Haha! There we go! I made the first move. There was just something about his profile. So, we shall see. Plus, this will answer a lot of my other questions about the communication process. If he sends questions back, will I be able to send MHCS, or does he (as I felt like I had to when they guy initiated). So many questions!! Why is this so stressful!!?
I wonder if he's not active anymore, does he still get updates saying communication wants to talk to him?
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 10
This morning, everything was back to normal, my inbox was filled with 7 new matches, and one request for communication. These matches were all pretty normal. I wasn't thrilled with the location though, only 2 lived in the city that I did, the rest were 30 minutes to 3 hours away!
While I was bee bopping around on eHarmony, apparently a match closed me out! I went to the "communicating" matches, and one said "read closed message." I don't know how long it was there. I didn't receive an email, and it wasn't on an update or anything like that when I logged on. It wasn't that big of a loss, he was 5'8", which means he was probably 5'6", but he was okay other than that. If he had initiated something, I probably would have responded.
Oh, and I didn't get an option to send him a good bye message back, so there goes that theory about those other guys not being active members, that's why they didn't send the good bye message back. But since I actively closed him out, does he get an email like "Match received communication" letting him know I closed him out, but that's it? So many questions!!! And really, the only way to know is to be communicating online with someone you talk to in real life!
So, I wrote questions back to no picture/now picture guy. Still no word from police officer. I can only imagine he's pursuing some other girl now, or his subscription expired. That's too bad. Makes me kind of sad.
In other news, my TV is still on the fritz. I put in a DVD and that sounds fine, so it's definitely the cable. I don't have time to have the cable guy come out here. On one hand I think it's good it's out so I can do some work, which I need to do. But don't worry, I got my Hills in last night, I went over to Cheer's house, so that crisis was averted!
And just as a side note, comments from random people are MORE than welcome!
Open matches: 24
Communicating: 8
Ones that I'm actually communicating back with: 4
Closed: 18
Total Matches Received: 42
xoxo, Maxi
While I was bee bopping around on eHarmony, apparently a match closed me out! I went to the "communicating" matches, and one said "read closed message." I don't know how long it was there. I didn't receive an email, and it wasn't on an update or anything like that when I logged on. It wasn't that big of a loss, he was 5'8", which means he was probably 5'6", but he was okay other than that. If he had initiated something, I probably would have responded.
Oh, and I didn't get an option to send him a good bye message back, so there goes that theory about those other guys not being active members, that's why they didn't send the good bye message back. But since I actively closed him out, does he get an email like "Match received communication" letting him know I closed him out, but that's it? So many questions!!! And really, the only way to know is to be communicating online with someone you talk to in real life!
So, I wrote questions back to no picture/now picture guy. Still no word from police officer. I can only imagine he's pursuing some other girl now, or his subscription expired. That's too bad. Makes me kind of sad.
In other news, my TV is still on the fritz. I put in a DVD and that sounds fine, so it's definitely the cable. I don't have time to have the cable guy come out here. On one hand I think it's good it's out so I can do some work, which I need to do. But don't worry, I got my Hills in last night, I went over to Cheer's house, so that crisis was averted!
And just as a side note, comments from random people are MORE than welcome!
Open matches: 24
Communicating: 8
Ones that I'm actually communicating back with: 4
Closed: 18
Total Matches Received: 42
xoxo, Maxi
Monday, May 5, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 9
I think it's day 9 anyways...
Let me start off by saying how much of a cliche I feel like right now. I'm sitting at home, in mismatched PJ's, freshly scrubbed face, hair in a ponytail, eating a lean cuisine for dinner, blogging, and checking eHarmony. If I'm not the poster child for stereotypical single white female, then I don't know what is...oh wait, I think I need to get a cat.
Anyways, let me start off with some super exciting news! My shed was demolished today! I hired some guy for $300 to come and tear it down. Since the city will haul away for free, I just needed him to stack it neatly in the back. My new shed is coming Wednesday, but I need my dad to come into town to help me put it up, so right now, I have a huge dirt spot in my back yard, and all my tools, lawn mower, etc., sitting on my back porch. But the point is, I am well on my way to having that shed gone from my life! Like it never existed to begin with!
In other exciting news, I saw MK at lunch today, and for the very first time, was able to glance at his left hand which DEFINITELY did NOT have a wedding band on! That was all that happened. I saw him eating his lunch in the courtyard. He was looking mighty fine in his suit, but of course, there was no interaction. Unfortunately I didn't see him until after Cat and I sat down, or else, I'd have chosen to sit near him, so that we could strike up some friendly banter. Or maybe it's best I didn't sit next to him, so I can pretend he would have talked to me. Now, I'll never know. Gee, I really am a freshman in love with the senior quarterback!
Ok, time for the eHarmony update! Today was the first time I've logged in since Thursday.
Still no word from the police officer! I can't believe it! Is he rejecting me??!!! I guess now I understand why people get insulted when they get rejected before the person even gets to know them, but I guess that is the problem with online dating. I almost feel like you get rejected more often online than you would in real life. But anyways, maybe he's really busy. Maybe it's legit. Maybe he's playing the game too. What I like to think is he's taking the time to answer my awesome questions with perfect answers, and then think of fabulous questions for me! And I'm clinging to that. De'Nile isn't just some river in Egypt my friends!
Ok, back to the other guys. I received some answers from one guy, but it took him about a week to answer. Then, the guy with no picture sent his MHCS back to me. His picture finally appeared. He's actually pretty cute. Very GQ, very manly, beefy, just the way I like them! But I guess now I have to write him some second questions.
Oh, and Radio answered my questions, but in one of them he wrote "Hey Maxi, nice getting to know you, but my eHarmony subscription is going to end in a few days. If you'd like to email me, it's _____." Of course I immediately tried to find him on myspace, but to no avail. Anyways, I don't know what I think about that. Interesting.
I still have some outstanding communications, but now that I know they never remove your profile, I think I just won't answer, and have the guys think I'm no longer active. Then, they can close me out, and I don't have to feel badly anymore for closing out people left and right.
And last, but not least, I turned matching back to on. I was surprised they didn't immediately send me matches, but we'll see what I have tomorrow, if anything.
I think I'll think of some great questions for no picture/now has picture guy, see what people think about Radio, and hope for the best with police officer. The other guy, I think I'll wait a few days, then send him my MHCS.
I wish eHarmony would tell you the last time someone logged on.
Oh! So, my TV isn't working, or something! I just tried to turn it on (only adding to the SWF stereotype, maybe I need to get some ice cream too). And my volume is coming in terribly, like the speaker blew out. But when I turn cable off and just turn to regular TV, it's fine. I am SOOOOOOOOO pissed right now! Where am I going to watch "The Hills??" Agh! I am starting to FREAK OUT!!!
$#%^*@!, Maxi
Let me start off by saying how much of a cliche I feel like right now. I'm sitting at home, in mismatched PJ's, freshly scrubbed face, hair in a ponytail, eating a lean cuisine for dinner, blogging, and checking eHarmony. If I'm not the poster child for stereotypical single white female, then I don't know what is...oh wait, I think I need to get a cat.
Anyways, let me start off with some super exciting news! My shed was demolished today! I hired some guy for $300 to come and tear it down. Since the city will haul away for free, I just needed him to stack it neatly in the back. My new shed is coming Wednesday, but I need my dad to come into town to help me put it up, so right now, I have a huge dirt spot in my back yard, and all my tools, lawn mower, etc., sitting on my back porch. But the point is, I am well on my way to having that shed gone from my life! Like it never existed to begin with!
In other exciting news, I saw MK at lunch today, and for the very first time, was able to glance at his left hand which DEFINITELY did NOT have a wedding band on! That was all that happened. I saw him eating his lunch in the courtyard. He was looking mighty fine in his suit, but of course, there was no interaction. Unfortunately I didn't see him until after Cat and I sat down, or else, I'd have chosen to sit near him, so that we could strike up some friendly banter. Or maybe it's best I didn't sit next to him, so I can pretend he would have talked to me. Now, I'll never know. Gee, I really am a freshman in love with the senior quarterback!
Ok, time for the eHarmony update! Today was the first time I've logged in since Thursday.
Still no word from the police officer! I can't believe it! Is he rejecting me??!!! I guess now I understand why people get insulted when they get rejected before the person even gets to know them, but I guess that is the problem with online dating. I almost feel like you get rejected more often online than you would in real life. But anyways, maybe he's really busy. Maybe it's legit. Maybe he's playing the game too. What I like to think is he's taking the time to answer my awesome questions with perfect answers, and then think of fabulous questions for me! And I'm clinging to that. De'Nile isn't just some river in Egypt my friends!
Ok, back to the other guys. I received some answers from one guy, but it took him about a week to answer. Then, the guy with no picture sent his MHCS back to me. His picture finally appeared. He's actually pretty cute. Very GQ, very manly, beefy, just the way I like them! But I guess now I have to write him some second questions.
Oh, and Radio answered my questions, but in one of them he wrote "Hey Maxi, nice getting to know you, but my eHarmony subscription is going to end in a few days. If you'd like to email me, it's _____." Of course I immediately tried to find him on myspace, but to no avail. Anyways, I don't know what I think about that. Interesting.
I still have some outstanding communications, but now that I know they never remove your profile, I think I just won't answer, and have the guys think I'm no longer active. Then, they can close me out, and I don't have to feel badly anymore for closing out people left and right.
And last, but not least, I turned matching back to on. I was surprised they didn't immediately send me matches, but we'll see what I have tomorrow, if anything.
I think I'll think of some great questions for no picture/now has picture guy, see what people think about Radio, and hope for the best with police officer. The other guy, I think I'll wait a few days, then send him my MHCS.
I wish eHarmony would tell you the last time someone logged on.
Oh! So, my TV isn't working, or something! I just tried to turn it on (only adding to the SWF stereotype, maybe I need to get some ice cream too). And my volume is coming in terribly, like the speaker blew out. But when I turn cable off and just turn to regular TV, it's fine. I am SOOOOOOOOO pissed right now! Where am I going to watch "The Hills??" Agh! I am starting to FREAK OUT!!!
$#%^*@!, Maxi
Sunday, May 4, 2008
eHarmony Weekend Update
Cat, in all her infinite wisdom, decided we needed to blog in different colors, you know, because she writes so many posts. But here's my color. It may not always be this exact color, but I'll be in the blue family, and she'll be in the red.
Today I just wanted to catch up with the eHarmony weekend happenings. First, I decided not to log onto to eHarmony all weekend. Everyone who knows me, knows I love rules, and that's what I decided a rule for me was. No logging on, or answering questions, etc. on the weekend. And since I was pretty busy, it was pretty easy.
I got two communications Friday while I was at work, and now I'm at the point where the next step is for me to send them both my must haves/can't stands. I haven't heard back from the police officer, but that's okay, maybe he plays by the same weekend rules. So, I had no updates all weekend since I was waiting for police officer, and everyone else is waiting for me.
I did do a little Internet researching and discovered that eHarmony does not remove profiles. So, once you're done, before your subscription expires, you need to delete everything from your account. I certainly don't want my profile out there when I don't know who's receiving it. So, this was good to know. Additionally, it makes sense why out of my matches, over half never viewed me, nor responded. Also, out of all the ones I closed, only one responded with the "good luck on your search." (I'm not sure if there are other options available since I've never received one, nor had anyone close me out). I bet these people are not active matches. I think when I log on later tonight, I'll turn my receive matches back to on, because out of my 35 matches (remembering I turned matches off a few days ago), I think only 13 are active members. I would like the police officer to respond though.
In other weekend news, on Saturday, I went to a baby shower. It's for a girl that I'm not super close with, but like, so I agreed to go. Thursday, I get a frantic call from the girl hosting the shower saying "Please don't bail on Saturday!" Apparently, no one RSVP'd to the shower. On Wednesday, she called the girl for whom the shower was for to see if anyone RSVP'd to her, because apparently I was the only one who did. No, that was it, just me, the girl having the baby, and the girl throwing the shower. I feel terrible. That is so sad. Who are these people that don't know how to RSVP one way or the other? I just was appalled by how rude some people are. I felt bad, it was going to take her two seconds to open our gifts, but on the bright side, I didn't have to play any "Guess How Big Mommy Is" games. Also, I always get a giant box of diapers as my gift. That's my thing. Most people get little clothes and cute things, because they are more fun to buy. But half the time, most of those things don't even get worn because the baby out grows them. At 10 diapers a day, I've decided diapers are the way to go, and are usually the most appreciated gift. Albeit, not the cutest, or most fun. No one is gooing and gawing when the mom opens a box of 200 Huggies, but I've always heard great feed back. Well, since there weren't a lot of people there at the shower, I did feel bad that she wouldn't have any cute things to open, but my gift was already bought, and I certainly wasn't going back into Babies R Us for fear that I might get pregnant just being around all those women and babies! The girl throwing the shower, went out and bought a ton of gifts, and wrapped them all separately so the girl would have a lot of presents to open. That girl has a heart of gold, I tell you. I mean, usually the shower is the gift.
I guess that's it. I may post again when I log on tonight. My rule was no eHarmony all day Friday -Sunday at 7pm. So, we'll see if I have any updates by that time.
xoxo, Maxine
Today I just wanted to catch up with the eHarmony weekend happenings. First, I decided not to log onto to eHarmony all weekend. Everyone who knows me, knows I love rules, and that's what I decided a rule for me was. No logging on, or answering questions, etc. on the weekend. And since I was pretty busy, it was pretty easy.
I got two communications Friday while I was at work, and now I'm at the point where the next step is for me to send them both my must haves/can't stands. I haven't heard back from the police officer, but that's okay, maybe he plays by the same weekend rules. So, I had no updates all weekend since I was waiting for police officer, and everyone else is waiting for me.
I did do a little Internet researching and discovered that eHarmony does not remove profiles. So, once you're done, before your subscription expires, you need to delete everything from your account. I certainly don't want my profile out there when I don't know who's receiving it. So, this was good to know. Additionally, it makes sense why out of my matches, over half never viewed me, nor responded. Also, out of all the ones I closed, only one responded with the "good luck on your search." (I'm not sure if there are other options available since I've never received one, nor had anyone close me out). I bet these people are not active matches. I think when I log on later tonight, I'll turn my receive matches back to on, because out of my 35 matches (remembering I turned matches off a few days ago), I think only 13 are active members. I would like the police officer to respond though.
In other weekend news, on Saturday, I went to a baby shower. It's for a girl that I'm not super close with, but like, so I agreed to go. Thursday, I get a frantic call from the girl hosting the shower saying "Please don't bail on Saturday!" Apparently, no one RSVP'd to the shower. On Wednesday, she called the girl for whom the shower was for to see if anyone RSVP'd to her, because apparently I was the only one who did. No, that was it, just me, the girl having the baby, and the girl throwing the shower. I feel terrible. That is so sad. Who are these people that don't know how to RSVP one way or the other? I just was appalled by how rude some people are. I felt bad, it was going to take her two seconds to open our gifts, but on the bright side, I didn't have to play any "Guess How Big Mommy Is" games. Also, I always get a giant box of diapers as my gift. That's my thing. Most people get little clothes and cute things, because they are more fun to buy. But half the time, most of those things don't even get worn because the baby out grows them. At 10 diapers a day, I've decided diapers are the way to go, and are usually the most appreciated gift. Albeit, not the cutest, or most fun. No one is gooing and gawing when the mom opens a box of 200 Huggies, but I've always heard great feed back. Well, since there weren't a lot of people there at the shower, I did feel bad that she wouldn't have any cute things to open, but my gift was already bought, and I certainly wasn't going back into Babies R Us for fear that I might get pregnant just being around all those women and babies! The girl throwing the shower, went out and bought a ton of gifts, and wrapped them all separately so the girl would have a lot of presents to open. That girl has a heart of gold, I tell you. I mean, usually the shower is the gift.
I guess that's it. I may post again when I log on tonight. My rule was no eHarmony all day Friday -Sunday at 7pm. So, we'll see if I have any updates by that time.
xoxo, Maxine
Thursday, May 1, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 5
Today's update will be pretty short. I didn't have the usual flood of emails into my inbox since I had turned matching off for awhile. Also, if I read correctly on eHarmony Blog, the person who initiates communication has to be the first to answer open ended questions, so I sent police officer some questions.
Let me tell you, thinking of good questions was stressful! There was a list you could choose from, but they were very serious, and marriage-oriented. I thought I did okay. We'll see what happens. I'm still waiting to hear back from two other guys. I think I'll see how next week goes, then maybe turn matching back on if I haven't heard anything.
On a side note, back to Major. He's been calling every other day. I wonder if he's trying to wean me off. As I sort of mentioned in my Day 1 Blog, last Sunday I had a lot to drink and decided to call Major. I talked to him about going and visiting. I said I didn't think I'd be able to get out there for a couple of months, and perhaps by the time I got out there, he'd be seeing someone, and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to come visit. His response was just "I doubt that" and sort of laughed. But he didn't say anything about me being the only one for him, or something like that. Then, I said I really missed him. I wasn't expecting "I love you Maxi. I think we should be serious and try this long distance." But I certainly wasn't expecting "thank you." That really hurt. Hence the reason I joined eHarmony to begin with. I was feeling rather fragile! But anyways, the calls are coming every other day now, instead of every day. And our conversations are quite shorter. I think it's time to let go. I do think he's just calling either out of habit, or because he's lonely. Either way, it's not an ideal foundation for a relationship.
xoxo, Maxi
Let me tell you, thinking of good questions was stressful! There was a list you could choose from, but they were very serious, and marriage-oriented. I thought I did okay. We'll see what happens. I'm still waiting to hear back from two other guys. I think I'll see how next week goes, then maybe turn matching back on if I haven't heard anything.
On a side note, back to Major. He's been calling every other day. I wonder if he's trying to wean me off. As I sort of mentioned in my Day 1 Blog, last Sunday I had a lot to drink and decided to call Major. I talked to him about going and visiting. I said I didn't think I'd be able to get out there for a couple of months, and perhaps by the time I got out there, he'd be seeing someone, and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to come visit. His response was just "I doubt that" and sort of laughed. But he didn't say anything about me being the only one for him, or something like that. Then, I said I really missed him. I wasn't expecting "I love you Maxi. I think we should be serious and try this long distance." But I certainly wasn't expecting "thank you." That really hurt. Hence the reason I joined eHarmony to begin with. I was feeling rather fragile! But anyways, the calls are coming every other day now, instead of every day. And our conversations are quite shorter. I think it's time to let go. I do think he's just calling either out of habit, or because he's lonely. Either way, it's not an ideal foundation for a relationship.
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Blog Update
First, I want to say thank you to eHarmony Blog. I noticed today that you took the time to answer all my questions, and it was very much appreciated! When I get home, I can't wait to log onto your blog and see what all it's about. Unfortunately, I can get away with this mini blog while at work, but don't think I can get away with hours of reading blogs, when I should be working!
I do have another question then, if you'll be so kind as to answer (provided you read this).
As you've read, Radio answered my questions. Whose court is the ball in now? Do I have to make the next move? Or can either of us? And same with the police officer. He sent back his must haves/can't stands. I notice when I log in that it suggests for me to send second questions. Is he getting the same notice, or does he have to wait for me?
Thank you!
xoxo, Maxi
I do have another question then, if you'll be so kind as to answer (provided you read this).
As you've read, Radio answered my questions. Whose court is the ball in now? Do I have to make the next move? Or can either of us? And same with the police officer. He sent back his must haves/can't stands. I notice when I log in that it suggests for me to send second questions. Is he getting the same notice, or does he have to wait for me?
Thank you!
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Day 4
I know I'm posting this a little late, but I didn't have time yesterday to update you. Of course I received the usual 7 matches in the morning.
Open: 18
In communication: 7
Closed: 17
Total matches received: 35
I felt like the matches were getting out of control, and I was just closing everyone, and was getting confused as to who was who, so I turned my matching status to "off." This means I won't receive any new matches until I change it back.
This makes me wonder something else. All the matches that haven't responded. Are their matches getting out of control as well? That's why they don't have time respond?
The police officer sent his must haves/can't stands back. And I received answers from one of the guys (the radio broadcaster) I was waiting for. But now I don't know who makes the next move. Technically for the police officer, I should send him my second questions. I haven't explored that yet, so I don't know what they are. And with Radio, I need to send my must haves. It seems like the person who makes the first communication gets it easy. The other person has to continue after that. I think I'm going to hold off for a little while and see if any of them respond back.
So, I didn't do anything last night other than log in, close some matches, and turn my match preference to "off."
xoxo, Maxi
Open: 18
In communication: 7
Closed: 17
Total matches received: 35
I felt like the matches were getting out of control, and I was just closing everyone, and was getting confused as to who was who, so I turned my matching status to "off." This means I won't receive any new matches until I change it back.
This makes me wonder something else. All the matches that haven't responded. Are their matches getting out of control as well? That's why they don't have time respond?
The police officer sent his must haves/can't stands back. And I received answers from one of the guys (the radio broadcaster) I was waiting for. But now I don't know who makes the next move. Technically for the police officer, I should send him my second questions. I haven't explored that yet, so I don't know what they are. And with Radio, I need to send my must haves. It seems like the person who makes the first communication gets it easy. The other person has to continue after that. I think I'm going to hold off for a little while and see if any of them respond back.
So, I didn't do anything last night other than log in, close some matches, and turn my match preference to "off."
xoxo, Maxi
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