Major Developments

Ok, so it's been a long time! A VERY long time! And I apologize. I guess Cat and I got too eager to set up this blog that we've neglected to take care of it. Sort of like a puppy, or a baby, it needs constant attention. Good thing I do not have either of the aforementioned, or I'd be behind bars for sure!

A lot has happened in the past month. Let's recap quickly shall we??

1. Valentine's Day - Major sent me flowers to work, and they were gorgeous. He got major points for sending them to work. All day I had people stop by and comment how beautiful they were, and who was the guy. Of course I had to get into the whole thing with "He's only here until mid-April." But it was really nice. We went out to dinner that night at my favorite romantic restaurant downtown. The food was amazing, and I just had a very nice Valentine's Day. It really was one for the book.

2. Clothes - I finally couldn't take the dad jeans anymore. I fretted and complained and thought about it and finally decided to do it! I bought Major a new pair of jeans. I was very casual about it, just "oh I was out and thought of you." It went over okay. He wasn't upset. He tried them on and they were way too small. I was upset, because that meant he was back to the old jeans. But I said "no worries. I just was thinking of you." But I guess I wasn't the only one who commented to him about his clothes. A few days later, he mentioned to me that "Captain (his friend in the Army) said I dress like his dad." I literally snorted out through my nose. Of course, he wanted to know why that was so funny. I had the perfect opportunity to tell him, but couldn't.

Well, I guess two weeks ago, we were going bowling with some of my friends. This was the first time any of my friends were meeting him. Of course they had heard everything about him. How well he treats me, how nice he is, how he dresses like a geek, etc. Well, Major comes to my house and my jaw nearly drops to the ground. He is wearing a whole new outfit head to toe! I could barely contain myself! Apparently he and Captain went shopping that day and let me tell you, he looked like a new man. I couldn't stop smiling. He was looking good, very good! I thought that was just too adorable. And of course, I think that says a lot about how he thinks of me if he's willing to go get new clothes. Let's all say it together... "AAAAAWWWWWWWWEEEEEE!"

3. Rico Suave and Chris Sam - Cat and I went out the other weekend and ran into two guys that I went to high school with. Literally hadn't seen them in 10 years. It was really fun, we hung out with them all night, danced, and made out. Cat had quite the interesting night I might say. She owes you a post on the night. Cat YOU OWE IT! To recap real quick, she had a date, went to Dido's where she ran into one of my friends (BA) that she went out with once or twice, agreed to meet up with him later on, made out with Chris Sam, then had a late night tryst with BA. Haha! All in all, it was a very fun night though. I enjoyed myself immensely.

4. Ok, this is were it gets a little serious. I have really been enjoying myself with Major. Really. I think he's wonderful. So smart, treats me like gold, is interesting, is cute, so gentlemanly. I have really been enjoying myself this past month and a half. I always knew he was leaving in mid-April, but now that it's coming closer, it's really making me sad thinking about what the future will hold. I try not to worry about the future, just enjoy him now. But I'm a girl, and I can't help but think about it.

This weekend, I was thinking about it, and I got really sad. I am going to miss him. And what's worse is I am actually thinking about having a long distance relationship with him if he wants one. We can't have that "talk" now though. I'll wait until he brings it up or maybe early-April. But it's really getting me down. What if he just says "Thanks for the fun time while I was here in Richmond?" I'll be upset. I know I will. And I know it won't be me. It literally will be him and his situation. In the Army, in New Mexico, divorced, child, etc. But here I am searching how much flights cost out there, and I hate to admit it, but I even looked on Monster.com to see what kind of jobs are out there. Of course, he will NOT know that, but the point is, I don't want to just say good bye when he leaves. Unlike Coach, I am willing to have long distance for him. All the reasons I said no to long distance to Coach, don't matter with Major. I like him, and I hope he likes me.

I know no matter what happens, it'll be okay. If he doesn't want to try long distance, yes, I'll be sad, but I'll be back to my trolling for men with Cat before you know it. And regardless of what happens, Major came along just when I needed to be reassured that there are men out there that can treat me well, and that I can be excited out. Date after date after date of no chemistry was getting me down. Was there something wrong with me? He answered that. No there isn't. I can wait for a guy that gets me excited, physically and intellectually, and that third way too. I don't know if there's a word for it, but just that certain something that you have when you get excited when the guy calls, and enjoy hearing about their hobbies or day or whatever.

The other part though, is the ex and child. Who knows what it's like back in NM? Right now, they're always "there" but not really an issue. He talks about the child, he really loves her, which is a great characteristic. But it's like they don't really exist. If I was there, or if they were here, I wonder how it would be different. And that's something to think about. Plus, the other day he was showing me pictures of his daughter, and they just became very real. And it occurred to me, he's done this before. The wedding, the courting, the child birth. Nothing would be new to him. And that made me really sad. So who knows, right now I feel okay with his past. But if they were to become "real" to me, would I still be okay? I don't know. And this is all stuff that I don't know if I'm prepared to handle.


Alright, I know this blog has gone on FOREVER! And there's so much more I can say. But I guess I'll wrap it up for today. Cat and I have to hit happy hour up with MG and this other guy that's visiting from another office for the week.

xoxo, Maxi