eHarmon-me: Day 20

Nothing too much in the eHarmony world. I guess the initial infatuation has worn off, but I'm still on there, receiving matches, closing matches out, and communicating with some.

I thought I was about to enter into open communication (it's been over 2 weeks on eHarmony, and I have yet to make it to that stage yet, I guess just the timing back and forth) but I don't know what happened. I sent second questions, he answered, sent second questions. Then I clicked on "Read Dr. Warren's Message" and then it said "your message has been to sent to ____." I'm so confused without some explanation and details. That is something I really would like to change about eHarmony, is that they'd provide more details on how the communication process works. Fortunately, eHarmony Blog provided me on some insight (as in the person who does not initiate communication must be the first person to send MHCS, and second questions. But what's going on with the open communication. I didn't receive any message from Dr. Warren. Does the other person also have to select to read the message? I can't go anywhere now, when I click on "read Dr. Warren's message" it just says my message was sent to that person on May 15. I just really have no idea what's going on.

Secondly, I find that I'm losing guys at the open question stage. I'm not really sure why. Either I had to send questions first, or they sent to me, I answered and sent ones back, but that's when they're dropping off the face of the earth. I have a few outstanding ones that I'll take care of tomorrow, but it's a little confusing. Are my questions/answers THAT bad? Or is there some sort of glitch in the system? (At least that makes me sleep better at night, thinking it's the system).

So, two guys have been in communication with me that I am super excited about. They are both so funny and cute and I really like their answers and all that. But they are both soooo attractive and fit. This really concerns me. I'm just afraid they'll take one look at me and run. That really won't be too good for the old ego!

Here's my match update (I actually turned off matching this weekend because it's a free communication weekend, and I don't want any Joe Blow seeing me if they're not serious, or just want the free personality profile).

Current matches: 26
In communication: 13 of those above 26. 1 that initiated with me and I haven't responded yet, 5 that I need to do something, and 7 that I'm waiting for.
94 closed: 11 that closed me

One other thing I've learned, is that you shouldn't close someone out just because they hadn't responded yet (like I closed out the police officer after two weeks). You don't want to burn any bridges, because people fall off along the way. And if these people aren't responding because they're too busy, than that's okay. If it's because they aren't members anymore, who knows, they may join again. I haven't closed too many that I regret, but I do regret the police officer.

I have some good options that I'm communicating with right now. A lot of them live about an hour away though. I thought I was okay with that, but now, with the price of gas and the fact I'm always broke anyways, I might have to reconsider.

On a side note, I've been so stressed at work lately, and my face is showing it! Me, who never gets acne, has three zits right now! And it's the cystic acne kind (which if you ever get it, do not, under any circumstances, pop it! It will turn 100x worse) which is so bad, and just proves it's stress, and not that I'm not washing my face. Plus, I don't know if it's this new BC I switched too. I don't know why, but 2 months ago, I decided I wanted to try a new BC. I thought maybe a new one might help with my extra testosterone problem. But instead, all it's done is give me weird periods, and potentially is adding to my face problems. I need to call my doctor and go back to my original kind. The kind that's been true to me for over 5 years.

Well, I guess that's it for now. I'm heading off to get ready to go to Becca's bachelorette party tonight. Should be fun!

xoxo, Max