Note to readers: I started to type this last Thursday or Friday, but was unable to finish it, so I am going to post it as I left it last week, then post again today with the updates! - Max
Are you all ready for some exciting news? I am finally going out with Engineer! Woo hoo! And yes, while I have closed out my eHarmony account (although technically it still doesn’t expire until late next week), I have been emailing him on the side. As you know from my previous posts, I gave up on eHarmony pretty quickly, but I didn’t give up on Engineer. I do realize I put all my eggs in the same proverbial eHarmony basket, but that’s okay. I just realized I wasn’t at a point where I was ready to commit to eH. It was too time consuming. Maybe it’s more of a winter activity, rather than summer. And the matches get out of control so fast. You really have to devote time and energy to it. But I can definitely see myself signing back up in the future, it wasn’t terrible. There were some quality guys on there, I just wasn’t ready to commit to it. That’s all. So, before I talk about my date, I want to say that although I signed on most skeptically, I think eHarmony is a pretty good dating site, and if you are willing to commit to it, can provide some decent caliber people. The process does take time, so know that ahead of time, don’t get frustrated, and hopefully you’ll get good results as well. As far as the ones that fall along the wayside, be glad. It means they just aren’t that into you (or else, they’d respond), or you don’t want someone lazy like that anyways? Either way, only worry about the ones that
Back to Engineer. If this date works out, we will have to dub him a new name. I will have Cat help me think of something perfect. We have been emailing for 2 months now, and I cannot reiterate enough how great the email banter has been. He’s very clever, I really enjoy reading his emails, and he enjoys mine. I know so much about him! It’s just so bizarre how I feel like I’ve known him forever, but we haven’t even met. I guess this is what eH is supposed to do, right? I mean, when I think about it, I’m not really surprised, this is what everyone who’s had success on these sites have said, that they wrote these long emails, etc., and when they finally met, it was like they’d known the person forever. We’ll see what happens in real life, but Dr. Warren might be on to something. I might be a believer. But then again, I do think it’s risky that he’s the only guy I’m pursuing at all. Just the Law of Large Numbers would suggest that I should have gone out with several guys to ensure that one would work. But I guess it does just take one, right? Last night, we finally talked, and when we finally hung up the phone I was shocked to learn we’d been talking for 50 minutes! I would have bet money it was only 15. Our conversation was so cute! I am super excited about finally meeting him. I called Cat immediately after and her response was “Oh Maxi, you just sound so giddy!” We are meeting a winery half way between our two cities. Isn’t that the cutest first date ever? It’s a day date, I guess that follows the internet date protocol right? At least we aren’t meeting at Starbucks!!
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Friday, July 18, 2008
Thursday, June 5, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 39
Oh my, do I have some news for you! Last night, Cat was doing some snooping on Match and found Fun Fat! Haha! Of course, he had the usual “Over the bar scene” line going on. I need to get rid of him (didn't I say that a few days ago?). The only reason I got this far with him anyways is because Cat was egging me on. I never thought he was cute, I was never attracted to anything about his personality. Plus, he's really intense. His first email to me was May 19. I responded May 22. He wrote back May 23. I didn’t reply back yet, then he wrote again on the 26th. I was sort of leaving him out to dry (I feel a little bit bad about that, but not too much), then he wrote again on June 2nd asking was anyone home and he hoped I wasn't ignoring him because he thought we had a lot of potential, and he was looking forward to getting to know me, and he could see us together!! I finally wrote him back last night, saying I was sorry I was busy. He immediately wrote back. His emails are kind of intense, and I’m just not into his emails. Anyways, seeing him on Match just confirmed that I need to close him out. I wonder how many people he’s talking to. Or (and this is going to sound vain, but it’s the truth), if I’m one of the more attractive girls he’s talking to so he’s excited.
Oh! And someone else interesting was found on Match. There was another guy that I'm in OC with. He's okay. Normal, cute, okay emails with him. Well, on eH, he said he had a son, who was the light of his life, and all this. I even asked about him in 2nd questions, and the guy was all about how great his son was, unfortunately he didn't get to see him as much as he wanted because he lives with the mom. Well, on match, this guy definitely said he didn't have any kids! That's a little weird, right? Kind of shady? Also, let's say his name was Steve? He spelled it Steven on one site, and Stephen on the other. Even more shady. Weird. I think he needs to get the boot as well.
Engineer and I have still been emailing, but nothing has matriculated as far as talking on the phone or meeting. We have some good banter, I will say that. He’s very clever and witty and smart, and our emails really feed off of each other’s well. I definitely would like for us to meet. We’ll see what happens. I don’t know how to proceed. What’s the average time on OC before it either goes to the next level or fades away? Who needs to make the next move? I started communication with him (pretty brazen of me, huh?) but still want him to be traditional and ask to meet me first.
All this flirty email reminds me of TC. This blog was not around during TC’s time, but let me give you some quick background. My friend thought TC and I would make a cute couple, so she gave him my myspace page. He must have liked what he saw, because he started emailing me. We flirted back and forth for a few weeks, but he wasn’t making any moves. Finally, I wrote “well, it was nice emailing you, maybe we’ll bump into each other sometime.” It was just getting old just emailing. Anyways, he wrote back “maybe we should bump into each other on purpose” (or something like that) and we met. Unfortunately I can’t do that with Engineer for two reasons. 1. I’m on this site, isn’t the purpose to meet someone, not just have an email buddy? 2. He doesn’t live in the same city as me. So, I’m kind of at a lose on how to proceed. Oh! This is important about TC. We had some great, witty, funny, flirty email banter. Much like Engineer and I do. However, when I met TC in real life, he was such a dud, I couldn’t believe it. Zero personality. How can someone be so great online, but so terrible in real life? I wonder if that’s how Engineer’s going to be (if we ever meet that is).
No new news on the CJ front. The girl from my work is going to try to plan a happy hour next Thursday and see if he comes. I think if he doesn't come then that will let me know what he thinks about me, because if he really liked me, he'd make sure he was there. Then, if he doesn't ask for my digits then, then I'm going to not worry about him anymore. Because the first meeting (at the cookout) I think set the stage. Then, at the concert, we were hard core flirting, then Saturday at the bar, it was more like tension flirting, you know what I mean, right? When I say tension? So, I think the next meeting is going to be do or die. If he does, then awesome, if he doesn't, then time to move on, I don't need a bumblehead like that anyways.
xoxo, Max
Oh! And someone else interesting was found on Match. There was another guy that I'm in OC with. He's okay. Normal, cute, okay emails with him. Well, on eH, he said he had a son, who was the light of his life, and all this. I even asked about him in 2nd questions, and the guy was all about how great his son was, unfortunately he didn't get to see him as much as he wanted because he lives with the mom. Well, on match, this guy definitely said he didn't have any kids! That's a little weird, right? Kind of shady? Also, let's say his name was Steve? He spelled it Steven on one site, and Stephen on the other. Even more shady. Weird. I think he needs to get the boot as well.
Engineer and I have still been emailing, but nothing has matriculated as far as talking on the phone or meeting. We have some good banter, I will say that. He’s very clever and witty and smart, and our emails really feed off of each other’s well. I definitely would like for us to meet. We’ll see what happens. I don’t know how to proceed. What’s the average time on OC before it either goes to the next level or fades away? Who needs to make the next move? I started communication with him (pretty brazen of me, huh?) but still want him to be traditional and ask to meet me first.
All this flirty email reminds me of TC. This blog was not around during TC’s time, but let me give you some quick background. My friend thought TC and I would make a cute couple, so she gave him my myspace page. He must have liked what he saw, because he started emailing me. We flirted back and forth for a few weeks, but he wasn’t making any moves. Finally, I wrote “well, it was nice emailing you, maybe we’ll bump into each other sometime.” It was just getting old just emailing. Anyways, he wrote back “maybe we should bump into each other on purpose” (or something like that) and we met. Unfortunately I can’t do that with Engineer for two reasons. 1. I’m on this site, isn’t the purpose to meet someone, not just have an email buddy? 2. He doesn’t live in the same city as me. So, I’m kind of at a lose on how to proceed. Oh! This is important about TC. We had some great, witty, funny, flirty email banter. Much like Engineer and I do. However, when I met TC in real life, he was such a dud, I couldn’t believe it. Zero personality. How can someone be so great online, but so terrible in real life? I wonder if that’s how Engineer’s going to be (if we ever meet that is).
No new news on the CJ front. The girl from my work is going to try to plan a happy hour next Thursday and see if he comes. I think if he doesn't come then that will let me know what he thinks about me, because if he really liked me, he'd make sure he was there. Then, if he doesn't ask for my digits then, then I'm going to not worry about him anymore. Because the first meeting (at the cookout) I think set the stage. Then, at the concert, we were hard core flirting, then Saturday at the bar, it was more like tension flirting, you know what I mean, right? When I say tension? So, I think the next meeting is going to be do or die. If he does, then awesome, if he doesn't, then time to move on, I don't need a bumblehead like that anyways.
xoxo, Max
Sunday, June 1, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 35
It's been a little over a month, and I'm definitely over eHarmony. It was really fun and exciting at first, but the excitement wore off as I realized 90% of my matches were complete duds (and that a good portion of those matches were also probably not active). I haven't been receiving matches for over a week, and have just been communicating with my active matches.
13 current matches
11/13 in communication - I actually took this afternoon to either respond or close out everyone that I was communicating with
130 closed
I'm still excited about the engineer. We've each emailed 2 times. No mention of actually meeting, but the emails have been promising, and at the very least, fun to read and respond.
I'm going to close fun fat. I don't think I'm going to like him, and he seems a little intense for me.
In non-eHarmony news. I definitely have a real life, non-internet crush. A girl at work's been wanting me to meet her friend CJ for about a year now, but either he was seeing someone, or I was. At her Memorial Day cookout, we finally met, and he was super duper adorable. We talked a little at the cookout. This past Friday, the girl invited a bunch of people out to hang out at the free Friday concerts, and CJ came. He was definitely flirting with me. I was definitely feeling that he was digging me. But he didn't ask for my number. Last night, I went to a local bar with some friends and CJ was there. Once again, he was flirting with me, which was cute. We danced, and talked and it was fun. But that was it. I got hugs both nights, I know he likes me, or at least is interested in me, but he hasn't asked for my number or anything. Cat thinks he might be one of those types that likes to hang out with a girl a number of times before he decides to make a move. I'm just excited because I have a straight on crush. I haven't "crushed" on someone in a long time. I've liked guys that I've been dated, but no real "crush" so to speak. I hope this crush goes to the next level, and soon. I think he will be the perfect summertime boyfriend. And hopefully longer! ;)
I saw Sex and the City this weekend as well. It was really good. I enjoyed the movie, I laughed, I cried, it was great. I couldn't believe how old the characters got, in just 4 years, it was unbelievable. I had a good time, saw it was 8 girlfriends, then we went out for dinner (then to the bar where I saw CJ). I don't know that I would have gotten back together with Big though, just that the wedding wasn't the first time he's screwed her over. What happened to that saying, screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me? Well, Carrie's at screw me 12 times, and we'll still live happily ever after. I thought that guy that wrote He's Just Not That Into You helped with the series. Well, I think the countless times Big's screwed Carrie over would have been clear signs that he's not that into you. Talk about giving girls a false hope. Yes, he'll get married to someone else, dump you twice, cheat on his wife, leave you at the alter, convince you to commit adultery, not introduce you to his mom or friends, constantly keep you in the dark about how he feels, but hey, there still might be a chance for you. Ok, enough of that. Seriously, I did love the movie though.
I know it's only 9:30, but I think I might go to bed. I haven't been sleeping well lately, and I'm exhausted, so I hope that means I'll sleep well tonight. Oh joy, a nice sleep to be excited for work tomorrow! Ugh!
Take care, talk to you all later.
xoxo, Maxi
13 current matches
11/13 in communication - I actually took this afternoon to either respond or close out everyone that I was communicating with
130 closed
I'm still excited about the engineer. We've each emailed 2 times. No mention of actually meeting, but the emails have been promising, and at the very least, fun to read and respond.
I'm going to close fun fat. I don't think I'm going to like him, and he seems a little intense for me.
In non-eHarmony news. I definitely have a real life, non-internet crush. A girl at work's been wanting me to meet her friend CJ for about a year now, but either he was seeing someone, or I was. At her Memorial Day cookout, we finally met, and he was super duper adorable. We talked a little at the cookout. This past Friday, the girl invited a bunch of people out to hang out at the free Friday concerts, and CJ came. He was definitely flirting with me. I was definitely feeling that he was digging me. But he didn't ask for my number. Last night, I went to a local bar with some friends and CJ was there. Once again, he was flirting with me, which was cute. We danced, and talked and it was fun. But that was it. I got hugs both nights, I know he likes me, or at least is interested in me, but he hasn't asked for my number or anything. Cat thinks he might be one of those types that likes to hang out with a girl a number of times before he decides to make a move. I'm just excited because I have a straight on crush. I haven't "crushed" on someone in a long time. I've liked guys that I've been dated, but no real "crush" so to speak. I hope this crush goes to the next level, and soon. I think he will be the perfect summertime boyfriend. And hopefully longer! ;)
I saw Sex and the City this weekend as well. It was really good. I enjoyed the movie, I laughed, I cried, it was great. I couldn't believe how old the characters got, in just 4 years, it was unbelievable. I had a good time, saw it was 8 girlfriends, then we went out for dinner (then to the bar where I saw CJ). I don't know that I would have gotten back together with Big though, just that the wedding wasn't the first time he's screwed her over. What happened to that saying, screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me? Well, Carrie's at screw me 12 times, and we'll still live happily ever after. I thought that guy that wrote He's Just Not That Into You helped with the series. Well, I think the countless times Big's screwed Carrie over would have been clear signs that he's not that into you. Talk about giving girls a false hope. Yes, he'll get married to someone else, dump you twice, cheat on his wife, leave you at the alter, convince you to commit adultery, not introduce you to his mom or friends, constantly keep you in the dark about how he feels, but hey, there still might be a chance for you. Ok, enough of that. Seriously, I did love the movie though.
I know it's only 9:30, but I think I might go to bed. I haven't been sleeping well lately, and I'm exhausted, so I hope that means I'll sleep well tonight. Oh joy, a nice sleep to be excited for work tomorrow! Ugh!
Take care, talk to you all later.
xoxo, Maxi
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 31
I know, I know, I have been ONE BAD BLOGGER lately. But like I said earlier, it’s because the novelty has worn off, and I haven’t had any matches that have excited me. I’ve been on for about a month now, and no real progress to speak of.
Let’s see here. I closed out matches for about a week now. I only have 15 “open” matches, of which I am communicating with 12. Some that I’m “communicating” with, I’d rather not. For example, one of the duds that I went into OC with turned out to be a super email dud. It was so hard to squeak any sort of response back to him, and I’m sure he could notice that because he hasn’t replied back to me either. Fun fat emailed me a while ago for the second time, I haven’t responded back, and he sent me another email today! Yikes! I couldn’t read it at work, so I will be interested in seeing what he has to say. The only one I’m somewhat excited about is the engineer. He is still just as cute and funny as ever. I wrote him a second email back yesterday. But the more I think about it, the more I wonder if it will work. He lives about 1 hour and 45 minutes away, and the more I think about this, the more I don’t think I can literally afford a long distance, driving every weekend relationship. First, the gas alone will send me to the poor house, secondly, when am I going to do anything on my house? I cannot, I repeat CANNOT neglect my house!
I’ll probably open matches up again, but I wanted to take a break, so to speak. Plus, there was the free weekend. Oh, radio guy commented back to my close message “I thought we had potential…” I think he must have been able to log on for the free weekend. He was the one that sent me his email address. Maybe I’ll shoot him an email, we’ll see.
Speaking of emails, I wanted to write a quick update on Major. I finally wrote him an email, (I spent lots of time making sure it wasn’t accusatory, or give him any ultimatums, etc.). Basically I said I was confused as to why he was calling me and wanting me to come out. I really couldn’t tell if it was because he was being nice or whether he really cared for me. I would have liked for us to maintain a relationship, but understand if he doesn’t, given his situation. I thought it was a well written email. He responded with telling me he cared very deeply for me, I helped him through a very rough time in his life. He would like to see me, that’s why he invited me out, but to talk about a future without seeing the whole picture would be premature. He definitely wanted me to come out, meet his daughter, see where he lives, etc. But with that all said, he indicated long distance relationships are tough. It was a very adult response, and he had a lot of valid points. But I don’t really know where I see this going now. I emailed him back and told him I had a lot to think about and would call him, but that was almost a week ago. I just don’t know what I want. I wish it could be easy and simple and he lived here, child and all. But I really don’t see how I can afford to fly out there, and he’s right, long distance relationships are hard, and they’re even harder if you can’t afford to see the person. So, I’m wondering if I just let us be as friends, and who knows, maybe in 6 months, a year’s time, things will be different and if it’s meant to be, then things will work out so that it is. But at least I feel good that I let him know how I felt, and I can’t ever be like “what if?”
Memorial Day weekend was really nice. Had a few cookouts Thursday through Sunday. Then Sunday, I headed to my parents where my parents, aunt, uncle and I went out on the boat on the lake. It was such an amazingly perfect day! I got some serious tan! Woo hoo! I am a sun lover 100%! I actually took work off on Tuesday as well and spent some extra time at the pool. Everyone was commenting about how tan I looked, and for those that know me, saying I look tan is just as good as saying I look skinny or pretty!
xoxo, Maxi
Let’s see here. I closed out matches for about a week now. I only have 15 “open” matches, of which I am communicating with 12. Some that I’m “communicating” with, I’d rather not. For example, one of the duds that I went into OC with turned out to be a super email dud. It was so hard to squeak any sort of response back to him, and I’m sure he could notice that because he hasn’t replied back to me either. Fun fat emailed me a while ago for the second time, I haven’t responded back, and he sent me another email today! Yikes! I couldn’t read it at work, so I will be interested in seeing what he has to say. The only one I’m somewhat excited about is the engineer. He is still just as cute and funny as ever. I wrote him a second email back yesterday. But the more I think about it, the more I wonder if it will work. He lives about 1 hour and 45 minutes away, and the more I think about this, the more I don’t think I can literally afford a long distance, driving every weekend relationship. First, the gas alone will send me to the poor house, secondly, when am I going to do anything on my house? I cannot, I repeat CANNOT neglect my house!
I’ll probably open matches up again, but I wanted to take a break, so to speak. Plus, there was the free weekend. Oh, radio guy commented back to my close message “I thought we had potential…” I think he must have been able to log on for the free weekend. He was the one that sent me his email address. Maybe I’ll shoot him an email, we’ll see.
Speaking of emails, I wanted to write a quick update on Major. I finally wrote him an email, (I spent lots of time making sure it wasn’t accusatory, or give him any ultimatums, etc.). Basically I said I was confused as to why he was calling me and wanting me to come out. I really couldn’t tell if it was because he was being nice or whether he really cared for me. I would have liked for us to maintain a relationship, but understand if he doesn’t, given his situation. I thought it was a well written email. He responded with telling me he cared very deeply for me, I helped him through a very rough time in his life. He would like to see me, that’s why he invited me out, but to talk about a future without seeing the whole picture would be premature. He definitely wanted me to come out, meet his daughter, see where he lives, etc. But with that all said, he indicated long distance relationships are tough. It was a very adult response, and he had a lot of valid points. But I don’t really know where I see this going now. I emailed him back and told him I had a lot to think about and would call him, but that was almost a week ago. I just don’t know what I want. I wish it could be easy and simple and he lived here, child and all. But I really don’t see how I can afford to fly out there, and he’s right, long distance relationships are hard, and they’re even harder if you can’t afford to see the person. So, I’m wondering if I just let us be as friends, and who knows, maybe in 6 months, a year’s time, things will be different and if it’s meant to be, then things will work out so that it is. But at least I feel good that I let him know how I felt, and I can’t ever be like “what if?”
Memorial Day weekend was really nice. Had a few cookouts Thursday through Sunday. Then Sunday, I headed to my parents where my parents, aunt, uncle and I went out on the boat on the lake. It was such an amazingly perfect day! I got some serious tan! Woo hoo! I am a sun lover 100%! I actually took work off on Tuesday as well and spent some extra time at the pool. Everyone was commenting about how tan I looked, and for those that know me, saying I look tan is just as good as saying I look skinny or pretty!
xoxo, Maxi
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 24
Well, here we are... 24 days and Maxi finally entered into Open Communication! I had two outstanding messages since Monday, but I was too afraid to open them and see what they said. I don't know why I'm afraid. It reminds me again of C, who just chickened out altogether. It seems like it's becoming a possibility to meet someone (I don't meet as in "meet" but literally go out and meet someone in person). I read their messages and responded back. But let me tell you, it was really hard. It's really awkward once you're in open communication.
I'm at the stage with the engineer (and no, not on the railroad!) where I have to initiate open communication. But once again, I am really nervous. From what I can gather, he is really great and I'm really excited that I made it to this point with him. So far, we've had great banter in the 2nd questions, and he really is super witty and clever. I just know I want to meet him. I'm really stressing out though, I want to make my first email perfect, so I'm waiting while I think about it. I can't wait too long though, or he'll lose interest. But does anyone else get as stressed out in OC as me? The only problem is he lives far away. But I've been excited about this guy since they matched me up. I bet nothing happens though. Isn't that the way it always goes?
Another question I have, what's the average number of people that eHarmony users have in open communication at any time? It really was a lot harder to get to this point than I thought. I thought I'd be be-bopping all over this thing, which I was, just not be-bopping to OC. It was more of a be-bop straight to the dumping! haha!
Oh, and I have another question! I doubt any of these get answered, but I want to know the protocol. Do we reference eHarmony at all? I mean, in the OC, say something about how it's weird, or how about when/if you meet someone? Do you say something then? I don't know what the proper procedure is.
So many questions. And I'm about done with my first month!
21 current matches (15 in communication)
122 closed matches
I've received 7 matches every day that I've been able to receive them. Over the course of this month, I probably closed down for a total of about 7 or 8 days. Today, I got 9 matches. That was weird. I think I'll close down again. My new matches are not great. They've been really far away and have had less traits that I'm interested in. Besides, the more matches I receive, the more likely it is that I'll know one of them...yikes! But on the other hand, the more I get, the more likely one will be a real match. So, who knows. It's tough navigating this on your own. I really want to know what the people on the other side of the match are doing and thinking!
Tomorrow I have a game night/cook out at a friend's house, so either I won't have time to log on, or I'll be drunk and get into another EWI situation! haha! Better not communicate with anyone I care about if that's the case! Especially not in open communication!
xoxo, Maxi
I'm at the stage with the engineer (and no, not on the railroad!) where I have to initiate open communication. But once again, I am really nervous. From what I can gather, he is really great and I'm really excited that I made it to this point with him. So far, we've had great banter in the 2nd questions, and he really is super witty and clever. I just know I want to meet him. I'm really stressing out though, I want to make my first email perfect, so I'm waiting while I think about it. I can't wait too long though, or he'll lose interest. But does anyone else get as stressed out in OC as me? The only problem is he lives far away. But I've been excited about this guy since they matched me up. I bet nothing happens though. Isn't that the way it always goes?
Another question I have, what's the average number of people that eHarmony users have in open communication at any time? It really was a lot harder to get to this point than I thought. I thought I'd be be-bopping all over this thing, which I was, just not be-bopping to OC. It was more of a be-bop straight to the dumping! haha!
Oh, and I have another question! I doubt any of these get answered, but I want to know the protocol. Do we reference eHarmony at all? I mean, in the OC, say something about how it's weird, or how about when/if you meet someone? Do you say something then? I don't know what the proper procedure is.
So many questions. And I'm about done with my first month!
21 current matches (15 in communication)
122 closed matches
I've received 7 matches every day that I've been able to receive them. Over the course of this month, I probably closed down for a total of about 7 or 8 days. Today, I got 9 matches. That was weird. I think I'll close down again. My new matches are not great. They've been really far away and have had less traits that I'm interested in. Besides, the more matches I receive, the more likely it is that I'll know one of them...yikes! But on the other hand, the more I get, the more likely one will be a real match. So, who knows. It's tough navigating this on your own. I really want to know what the people on the other side of the match are doing and thinking!
Tomorrow I have a game night/cook out at a friend's house, so either I won't have time to log on, or I'll be drunk and get into another EWI situation! haha! Better not communicate with anyone I care about if that's the case! Especially not in open communication!
xoxo, Maxi
Saturday, May 17, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 20
Nothing too much in the eHarmony world. I guess the initial infatuation has worn off, but I'm still on there, receiving matches, closing matches out, and communicating with some.
I thought I was about to enter into open communication (it's been over 2 weeks on eHarmony, and I have yet to make it to that stage yet, I guess just the timing back and forth) but I don't know what happened. I sent second questions, he answered, sent second questions. Then I clicked on "Read Dr. Warren's Message" and then it said "your message has been to sent to ____." I'm so confused without some explanation and details. That is something I really would like to change about eHarmony, is that they'd provide more details on how the communication process works. Fortunately, eHarmony Blog provided me on some insight (as in the person who does not initiate communication must be the first person to send MHCS, and second questions. But what's going on with the open communication. I didn't receive any message from Dr. Warren. Does the other person also have to select to read the message? I can't go anywhere now, when I click on "read Dr. Warren's message" it just says my message was sent to that person on May 15. I just really have no idea what's going on.
Secondly, I find that I'm losing guys at the open question stage. I'm not really sure why. Either I had to send questions first, or they sent to me, I answered and sent ones back, but that's when they're dropping off the face of the earth. I have a few outstanding ones that I'll take care of tomorrow, but it's a little confusing. Are my questions/answers THAT bad? Or is there some sort of glitch in the system? (At least that makes me sleep better at night, thinking it's the system).
So, two guys have been in communication with me that I am super excited about. They are both so funny and cute and I really like their answers and all that. But they are both soooo attractive and fit. This really concerns me. I'm just afraid they'll take one look at me and run. That really won't be too good for the old ego!
Here's my match update (I actually turned off matching this weekend because it's a free communication weekend, and I don't want any Joe Blow seeing me if they're not serious, or just want the free personality profile).
Current matches: 26
In communication: 13 of those above 26. 1 that initiated with me and I haven't responded yet, 5 that I need to do something, and 7 that I'm waiting for.
94 closed: 11 that closed me
One other thing I've learned, is that you shouldn't close someone out just because they hadn't responded yet (like I closed out the police officer after two weeks). You don't want to burn any bridges, because people fall off along the way. And if these people aren't responding because they're too busy, than that's okay. If it's because they aren't members anymore, who knows, they may join again. I haven't closed too many that I regret, but I do regret the police officer.
I have some good options that I'm communicating with right now. A lot of them live about an hour away though. I thought I was okay with that, but now, with the price of gas and the fact I'm always broke anyways, I might have to reconsider.
On a side note, I've been so stressed at work lately, and my face is showing it! Me, who never gets acne, has three zits right now! And it's the cystic acne kind (which if you ever get it, do not, under any circumstances, pop it! It will turn 100x worse) which is so bad, and just proves it's stress, and not that I'm not washing my face. Plus, I don't know if it's this new BC I switched too. I don't know why, but 2 months ago, I decided I wanted to try a new BC. I thought maybe a new one might help with my extra testosterone problem. But instead, all it's done is give me weird periods, and potentially is adding to my face problems. I need to call my doctor and go back to my original kind. The kind that's been true to me for over 5 years.
Well, I guess that's it for now. I'm heading off to get ready to go to Becca's bachelorette party tonight. Should be fun!
xoxo, Max
I thought I was about to enter into open communication (it's been over 2 weeks on eHarmony, and I have yet to make it to that stage yet, I guess just the timing back and forth) but I don't know what happened. I sent second questions, he answered, sent second questions. Then I clicked on "Read Dr. Warren's Message" and then it said "your message has been to sent to ____." I'm so confused without some explanation and details. That is something I really would like to change about eHarmony, is that they'd provide more details on how the communication process works. Fortunately, eHarmony Blog provided me on some insight (as in the person who does not initiate communication must be the first person to send MHCS, and second questions. But what's going on with the open communication. I didn't receive any message from Dr. Warren. Does the other person also have to select to read the message? I can't go anywhere now, when I click on "read Dr. Warren's message" it just says my message was sent to that person on May 15. I just really have no idea what's going on.
Secondly, I find that I'm losing guys at the open question stage. I'm not really sure why. Either I had to send questions first, or they sent to me, I answered and sent ones back, but that's when they're dropping off the face of the earth. I have a few outstanding ones that I'll take care of tomorrow, but it's a little confusing. Are my questions/answers THAT bad? Or is there some sort of glitch in the system? (At least that makes me sleep better at night, thinking it's the system).
So, two guys have been in communication with me that I am super excited about. They are both so funny and cute and I really like their answers and all that. But they are both soooo attractive and fit. This really concerns me. I'm just afraid they'll take one look at me and run. That really won't be too good for the old ego!
Here's my match update (I actually turned off matching this weekend because it's a free communication weekend, and I don't want any Joe Blow seeing me if they're not serious, or just want the free personality profile).
Current matches: 26
In communication: 13 of those above 26. 1 that initiated with me and I haven't responded yet, 5 that I need to do something, and 7 that I'm waiting for.
94 closed: 11 that closed me
One other thing I've learned, is that you shouldn't close someone out just because they hadn't responded yet (like I closed out the police officer after two weeks). You don't want to burn any bridges, because people fall off along the way. And if these people aren't responding because they're too busy, than that's okay. If it's because they aren't members anymore, who knows, they may join again. I haven't closed too many that I regret, but I do regret the police officer.
I have some good options that I'm communicating with right now. A lot of them live about an hour away though. I thought I was okay with that, but now, with the price of gas and the fact I'm always broke anyways, I might have to reconsider.
On a side note, I've been so stressed at work lately, and my face is showing it! Me, who never gets acne, has three zits right now! And it's the cystic acne kind (which if you ever get it, do not, under any circumstances, pop it! It will turn 100x worse) which is so bad, and just proves it's stress, and not that I'm not washing my face. Plus, I don't know if it's this new BC I switched too. I don't know why, but 2 months ago, I decided I wanted to try a new BC. I thought maybe a new one might help with my extra testosterone problem. But instead, all it's done is give me weird periods, and potentially is adding to my face problems. I need to call my doctor and go back to my original kind. The kind that's been true to me for over 5 years.
Well, I guess that's it for now. I'm heading off to get ready to go to Becca's bachelorette party tonight. Should be fun!
xoxo, Max
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day17
Just got off the phone with my friend E's friend C. We had a very long discussion about E's "boyfriend," how we both hate him, he makes people uncomfortable because of the rude things he says about E (in front of us), and how rude and straight up mean he is to her. And we don't know if it's that she doesn't care, or doesn't know, but it's really sad how she has all these excuses for why he treats her so mean. "I deserve it." I CANNOT believe she said that! That really is the sign of an abusive relationship when you start believing the terrible things the abuser says. C and I are really close to calling an intervention!
C and I were talking, because I finally told E how I felt. C's been wanting to say something for years, and now feels like she can, since I broke the ice. But this is what was interesting, she said "I always feel like I can't say something about some one's boyfriend unless I have a boyfriend, because they'll just think I'm jealous." And she really hit the nail on the head. It doesn't matter that the guy treats you poorly, or that he doesn't have a job, or is an alcoholic, or is married, or is just a straight up douche-bag loser, you don't like him because you're jealous. People in relationships can be so self-righteous!
Well, anyways, the point is, after we talked about not having boyfriends, I made a joke about how I was about ready to sign up for eHarmony (as of now, only Cat knows, and she's been sworn to blood sister secrecy!). Turns out C signed up for eHarmony earlier this year, and she regaled me of her experience! Turns out, it was very similar to mine. She got tons of matches, tons of communications, a few closes, and zero dates. Well, actually, she ended up deleting out her photos and profile information and basically chickening out, but her stories were so classic! She actually even had gone out with someone previously that she got matched up with. He closed her out pronto with "other." C said "I guess 'I already went out with and slept with her' wasn't an option!" Haha! Anyways, she said she was so paranoid on her way to work. If anyone even looked at her "did they get matched up with me and dump me?" "Do they recognize me and think 'geez, she looks so much better in her picture?'" I mean, it is EXACTLY what I had joked about with Cat. She thinks she might sign back up again, and this time take it seriously. Oh, one more thing she mentioned, was the matches getting out of control. Like me, she said there were just too many. One day, she actually had to go in and close out 85 of them to get her matches under control. But it was shortly thereafter that she was just too chicken and overwhelmed, that she just closed everything out.
So, even though C does not know that I signed up, I took her testimony to heart, and went in and closed out everyone! And I mean everyone! I have only 16 active matches right now. I even closed out police officer and no picture/now picture because it's been about 2 weeks with no response from them. I also closed out 5 of the 7 matches I received today. I now have 76 closed matches! But I feel good. I feel like I cleaned up a lot of the riff raff. And by riff raff, I mean those that are not active profiles and those that I'm not interested in. Unfortunately there were a few cute ones, but hey, they're gone now! Then, in the spirit of cleaning everything up, I made my communication with all those that were outstanding. I even sent second questions to a few guys, and I actually have second questions from a few as well. This is getting serious folks, the time for open communication is almost upon us. I can see why C chickened out. I don't know if I can do it. Can I actually meet someone at the trite Starbucks and order a tall soy, double espresso, light latte? (I actually don't drink coffee, so what am I going to have, a diet coke? Please.). But let's be honest for a second, Maxi needs booze on a first date. I can't be meeting someone on Sunday afternoon for a coffee. I need to get happy hour drinks after work to loosen up a little.
Back to my current communications. I think one of the guys I'm about to get into open communication with is serious! Let me post some items from his profile:
30 and in the one of the Armed Forces (one thing I learned from Major, military men are serious family guys).
"...can't wait until my own family is my absolute passion."
"I am looking for a woman that completes me"-this one actually makes me gag
"Relationships are really important to me"
His MH - "I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children."
Maxi is nervous here guys. I think we have another Gorilla Arms (a guy that used to work in my office and was like "have job, have 4 bedroom suburban family home, enter wife, 2.5 kids, and dog here" Wait, actually, he already had a dog) on our hands here. I know I'm probably getting way ahead of myself here. Chances are pretty good that either a) we'll never meet, b) we will meet but he won't be up for boozing on the first night, and will be turned off that that's what I want, c) he'll take one look at me and be like "Um, what part of 'I enjoy being physically fit' made you think I'll date someone who needs to drop a quick 40?' or d) "it" just won't be there if we do meet. One thing I love is to worry about things that most likely never happen (was that on my eHarmony questionnaire?)
I'm logging off for now. Have a great night, and I'll talk to you tomorrow.
xoxo, Maxine
C and I were talking, because I finally told E how I felt. C's been wanting to say something for years, and now feels like she can, since I broke the ice. But this is what was interesting, she said "I always feel like I can't say something about some one's boyfriend unless I have a boyfriend, because they'll just think I'm jealous." And she really hit the nail on the head. It doesn't matter that the guy treats you poorly, or that he doesn't have a job, or is an alcoholic, or is married, or is just a straight up douche-bag loser, you don't like him because you're jealous. People in relationships can be so self-righteous!
Well, anyways, the point is, after we talked about not having boyfriends, I made a joke about how I was about ready to sign up for eHarmony (as of now, only Cat knows, and she's been sworn to blood sister secrecy!). Turns out C signed up for eHarmony earlier this year, and she regaled me of her experience! Turns out, it was very similar to mine. She got tons of matches, tons of communications, a few closes, and zero dates. Well, actually, she ended up deleting out her photos and profile information and basically chickening out, but her stories were so classic! She actually even had gone out with someone previously that she got matched up with. He closed her out pronto with "other." C said "I guess 'I already went out with and slept with her' wasn't an option!" Haha! Anyways, she said she was so paranoid on her way to work. If anyone even looked at her "did they get matched up with me and dump me?" "Do they recognize me and think 'geez, she looks so much better in her picture?'" I mean, it is EXACTLY what I had joked about with Cat. She thinks she might sign back up again, and this time take it seriously. Oh, one more thing she mentioned, was the matches getting out of control. Like me, she said there were just too many. One day, she actually had to go in and close out 85 of them to get her matches under control. But it was shortly thereafter that she was just too chicken and overwhelmed, that she just closed everything out.
So, even though C does not know that I signed up, I took her testimony to heart, and went in and closed out everyone! And I mean everyone! I have only 16 active matches right now. I even closed out police officer and no picture/now picture because it's been about 2 weeks with no response from them. I also closed out 5 of the 7 matches I received today. I now have 76 closed matches! But I feel good. I feel like I cleaned up a lot of the riff raff. And by riff raff, I mean those that are not active profiles and those that I'm not interested in. Unfortunately there were a few cute ones, but hey, they're gone now! Then, in the spirit of cleaning everything up, I made my communication with all those that were outstanding. I even sent second questions to a few guys, and I actually have second questions from a few as well. This is getting serious folks, the time for open communication is almost upon us. I can see why C chickened out. I don't know if I can do it. Can I actually meet someone at the trite Starbucks and order a tall soy, double espresso, light latte? (I actually don't drink coffee, so what am I going to have, a diet coke? Please.). But let's be honest for a second, Maxi needs booze on a first date. I can't be meeting someone on Sunday afternoon for a coffee. I need to get happy hour drinks after work to loosen up a little.
Back to my current communications. I think one of the guys I'm about to get into open communication with is serious! Let me post some items from his profile:
30 and in the one of the Armed Forces (one thing I learned from Major, military men are serious family guys).
"...can't wait until my own family is my absolute passion."
"I am looking for a woman that completes me"-this one actually makes me gag
"Relationships are really important to me"
His MH - "I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children."
Maxi is nervous here guys. I think we have another Gorilla Arms (a guy that used to work in my office and was like "have job, have 4 bedroom suburban family home, enter wife, 2.5 kids, and dog here" Wait, actually, he already had a dog) on our hands here. I know I'm probably getting way ahead of myself here. Chances are pretty good that either a) we'll never meet, b) we will meet but he won't be up for boozing on the first night, and will be turned off that that's what I want, c) he'll take one look at me and be like "Um, what part of 'I enjoy being physically fit' made you think I'll date someone who needs to drop a quick 40?' or d) "it" just won't be there if we do meet. One thing I love is to worry about things that most likely never happen (was that on my eHarmony questionnaire?)
I'm logging off for now. Have a great night, and I'll talk to you tomorrow.
xoxo, Maxine
Monday, May 12, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 16
Well, here it is, a little over 2 weeks, and no dates, nothing even too exciting. I have tons of open communication, some that I'm excited about, some, I'm not. More that I've closed, some (around 5) that have closed me. I'm starting to wonder if I'll even get 1 date out of this 3-month subscription.
Any thoughts on this? What's better... To be rejected from the get-go, or to go through a few stages, then reject?
I'm trying not to be close minded, but I feel like there's a difference between not thinking someone is "hot," and just getting that creepy feeling of just pure unattraction. Those are the ones I'm closing out. In fact, I will let you know, I have left several open and am communicating with some that I don't find overly attractive (watch one of them be the one I marry! haha), but they didn't give me that instant creep vibe. To some extent, you have to be attracted to your partner, regardless of what's on the inside, and if someone makes you vomit a bit inside when you look at their picture (and honestly, some that gave me this feeling were by society standards "attractive"). I think that's one thing I've definitely learned through this process, is that attraction to someone is an instant feeling you get when you look at them. And I think you shouldn't be repulsed when you look at someone. I know that sounds terribly bitchy and shallow, but in my defense, there are some ugly people out there that I don't get repulsed by. It's just an instant feeling that you get, and I think that is important. Actually, the more I think about this, I think the Date Doctor that I saw a few months ago said something to that effect. I don't remember what all he said, but that attraction was what made you want to talk to someone, and chemistry is what keeps you talking to someone. I guess eHarmony is trying to say all these people they match you with, you should have "chemistry" with, now you just have to find the ones that you are attracted to.
The more I am on eHarmony, the more I hate people that don't post pictures. Okay, it's fine if you hold off for a little while, but if you are initiating the conversation, then show your pictures!
Ok, so today I actually got 8 matches. 3 of these 8 started communication. One had a son, and I think I'm really thankful that Major showed me not to discard someone because they were divorced and had kids. That definitely used to be a deal breaker, and I think I'm more open to it now, and that's especially important with the whole eHarmony thing, were you shouldn't just close people off because of one trait (even though I did just expound on the whole looks thing and just closing out left and right, haha). I did close out one. Gosh, I love the "I think the physical distance is to great." I did close someone else out I was talking to due to their response "...everyone needs there..." Ugh.
So, here's the update:
32 current matches
18 in communication (out of those 32)
53 closed.
So, I have received 85 matches, and have closed over 60% of them. I guess that sounds about right. If not more should be closed out. I think out of every 10 people you see, maybe you're only really attracted to 2 of them. Uh oh, does that mean I need to go in and close out 15 of those that are left? Because I could easily do that!
Something else I've learned through this process, is you don't have to go out with everyone. I guess for the past few years, I've gone out with just about anyone who asks me out. I always figured "how are you going to know unless you give them a chance?" But this is the difference, you know straight up if there's something about the guy that you just aren't going to like, and you don't have to go out with them to find out whatever it is. I do like this about eHarmony. Otherwise, I might almost bet that I'd go out with all 85 of my matches (well, only 80, 5 did close me out).
xoxo, Maxi
Any thoughts on this? What's better... To be rejected from the get-go, or to go through a few stages, then reject?
I'm trying not to be close minded, but I feel like there's a difference between not thinking someone is "hot," and just getting that creepy feeling of just pure unattraction. Those are the ones I'm closing out. In fact, I will let you know, I have left several open and am communicating with some that I don't find overly attractive (watch one of them be the one I marry! haha), but they didn't give me that instant creep vibe. To some extent, you have to be attracted to your partner, regardless of what's on the inside, and if someone makes you vomit a bit inside when you look at their picture (and honestly, some that gave me this feeling were by society standards "attractive"). I think that's one thing I've definitely learned through this process, is that attraction to someone is an instant feeling you get when you look at them. And I think you shouldn't be repulsed when you look at someone. I know that sounds terribly bitchy and shallow, but in my defense, there are some ugly people out there that I don't get repulsed by. It's just an instant feeling that you get, and I think that is important. Actually, the more I think about this, I think the Date Doctor that I saw a few months ago said something to that effect. I don't remember what all he said, but that attraction was what made you want to talk to someone, and chemistry is what keeps you talking to someone. I guess eHarmony is trying to say all these people they match you with, you should have "chemistry" with, now you just have to find the ones that you are attracted to.
The more I am on eHarmony, the more I hate people that don't post pictures. Okay, it's fine if you hold off for a little while, but if you are initiating the conversation, then show your pictures!
Ok, so today I actually got 8 matches. 3 of these 8 started communication. One had a son, and I think I'm really thankful that Major showed me not to discard someone because they were divorced and had kids. That definitely used to be a deal breaker, and I think I'm more open to it now, and that's especially important with the whole eHarmony thing, were you shouldn't just close people off because of one trait (even though I did just expound on the whole looks thing and just closing out left and right, haha). I did close out one. Gosh, I love the "I think the physical distance is to great." I did close someone else out I was talking to due to their response "...everyone needs there..." Ugh.
So, here's the update:
32 current matches
18 in communication (out of those 32)
53 closed.
So, I have received 85 matches, and have closed over 60% of them. I guess that sounds about right. If not more should be closed out. I think out of every 10 people you see, maybe you're only really attracted to 2 of them. Uh oh, does that mean I need to go in and close out 15 of those that are left? Because I could easily do that!
Something else I've learned through this process, is you don't have to go out with everyone. I guess for the past few years, I've gone out with just about anyone who asks me out. I always figured "how are you going to know unless you give them a chance?" But this is the difference, you know straight up if there's something about the guy that you just aren't going to like, and you don't have to go out with them to find out whatever it is. I do like this about eHarmony. Otherwise, I might almost bet that I'd go out with all 85 of my matches (well, only 80, 5 did close me out).
xoxo, Maxi
Thursday, May 8, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 11
In the harsh light of reality (aka the computer screen), I logged back into eHarmony to see what mess Cat and I had made last night.
22 current matches - 7 of which were new matches today.
12 of whom I am in communication with - only 3 of which Cat and I initiated last night, so that's not as bad as I originally feared.
34 of which are closed.
I'm not going to do any answering or anything like that tonight, I need to decide if I'm going to visit Coach or not. So, check this, he conveniently forgot to tell me he has a roommate at the hotel! Please, I am too old. I told him "no, no way, sorry but no." And he got really upset. I can't believe he thinks I'm going to go when he has a roommate! Seriously! Anyways, so I am going to look and see how much rooms are and debate whether he's worth it. Point being, I may or may not log back in, depending on whether I see Coach or not.
And for the record, no, I do not need to get laid that badly!
xoxo, Maxi
22 current matches - 7 of which were new matches today.
12 of whom I am in communication with - only 3 of which Cat and I initiated last night, so that's not as bad as I originally feared.
34 of which are closed.
I'm not going to do any answering or anything like that tonight, I need to decide if I'm going to visit Coach or not. So, check this, he conveniently forgot to tell me he has a roommate at the hotel! Please, I am too old. I told him "no, no way, sorry but no." And he got really upset. I can't believe he thinks I'm going to go when he has a roommate! Seriously! Anyways, so I am going to look and see how much rooms are and debate whether he's worth it. Point being, I may or may not log back in, depending on whether I see Coach or not.
And for the record, no, I do not need to get laid that badly!
xoxo, Maxi
EWI
I have been charged with eHarmony-ing While Intoxicated!
Yesterday, we had a work happy hour from 4 to 6. Cat and I stayed until about 8, then came over to my house to have wine and look at eHarmony! I was glad for Cat to finally see everyone and just get a feel for the site. Since Cat had nothing to lose, and since I was highly buzzing, we went to town on all my matches, either starting communication, responding to communication, or closing everyone out. As of yesterday, I had 49 ...
Ok, I have to break my usual post with a news update! Last night, after happy hour, Cat and I came into the office to put the extra food away, and apparently OC was still here! The whole office was dark, and we were talking very loudly. OC's cube is right next to the kitchen. This morning, OC made a comment about something we said last night, so I know he was here. I don't know what all he heard, I don't remember how long we were in the office, but Cat and I are both extremely embarrassed because I'm sure we were talking about personal stuff. I'm sure I mentioned eHarmony. Shit Shit Shit! He won't tell us what all he knows, but Cat and I both freaked out when we found out. We may have even said something about him! I mean, I can't even describe the true fear I feel right now that our dirty laundry is going to be airing all over the office. No, OC's not like that, but still, if he knows I'm on eHarmony...If he knows who Cat's crush at the office is...if he knows who my crush is...did we talk about sex? Probably! This is bad, very very bad!
Ok, back to the regularly scheduled blog...I had 49 matches, and I think we closed out about 35 of them. I did get 7 new matches yesterday. They weren't that great, but they were tall, which is an improvement. I think I closed all of them out! Haha! Just things they said in their profile, and like I said, Cat was ruthless. I already got 7 more this morning, and what's peculiar is two, both from today, are brewery engineers. I just think it's weird that I get a lot of these people that have the same jobs, like the College Administrator. I still don't even know what that means. Anyways, this morning, some of the guys wrote back already. I can't log on until I get home, so I'll just have to be in suspense all day!
On a side note though, Coach is going to be relatively in town this weekend. I guess there's a AAU basketball tournament in a city about 1 hour away and he's going as a recruiting even. Of course he wants to meet up. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I know he's going to want to sleep with me. A lot of the same feelings I felt when I went up to visit him for NYE are coming back. I probably will see him, but it's going to be like me driving there, just to spend the night, just to drive back the next day. Is it even worth it? And am I leading him on? Does this make me a slut? Just going to him for booty? I mean, at least my number doesn't go up, but... Am I going to be upset afterwards? And what about Major? Will it be like he never even happened? I know I'm way over thinking all this, but that's what I do.
Major did call last night, as usual. But by this point, I don't really need the phone calls anymore. I wonder why he's still calling.
xoxo, Maxi
Yesterday, we had a work happy hour from 4 to 6. Cat and I stayed until about 8, then came over to my house to have wine and look at eHarmony! I was glad for Cat to finally see everyone and just get a feel for the site. Since Cat had nothing to lose, and since I was highly buzzing, we went to town on all my matches, either starting communication, responding to communication, or closing everyone out. As of yesterday, I had 49 ...
Ok, I have to break my usual post with a news update! Last night, after happy hour, Cat and I came into the office to put the extra food away, and apparently OC was still here! The whole office was dark, and we were talking very loudly. OC's cube is right next to the kitchen. This morning, OC made a comment about something we said last night, so I know he was here. I don't know what all he heard, I don't remember how long we were in the office, but Cat and I are both extremely embarrassed because I'm sure we were talking about personal stuff. I'm sure I mentioned eHarmony. Shit Shit Shit! He won't tell us what all he knows, but Cat and I both freaked out when we found out. We may have even said something about him! I mean, I can't even describe the true fear I feel right now that our dirty laundry is going to be airing all over the office. No, OC's not like that, but still, if he knows I'm on eHarmony...If he knows who Cat's crush at the office is...if he knows who my crush is...did we talk about sex? Probably! This is bad, very very bad!
Ok, back to the regularly scheduled blog...I had 49 matches, and I think we closed out about 35 of them. I did get 7 new matches yesterday. They weren't that great, but they were tall, which is an improvement. I think I closed all of them out! Haha! Just things they said in their profile, and like I said, Cat was ruthless. I already got 7 more this morning, and what's peculiar is two, both from today, are brewery engineers. I just think it's weird that I get a lot of these people that have the same jobs, like the College Administrator. I still don't even know what that means. Anyways, this morning, some of the guys wrote back already. I can't log on until I get home, so I'll just have to be in suspense all day!
On a side note though, Coach is going to be relatively in town this weekend. I guess there's a AAU basketball tournament in a city about 1 hour away and he's going as a recruiting even. Of course he wants to meet up. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I know he's going to want to sleep with me. A lot of the same feelings I felt when I went up to visit him for NYE are coming back. I probably will see him, but it's going to be like me driving there, just to spend the night, just to drive back the next day. Is it even worth it? And am I leading him on? Does this make me a slut? Just going to him for booty? I mean, at least my number doesn't go up, but... Am I going to be upset afterwards? And what about Major? Will it be like he never even happened? I know I'm way over thinking all this, but that's what I do.
Major did call last night, as usual. But by this point, I don't really need the phone calls anymore. I wonder why he's still calling.
xoxo, Maxi
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
I'm one brazen eHarmony Hussy!
Haha, not really, but I just wanted to log back in real quick to write this update. I initiated conversation with someone! Haha! There we go! I made the first move. There was just something about his profile. So, we shall see. Plus, this will answer a lot of my other questions about the communication process. If he sends questions back, will I be able to send MHCS, or does he (as I felt like I had to when they guy initiated). So many questions!! Why is this so stressful!!?
I wonder if he's not active anymore, does he still get updates saying communication wants to talk to him?
I wonder if he's not active anymore, does he still get updates saying communication wants to talk to him?
eHarmon-me: Day 10
This morning, everything was back to normal, my inbox was filled with 7 new matches, and one request for communication. These matches were all pretty normal. I wasn't thrilled with the location though, only 2 lived in the city that I did, the rest were 30 minutes to 3 hours away!
While I was bee bopping around on eHarmony, apparently a match closed me out! I went to the "communicating" matches, and one said "read closed message." I don't know how long it was there. I didn't receive an email, and it wasn't on an update or anything like that when I logged on. It wasn't that big of a loss, he was 5'8", which means he was probably 5'6", but he was okay other than that. If he had initiated something, I probably would have responded.
Oh, and I didn't get an option to send him a good bye message back, so there goes that theory about those other guys not being active members, that's why they didn't send the good bye message back. But since I actively closed him out, does he get an email like "Match received communication" letting him know I closed him out, but that's it? So many questions!!! And really, the only way to know is to be communicating online with someone you talk to in real life!
So, I wrote questions back to no picture/now picture guy. Still no word from police officer. I can only imagine he's pursuing some other girl now, or his subscription expired. That's too bad. Makes me kind of sad.
In other news, my TV is still on the fritz. I put in a DVD and that sounds fine, so it's definitely the cable. I don't have time to have the cable guy come out here. On one hand I think it's good it's out so I can do some work, which I need to do. But don't worry, I got my Hills in last night, I went over to Cheer's house, so that crisis was averted!
And just as a side note, comments from random people are MORE than welcome!
Open matches: 24
Communicating: 8
Ones that I'm actually communicating back with: 4
Closed: 18
Total Matches Received: 42
xoxo, Maxi
While I was bee bopping around on eHarmony, apparently a match closed me out! I went to the "communicating" matches, and one said "read closed message." I don't know how long it was there. I didn't receive an email, and it wasn't on an update or anything like that when I logged on. It wasn't that big of a loss, he was 5'8", which means he was probably 5'6", but he was okay other than that. If he had initiated something, I probably would have responded.
Oh, and I didn't get an option to send him a good bye message back, so there goes that theory about those other guys not being active members, that's why they didn't send the good bye message back. But since I actively closed him out, does he get an email like "Match received communication" letting him know I closed him out, but that's it? So many questions!!! And really, the only way to know is to be communicating online with someone you talk to in real life!
So, I wrote questions back to no picture/now picture guy. Still no word from police officer. I can only imagine he's pursuing some other girl now, or his subscription expired. That's too bad. Makes me kind of sad.
In other news, my TV is still on the fritz. I put in a DVD and that sounds fine, so it's definitely the cable. I don't have time to have the cable guy come out here. On one hand I think it's good it's out so I can do some work, which I need to do. But don't worry, I got my Hills in last night, I went over to Cheer's house, so that crisis was averted!
And just as a side note, comments from random people are MORE than welcome!
Open matches: 24
Communicating: 8
Ones that I'm actually communicating back with: 4
Closed: 18
Total Matches Received: 42
xoxo, Maxi
Monday, May 5, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 9
I think it's day 9 anyways...
Let me start off by saying how much of a cliche I feel like right now. I'm sitting at home, in mismatched PJ's, freshly scrubbed face, hair in a ponytail, eating a lean cuisine for dinner, blogging, and checking eHarmony. If I'm not the poster child for stereotypical single white female, then I don't know what is...oh wait, I think I need to get a cat.
Anyways, let me start off with some super exciting news! My shed was demolished today! I hired some guy for $300 to come and tear it down. Since the city will haul away for free, I just needed him to stack it neatly in the back. My new shed is coming Wednesday, but I need my dad to come into town to help me put it up, so right now, I have a huge dirt spot in my back yard, and all my tools, lawn mower, etc., sitting on my back porch. But the point is, I am well on my way to having that shed gone from my life! Like it never existed to begin with!
In other exciting news, I saw MK at lunch today, and for the very first time, was able to glance at his left hand which DEFINITELY did NOT have a wedding band on! That was all that happened. I saw him eating his lunch in the courtyard. He was looking mighty fine in his suit, but of course, there was no interaction. Unfortunately I didn't see him until after Cat and I sat down, or else, I'd have chosen to sit near him, so that we could strike up some friendly banter. Or maybe it's best I didn't sit next to him, so I can pretend he would have talked to me. Now, I'll never know. Gee, I really am a freshman in love with the senior quarterback!
Ok, time for the eHarmony update! Today was the first time I've logged in since Thursday.
Still no word from the police officer! I can't believe it! Is he rejecting me??!!! I guess now I understand why people get insulted when they get rejected before the person even gets to know them, but I guess that is the problem with online dating. I almost feel like you get rejected more often online than you would in real life. But anyways, maybe he's really busy. Maybe it's legit. Maybe he's playing the game too. What I like to think is he's taking the time to answer my awesome questions with perfect answers, and then think of fabulous questions for me! And I'm clinging to that. De'Nile isn't just some river in Egypt my friends!
Ok, back to the other guys. I received some answers from one guy, but it took him about a week to answer. Then, the guy with no picture sent his MHCS back to me. His picture finally appeared. He's actually pretty cute. Very GQ, very manly, beefy, just the way I like them! But I guess now I have to write him some second questions.
Oh, and Radio answered my questions, but in one of them he wrote "Hey Maxi, nice getting to know you, but my eHarmony subscription is going to end in a few days. If you'd like to email me, it's _____." Of course I immediately tried to find him on myspace, but to no avail. Anyways, I don't know what I think about that. Interesting.
I still have some outstanding communications, but now that I know they never remove your profile, I think I just won't answer, and have the guys think I'm no longer active. Then, they can close me out, and I don't have to feel badly anymore for closing out people left and right.
And last, but not least, I turned matching back to on. I was surprised they didn't immediately send me matches, but we'll see what I have tomorrow, if anything.
I think I'll think of some great questions for no picture/now has picture guy, see what people think about Radio, and hope for the best with police officer. The other guy, I think I'll wait a few days, then send him my MHCS.
I wish eHarmony would tell you the last time someone logged on.
Oh! So, my TV isn't working, or something! I just tried to turn it on (only adding to the SWF stereotype, maybe I need to get some ice cream too). And my volume is coming in terribly, like the speaker blew out. But when I turn cable off and just turn to regular TV, it's fine. I am SOOOOOOOOO pissed right now! Where am I going to watch "The Hills??" Agh! I am starting to FREAK OUT!!!
$#%^*@!, Maxi
Let me start off by saying how much of a cliche I feel like right now. I'm sitting at home, in mismatched PJ's, freshly scrubbed face, hair in a ponytail, eating a lean cuisine for dinner, blogging, and checking eHarmony. If I'm not the poster child for stereotypical single white female, then I don't know what is...oh wait, I think I need to get a cat.
Anyways, let me start off with some super exciting news! My shed was demolished today! I hired some guy for $300 to come and tear it down. Since the city will haul away for free, I just needed him to stack it neatly in the back. My new shed is coming Wednesday, but I need my dad to come into town to help me put it up, so right now, I have a huge dirt spot in my back yard, and all my tools, lawn mower, etc., sitting on my back porch. But the point is, I am well on my way to having that shed gone from my life! Like it never existed to begin with!
In other exciting news, I saw MK at lunch today, and for the very first time, was able to glance at his left hand which DEFINITELY did NOT have a wedding band on! That was all that happened. I saw him eating his lunch in the courtyard. He was looking mighty fine in his suit, but of course, there was no interaction. Unfortunately I didn't see him until after Cat and I sat down, or else, I'd have chosen to sit near him, so that we could strike up some friendly banter. Or maybe it's best I didn't sit next to him, so I can pretend he would have talked to me. Now, I'll never know. Gee, I really am a freshman in love with the senior quarterback!
Ok, time for the eHarmony update! Today was the first time I've logged in since Thursday.
Still no word from the police officer! I can't believe it! Is he rejecting me??!!! I guess now I understand why people get insulted when they get rejected before the person even gets to know them, but I guess that is the problem with online dating. I almost feel like you get rejected more often online than you would in real life. But anyways, maybe he's really busy. Maybe it's legit. Maybe he's playing the game too. What I like to think is he's taking the time to answer my awesome questions with perfect answers, and then think of fabulous questions for me! And I'm clinging to that. De'Nile isn't just some river in Egypt my friends!
Ok, back to the other guys. I received some answers from one guy, but it took him about a week to answer. Then, the guy with no picture sent his MHCS back to me. His picture finally appeared. He's actually pretty cute. Very GQ, very manly, beefy, just the way I like them! But I guess now I have to write him some second questions.
Oh, and Radio answered my questions, but in one of them he wrote "Hey Maxi, nice getting to know you, but my eHarmony subscription is going to end in a few days. If you'd like to email me, it's _____." Of course I immediately tried to find him on myspace, but to no avail. Anyways, I don't know what I think about that. Interesting.
I still have some outstanding communications, but now that I know they never remove your profile, I think I just won't answer, and have the guys think I'm no longer active. Then, they can close me out, and I don't have to feel badly anymore for closing out people left and right.
And last, but not least, I turned matching back to on. I was surprised they didn't immediately send me matches, but we'll see what I have tomorrow, if anything.
I think I'll think of some great questions for no picture/now has picture guy, see what people think about Radio, and hope for the best with police officer. The other guy, I think I'll wait a few days, then send him my MHCS.
I wish eHarmony would tell you the last time someone logged on.
Oh! So, my TV isn't working, or something! I just tried to turn it on (only adding to the SWF stereotype, maybe I need to get some ice cream too). And my volume is coming in terribly, like the speaker blew out. But when I turn cable off and just turn to regular TV, it's fine. I am SOOOOOOOOO pissed right now! Where am I going to watch "The Hills??" Agh! I am starting to FREAK OUT!!!
$#%^*@!, Maxi
Thursday, May 1, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 5
Today's update will be pretty short. I didn't have the usual flood of emails into my inbox since I had turned matching off for awhile. Also, if I read correctly on eHarmony Blog, the person who initiates communication has to be the first to answer open ended questions, so I sent police officer some questions.
Let me tell you, thinking of good questions was stressful! There was a list you could choose from, but they were very serious, and marriage-oriented. I thought I did okay. We'll see what happens. I'm still waiting to hear back from two other guys. I think I'll see how next week goes, then maybe turn matching back on if I haven't heard anything.
On a side note, back to Major. He's been calling every other day. I wonder if he's trying to wean me off. As I sort of mentioned in my Day 1 Blog, last Sunday I had a lot to drink and decided to call Major. I talked to him about going and visiting. I said I didn't think I'd be able to get out there for a couple of months, and perhaps by the time I got out there, he'd be seeing someone, and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to come visit. His response was just "I doubt that" and sort of laughed. But he didn't say anything about me being the only one for him, or something like that. Then, I said I really missed him. I wasn't expecting "I love you Maxi. I think we should be serious and try this long distance." But I certainly wasn't expecting "thank you." That really hurt. Hence the reason I joined eHarmony to begin with. I was feeling rather fragile! But anyways, the calls are coming every other day now, instead of every day. And our conversations are quite shorter. I think it's time to let go. I do think he's just calling either out of habit, or because he's lonely. Either way, it's not an ideal foundation for a relationship.
xoxo, Maxi
Let me tell you, thinking of good questions was stressful! There was a list you could choose from, but they were very serious, and marriage-oriented. I thought I did okay. We'll see what happens. I'm still waiting to hear back from two other guys. I think I'll see how next week goes, then maybe turn matching back on if I haven't heard anything.
On a side note, back to Major. He's been calling every other day. I wonder if he's trying to wean me off. As I sort of mentioned in my Day 1 Blog, last Sunday I had a lot to drink and decided to call Major. I talked to him about going and visiting. I said I didn't think I'd be able to get out there for a couple of months, and perhaps by the time I got out there, he'd be seeing someone, and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to come visit. His response was just "I doubt that" and sort of laughed. But he didn't say anything about me being the only one for him, or something like that. Then, I said I really missed him. I wasn't expecting "I love you Maxi. I think we should be serious and try this long distance." But I certainly wasn't expecting "thank you." That really hurt. Hence the reason I joined eHarmony to begin with. I was feeling rather fragile! But anyways, the calls are coming every other day now, instead of every day. And our conversations are quite shorter. I think it's time to let go. I do think he's just calling either out of habit, or because he's lonely. Either way, it's not an ideal foundation for a relationship.
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Blog Update
First, I want to say thank you to eHarmony Blog. I noticed today that you took the time to answer all my questions, and it was very much appreciated! When I get home, I can't wait to log onto your blog and see what all it's about. Unfortunately, I can get away with this mini blog while at work, but don't think I can get away with hours of reading blogs, when I should be working!
I do have another question then, if you'll be so kind as to answer (provided you read this).
As you've read, Radio answered my questions. Whose court is the ball in now? Do I have to make the next move? Or can either of us? And same with the police officer. He sent back his must haves/can't stands. I notice when I log in that it suggests for me to send second questions. Is he getting the same notice, or does he have to wait for me?
Thank you!
xoxo, Maxi
I do have another question then, if you'll be so kind as to answer (provided you read this).
As you've read, Radio answered my questions. Whose court is the ball in now? Do I have to make the next move? Or can either of us? And same with the police officer. He sent back his must haves/can't stands. I notice when I log in that it suggests for me to send second questions. Is he getting the same notice, or does he have to wait for me?
Thank you!
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Day 4
I know I'm posting this a little late, but I didn't have time yesterday to update you. Of course I received the usual 7 matches in the morning.
Open: 18
In communication: 7
Closed: 17
Total matches received: 35
I felt like the matches were getting out of control, and I was just closing everyone, and was getting confused as to who was who, so I turned my matching status to "off." This means I won't receive any new matches until I change it back.
This makes me wonder something else. All the matches that haven't responded. Are their matches getting out of control as well? That's why they don't have time respond?
The police officer sent his must haves/can't stands back. And I received answers from one of the guys (the radio broadcaster) I was waiting for. But now I don't know who makes the next move. Technically for the police officer, I should send him my second questions. I haven't explored that yet, so I don't know what they are. And with Radio, I need to send my must haves. It seems like the person who makes the first communication gets it easy. The other person has to continue after that. I think I'm going to hold off for a little while and see if any of them respond back.
So, I didn't do anything last night other than log in, close some matches, and turn my match preference to "off."
xoxo, Maxi
Open: 18
In communication: 7
Closed: 17
Total matches received: 35
I felt like the matches were getting out of control, and I was just closing everyone, and was getting confused as to who was who, so I turned my matching status to "off." This means I won't receive any new matches until I change it back.
This makes me wonder something else. All the matches that haven't responded. Are their matches getting out of control as well? That's why they don't have time respond?
The police officer sent his must haves/can't stands back. And I received answers from one of the guys (the radio broadcaster) I was waiting for. But now I don't know who makes the next move. Technically for the police officer, I should send him my second questions. I haven't explored that yet, so I don't know what they are. And with Radio, I need to send my must haves. It seems like the person who makes the first communication gets it easy. The other person has to continue after that. I think I'm going to hold off for a little while and see if any of them respond back.
So, I didn't do anything last night other than log in, close some matches, and turn my match preference to "off."
xoxo, Maxi
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 3
This morning, when I checked my email at work, I found 7 new matches, 0 requests for communication from these new matches, and 2 that had answered my questions that I posed back for them.
When I got home and logged on, I found the matches were pretty true to form. The usual 50/25/25. 50% with no photos, 25% I was not attracted to in the least, and 25% okay. I had a lot of "students" this time and I am not interested in a student, unless it says law student. One was actually, and he was a hottie, but no communication requests from him. Also, I was back to the shorties again (as in they are all coincidentally 5'8").
eHarmony Conclusion 1: Short men love eHarmony.
What bothers me the most about this, is most likely, they are lying about their height. For every guy that says he's 5'8", I'm betting he's more like 5'6".
I closed out the ones that I just was not attractive to. I read the answers from the two that replied back. One was the police officer that I found cute from the other day. I sent him my must haves/can't stands. The other, I'm still a little hesitant on, because he's the one that hasn't shown his picture. I think I'll wait this one out a little bit.
I don't have responses from the other two that I sent questions back to. So, either they just haven't logged on yet, or they didn't like my answers. But seriously, how much are guys looking at those answers? I seriously doubt they're ruling girls out based on their answers. If the girl's mildly attractive, he's probably meeting up with her and then going from there.
So, I decided to search for new matches. I received 7 new ones. They really love 7 at a time, and the demographics fit the same 50/25/25. Just for kicks, I ran the search for new matches again, and they said they didn't have any new matches. But you know what, I guarantee I have 7 new matches when I wake up tomorrow.
Right now, I have 28 total matches. 18 that are open. 7 of which I am in communication with - 2 that I am waiting for answers, 1 that I sent must haves, 1 that responded to my questions, but doesn't have a photo, and the 3 that I don' know what to do with - the ones from yesterday. I'm thinking I might close them out. I just am not attracted to them, but I think I'll let them live in limbo for a little bit longer.
Something I'm curious about. I haven't had anyone close me out, but I have 11 that haven't done anything with me. Are these guys keeping me in limbo? Or are they exploring something with someone right now and want to see how that goes before they try someone new? Also, some may be people that signed up to receive their free personality profile, and 5 free matches. Also, I've read about how sometimes they don't close down accounts. This is a problem in a lot of these sites, or so I have heard. So, they may not even be logging in. That's why I think I'll wait to have the guy make the first move on me!
xoxo, Maxi
When I got home and logged on, I found the matches were pretty true to form. The usual 50/25/25. 50% with no photos, 25% I was not attracted to in the least, and 25% okay. I had a lot of "students" this time and I am not interested in a student, unless it says law student. One was actually, and he was a hottie, but no communication requests from him. Also, I was back to the shorties again (as in they are all coincidentally 5'8").
eHarmony Conclusion 1: Short men love eHarmony.
What bothers me the most about this, is most likely, they are lying about their height. For every guy that says he's 5'8", I'm betting he's more like 5'6".
I closed out the ones that I just was not attractive to. I read the answers from the two that replied back. One was the police officer that I found cute from the other day. I sent him my must haves/can't stands. The other, I'm still a little hesitant on, because he's the one that hasn't shown his picture. I think I'll wait this one out a little bit.
I don't have responses from the other two that I sent questions back to. So, either they just haven't logged on yet, or they didn't like my answers. But seriously, how much are guys looking at those answers? I seriously doubt they're ruling girls out based on their answers. If the girl's mildly attractive, he's probably meeting up with her and then going from there.
So, I decided to search for new matches. I received 7 new ones. They really love 7 at a time, and the demographics fit the same 50/25/25. Just for kicks, I ran the search for new matches again, and they said they didn't have any new matches. But you know what, I guarantee I have 7 new matches when I wake up tomorrow.
Right now, I have 28 total matches. 18 that are open. 7 of which I am in communication with - 2 that I am waiting for answers, 1 that I sent must haves, 1 that responded to my questions, but doesn't have a photo, and the 3 that I don' know what to do with - the ones from yesterday. I'm thinking I might close them out. I just am not attracted to them, but I think I'll let them live in limbo for a little bit longer.
Something I'm curious about. I haven't had anyone close me out, but I have 11 that haven't done anything with me. Are these guys keeping me in limbo? Or are they exploring something with someone right now and want to see how that goes before they try someone new? Also, some may be people that signed up to receive their free personality profile, and 5 free matches. Also, I've read about how sometimes they don't close down accounts. This is a problem in a lot of these sites, or so I have heard. So, they may not even be logging in. That's why I think I'll wait to have the guy make the first move on me!
xoxo, Maxi
Monday, April 28, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 2
When I got to work today and checked my personal email, my inbox had blown up! I had three requests for communication from last night's matches, 7 new matches, and 4 requests from those 7 new matches!
I couldn't see what they looked like, and you better believe I didn't want to log onto eHarmony at work, so I just speculated about these new matches. Of course, not knowing what they looked like drove me insane! A few were lawyers (very nice), some were IT, and I don't remember what the others were. Oh! One was a radio broadcaster. This one requested communication, and it makes me nervous. What if he's doing some sort of expose on online dating. Will my name be changed to protect the innocent?
What drew me to eHarmony instead of match, was that only people that you are matched up with can see your photo. But if they're matching me with 7 people a day, how long is this going to go on for?
After work, Cat and I went to the gym, as usual. And I couldn't help but be afraid that every guy in there was a potential match, and was looking at me, and knew I was on there. Everytime a guy smiled, or said "excuse me" or held open the elevator door, all I could think was "he knows!!!" Of course, that's ridiculous, but I didn't like not knowing!
When I got home I logged on. The three communications from the first night matches were questions that I had multiple choice answers too. I answered their questions and posted back some of my own. Two of these guys were cute, so I was happy they talked to me. The third didn't have a picture, but I answered his questions anyways.
My new matches were definitely 50/50, just like yesterday. Some did not show their photos. Out of the ones that did, about half were cute, the others weren't bad, I just don't know that I'd give them a second glance on the street. I think I'll wait to communicate with them until I've let Cat take a glance at them. On the bright side though, they were all definitely taller.
I can't help but think that a lot of these matches look familiar. I'm not sure if I actually KNOW them, or if I just recognize them from my match.com stalking. It is making me a little nervous though. And why have I been matched with 3 college administrators? That's a little random? What is a college administrator and how many of them are running around Richmond that I would be matched up with 3?
So, tonight, I sent communication to the three from yesterday, and one from today. I have three that are hanging out there, but like I said, I need Cat to look at them. Or, maybe I'll wait and see what develops with these guys.
I guess today's question is, is eHarmony squirreling away matches? Or are these all new members? Surely there can't be that many new people that join every day? So, when I get a match, there's a good possibility that they're in the works talking with someone else already.
xoxo, Maxi
I couldn't see what they looked like, and you better believe I didn't want to log onto eHarmony at work, so I just speculated about these new matches. Of course, not knowing what they looked like drove me insane! A few were lawyers (very nice), some were IT, and I don't remember what the others were. Oh! One was a radio broadcaster. This one requested communication, and it makes me nervous. What if he's doing some sort of expose on online dating. Will my name be changed to protect the innocent?
What drew me to eHarmony instead of match, was that only people that you are matched up with can see your photo. But if they're matching me with 7 people a day, how long is this going to go on for?
After work, Cat and I went to the gym, as usual. And I couldn't help but be afraid that every guy in there was a potential match, and was looking at me, and knew I was on there. Everytime a guy smiled, or said "excuse me" or held open the elevator door, all I could think was "he knows!!!" Of course, that's ridiculous, but I didn't like not knowing!
When I got home I logged on. The three communications from the first night matches were questions that I had multiple choice answers too. I answered their questions and posted back some of my own. Two of these guys were cute, so I was happy they talked to me. The third didn't have a picture, but I answered his questions anyways.
My new matches were definitely 50/50, just like yesterday. Some did not show their photos. Out of the ones that did, about half were cute, the others weren't bad, I just don't know that I'd give them a second glance on the street. I think I'll wait to communicate with them until I've let Cat take a glance at them. On the bright side though, they were all definitely taller.
I can't help but think that a lot of these matches look familiar. I'm not sure if I actually KNOW them, or if I just recognize them from my match.com stalking. It is making me a little nervous though. And why have I been matched with 3 college administrators? That's a little random? What is a college administrator and how many of them are running around Richmond that I would be matched up with 3?
So, tonight, I sent communication to the three from yesterday, and one from today. I have three that are hanging out there, but like I said, I need Cat to look at them. Or, maybe I'll wait and see what develops with these guys.
I guess today's question is, is eHarmony squirreling away matches? Or are these all new members? Surely there can't be that many new people that join every day? So, when I get a match, there's a good possibility that they're in the works talking with someone else already.
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Day 1
So, I went and did it! Yes, yours truly joined eHarmony! I don't know what I was thinking (well, actually I know exactly what I was thinking. I've had too much wine, Major just said "thank you" when I told him I missed him, and Cat and I always joke about how it's time to join) but here I find myself, the newest member of eHarmony. I joined late last night and I got a great discount. If you google eHarmony promotional codes, a ton of websites will come up. I tried almost a dozen that were listed before I found one that actually worked! 3 months of $30, not too bad.
Although I technically joined yesterday (hence why there are two posts today), I want to start with Day 1. Cat and I decided at work today that I should chronicle my foray into the scary world of online dating. I swore I wouldn't do this. I was still sure I could meet someone the old fashioned way. And I still believe that, but I thought I'd give it a try!
As soon as I joined, I was instantly matched with 7 matches. I looked through them. A few were pretty bad and a few weren't so bad. I just got familiar with the site and tried to get over the fact that I would be mortified if I was set up with someone I knew! I actually closed a few matches out right then and there. They just weren't attractive, one was an atheist (I put preference of Christian, or no religious affiliation, but I wasn't looking for that extreme). One was in the Army. I instantly clicked on him to see if he could be Major's replacement, but he was one that I closed out shortly thereafter. Most were short. Definitely short.
I left 4 of the original matches. I was pretty interested in two, so we'll see if they contact me. One was a police officer, and then other was in radio. Another was cute, and one didn't have a picture, but didn't sound too bad from him profile.
I uploaded some pictures and decided to make them available instantly. You can choose at what level you what them available, but I consider myself attractive, and think it will help the more attractive and confident guys approach me, as opposed to the desperate ones that will talk to you without photos. I found that most of the guys did have photos. There were some that didn't, so we'll see. I'll feel badly though, if we talk for several levels, and then when he reveals himself, I'm like "yikes! no way!" But guys are usually more confident, I feel as though if they are remotely attractive, they'll post immediately, but who knows, there's only one way to find out.
Here are some questions I have that hopefully I will know the answers by the end of this.
1. Is there a limit of matches you can get? Meaning, do you have to close some out before they'll give you some new ones?
2. Do they really match based on personality? My first instinct is no, there's not way they can match that many people on something like that. But then I think, Cat's had two friends that tried to sign up but they were told there were no matches for them. Granted, they were both a little kooky, but...
3. What's the ratio of men to women? Are the same 20 men being passed around to the 100 women on this? So men have 100 potential matches, and the 100 women are all vying for the same 20 men?
4. How many people can you open communicate with?
5. What type of guys are on this?
6. Am I going to know anyone?
Technically, I went to bed at this point, but I'm going to start Day 2 of the blog.
xoxo, Maxi
Although I technically joined yesterday (hence why there are two posts today), I want to start with Day 1. Cat and I decided at work today that I should chronicle my foray into the scary world of online dating. I swore I wouldn't do this. I was still sure I could meet someone the old fashioned way. And I still believe that, but I thought I'd give it a try!
As soon as I joined, I was instantly matched with 7 matches. I looked through them. A few were pretty bad and a few weren't so bad. I just got familiar with the site and tried to get over the fact that I would be mortified if I was set up with someone I knew! I actually closed a few matches out right then and there. They just weren't attractive, one was an atheist (I put preference of Christian, or no religious affiliation, but I wasn't looking for that extreme). One was in the Army. I instantly clicked on him to see if he could be Major's replacement, but he was one that I closed out shortly thereafter. Most were short. Definitely short.
I left 4 of the original matches. I was pretty interested in two, so we'll see if they contact me. One was a police officer, and then other was in radio. Another was cute, and one didn't have a picture, but didn't sound too bad from him profile.
I uploaded some pictures and decided to make them available instantly. You can choose at what level you what them available, but I consider myself attractive, and think it will help the more attractive and confident guys approach me, as opposed to the desperate ones that will talk to you without photos. I found that most of the guys did have photos. There were some that didn't, so we'll see. I'll feel badly though, if we talk for several levels, and then when he reveals himself, I'm like "yikes! no way!" But guys are usually more confident, I feel as though if they are remotely attractive, they'll post immediately, but who knows, there's only one way to find out.
Here are some questions I have that hopefully I will know the answers by the end of this.
1. Is there a limit of matches you can get? Meaning, do you have to close some out before they'll give you some new ones?
2. Do they really match based on personality? My first instinct is no, there's not way they can match that many people on something like that. But then I think, Cat's had two friends that tried to sign up but they were told there were no matches for them. Granted, they were both a little kooky, but...
3. What's the ratio of men to women? Are the same 20 men being passed around to the 100 women on this? So men have 100 potential matches, and the 100 women are all vying for the same 20 men?
4. How many people can you open communicate with?
5. What type of guys are on this?
6. Am I going to know anyone?
Technically, I went to bed at this point, but I'm going to start Day 2 of the blog.
xoxo, Maxi
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