A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog that mentioned I had run into one of my favoritest students ever, Jordan. I ran into him at the local university library, where he is a student and a star soccer player. We chatted for a few moments, and he invited me to the last soccer game, which I happily attended. I just adored him, he was just the most adorable, sweetest student I ever had, and even to this day, there is still a fondness in my heart for him.
Jordan came to the United States sometime in the 2000s from a Middle Eastern country. When I first taught him, he had broken English, but it was very hard for me to communicate sometimes. I have a tendency to be sarcastic, which does not translate very well, as I quickly learned. But our conversations were delightful and he quickly became my favorite student. I know you’re not supposed to have favorites, but any teacher that says they don’t, is lying. I think it must have been obvious, because my then boyfriend that I dated for the years I was teaching, would always make comments about Jordan, I guess I just talked about him so much. He’d always say ridiculous stuff and I was like “You are not seriously jealous of a junior in high school?” But Jordan was very studious and he always brought me yummy treats that his mom made from his home country, and he definitely loved me. And while a lot of the boys “loved” me in a “I want to get with the teacher” way, I definitely felt Jordan’s was genuine, in that Middle Eastern respect and love for elders and teachers.
The next year, when we received our rosters, I was very excited to see Jordan’s name on my elective math class for seniors. He told me he talked to his guidance counselor and specifically asked what class he could take that I taught. The guidance counselor loved Jordan too, and we had a few conversations about how sweet he was, and she would always tell me “Jordan just adores you.” Jordan’s senior year was my last year teaching, and I left that year, knowing I would miss him.
In the three years between his senior year and when I ran into him at the library, a lot had happened to Jordan. He lived with his mom, dad, and sisters (who all attended the university also) and was taking part time classes at the university. Sadly, his father’s unexpectedly passed away that year, but his death provided life insurance money so that Jordan could attend full time. Jordan tried out for the soccer team and quickly went from walk on benchwarmer to starter in a matter of games. His sisters and mother were getting ready to move back home, as they all had student visas. Jordan was studying for his citizenship test so he could stay here in America. His story was certainly a tear jerker, and was epitomized in an article in the newspaper's sports section about him this year. The story followed this likable boy from his home country, playing soccer in bare feet and using rocks as goal posts, to coming to America where he could barely speak English. He ate chicken sandwiches every day for lunch because it was the only thing in the cafeteria he could pronounce. Then, he moved onto becoming an all-star soccer player in the state, and through the sad passing of his father, became a star on the university’s soccer team.
Don’t you just want to cuddle and love this guy forever and ever and be his surrogate sister? I did! I was so happy to have run into him, and was sure he was the sweet boy of his younger days.
Well, all this was dashed to pieces last night. I get a text from him wanting to know if I want to meet up. I think sure, why not, so we go into this long conversation about where to meet up. I say something like “Well, what are you in the mood for? Food? Drinks? Coffee? Ice Cream?” He doesn’t answer for a little bit, then when he does, he doesn’t answer, rather says “Have you decided yet?” (except it’s in text speak, which I don’t know why, but I found it odd that an ESL kid is using text speak). I said “you haven’t told me what you want to do yet.” Then! He replies with “I dont want to hang out anymore i want to kiss and make out” I mean! What am I supposed to say back? Not sure what really is going on at this moment, I say “I’m sure.” I’m seriously thinking “There is no way my sweet, innocent Jordan could have written this. I’m sure a friend stole his phone and Jordan is totally mortified and embarrassed.”
Jordan: U asked what i want
Me: Well, sorry, don’t know what else to tell you then
Jordan: too bad
Me: I guess I’ll take that as a not going to hang out anymore
Jordan: no this one is my fault i was too direct didnt wanted to be like that i just said how I felt
I felt violated, naïve, shocked, upset, hurt! This was not the Jordan I knew and loved! Had he become one of the stereotypical aggressive Middle Eastern guys that hang out in clubs that play house music until 3 am? Had I been wrong about him the whole time? Thinking he wanted an older and wiser mentor friend, someone similar to a teacher, to help him navigate the murky waters that is America if he had to do it alone? The crazy part about all this, is I’m sad that now we’ll probably never talk again. I still miss the Jordan that I knew and hope that this was a crazy high off hookah and that he won’t be so mortified that he can never talk to me again.
Cat wanted to know why I was willing to make out with Jr., and tease the other boy like I did this past summer (remember, the one that wanted to make me forget my name?) but not Jordan. But the truth was, I respected Jordan, these other boys were fools that I didn’t care about. But I cared for Jordan and didn’t want to jerk him around or play him like a fool or use him for ridiculous story telling. And even knowing that he obviously didn’t respect me as I thought he did, I still didn’t want to go there.
Well, Happy New Year’s!
Max-I’m serious about losing 20 lbs this year-ine
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
What I didn't get this year...
...And I think I totally deserved, is a personal “Thank you for your service” from George W. Bush. After all I’ve done for the military men this year!
First, I dated a high ranking commissioned officer while he was here in town for special training. A divorced officer with a child no less! Just to have him say “thanks for the memories” and drive off into the sunset without so much as looking back. (Although in all fairness to Major Dad, I did care deeply for him, and he did treat me very well for the few months we dated. I know if circumstances were different, things could have been a lot different).
Then, I basically provided a bed and breakfast for all sorts of service men: Army, Marines, commissioned officers, noncommissioned officers, enlisted men, boys about to deploy, those that just got back from deployment, I’m not one to be picky. And of course, what bed and breakfast would be complete without a nice little make out session along the way? My friend E said there’s probably a mass email somewhere floating about in mil.gov that says something like “if you’re passing through blank city, give Maxi a call for a free place to stay complete with a warm bed and warm breakfast.”
Note to readers: Please know that I am not sleeping around with these guys, giving them blow jobs, or heck, even letting them get to second base. It’s all very innocent making out. I love it, I’m sure they want more, and as much as I love and respect these boys for serving our country and keeping us safe, I need to respect myself as well!
In all seriousness, however, I do want to say thank you for your service to all the service men and women out there. Please know we still support you and love you and pray for you and appreciate you keeping us safe.
xoxo, Max
First, I dated a high ranking commissioned officer while he was here in town for special training. A divorced officer with a child no less! Just to have him say “thanks for the memories” and drive off into the sunset without so much as looking back. (Although in all fairness to Major Dad, I did care deeply for him, and he did treat me very well for the few months we dated. I know if circumstances were different, things could have been a lot different).
Then, I basically provided a bed and breakfast for all sorts of service men: Army, Marines, commissioned officers, noncommissioned officers, enlisted men, boys about to deploy, those that just got back from deployment, I’m not one to be picky. And of course, what bed and breakfast would be complete without a nice little make out session along the way? My friend E said there’s probably a mass email somewhere floating about in mil.gov that says something like “if you’re passing through blank city, give Maxi a call for a free place to stay complete with a warm bed and warm breakfast.”
Note to readers: Please know that I am not sleeping around with these guys, giving them blow jobs, or heck, even letting them get to second base. It’s all very innocent making out. I love it, I’m sure they want more, and as much as I love and respect these boys for serving our country and keeping us safe, I need to respect myself as well!
In all seriousness, however, I do want to say thank you for your service to all the service men and women out there. Please know we still support you and love you and pray for you and appreciate you keeping us safe.
xoxo, Max
Monday, December 29, 2008
Best Christmas Present I ever Gave
Where to begin!? I actually have quite a lot to catch everyone up on. I will start with saying Merry Christmas and I hope everyone had as lovely as a holiday as me. There was just something about this Christmas that was especially wonderful. I really love my family and enjoy spending time with them. My brother came home from LA, and I got to see my cousins and aunts/uncles that I don’t get to see very often. I feel so lucky to have such a fun wonderful family, and the holidays were very nice, complete with poker, board games, waaay to much food, and just an all around fun time.
In other news, I finally did it! It was bound to happen, and this past weekend, it did! I officially made out with an ex-student! Yikes! I know! But it wasn’t as bad as it sounds.
The story starts last summer when Cat and I went to see another former student’s, JPP, band play. He’d been bothering me forever to come see him play (And as a side note, that part is not unusual, I know a lot of teachers that “stay in touch” with their students once they graduate) so Cat and I went one day after work. There were a lot of kids there that went to high school during the time I taught there, but I didn’t really know any of them. However, one guy I did know, we’ll call him Jr. I taught Jr. my second year of teaching, and he was quite adorable. He played football, and if he was a couple years older, would have been 100% my type. Beefy, cute, manly… you all know my type. He was pretty quite in the class though, but was always friendly and I thought he was a pretty nice kid. Well, here it is, three years later, I none the older or wiser and here he is, all “grown” up at 21 at this bar. Turns out he’s in the Marines and is about to deploy to Iraq. Well, if my eyes don’t light up at the sound of someone in the military, then I don’t know what does. So, we exchange email addresses and I let him know I want to send him a care package. I was serious about that. Well, Cat and I leave to meet up with some friends at another bar. That night, I get a text from JPP wanting to know if I have a boyfriend. I tell him no, and he says that Jr. wants to get with me and thinks I’m hot, or something along those lines. I was flattered, but not overly conceited, and am pretty sure that his thinking I’m hot has 100% to do with the whole teacher/student fantasy thing, and nothing to do with me as a person.
Fast forward one and half years, two care packages and a dozen email exchanges later. A few weeks ago, I get a late night call from JPP. He’s with Jr. and they are leaving the most ridiculous drunken message ever. I actually saved it because it made me laugh so hard. Anyways, a few nights later, JPP asks if I want to come see his band play again. I accept, knowing full well that Jr. is going to be there. It’s at a pool hall, and I know A will definitely be down. She and some of her friends were going to be there anyways playing pool that night, so it all worked out perfectly. A little bit later into the night, and I am already buzzing pretty heavily, and here comes Jr., looking super hot. He does have a mighty fine body, by the way. We ended up talking the whole night and he comes to the late night diner with me and my friends. By this time, his ride was long gone, and it was pretty obvious he was staying over. Needless to say, we made out, but it was all very PG, even despite the fact he’s an ex-student, I’m not trying to hook up like that with a guy on the first night, especially without a proper date! :) He was very adorable, and it was a fun time. He was loving some Maxi, I will say that. The next morning (or more accurately next afternoon) when I had to take him to his car, I said something along the lines of “Eh, it was bound to happen eventually, may as well have been with you.” Haha! But once again, I’m not so vain to think it was all me, I do know about the whole “hot for teacher” thing. But, what I am vain enough to say, is that I know I gave Jr. one heck of an awesome story to tell his buddies, and that made the whole night worth it!
xoxo under the mistletoe,
Maxine
In other news, I finally did it! It was bound to happen, and this past weekend, it did! I officially made out with an ex-student! Yikes! I know! But it wasn’t as bad as it sounds.
The story starts last summer when Cat and I went to see another former student’s, JPP, band play. He’d been bothering me forever to come see him play (And as a side note, that part is not unusual, I know a lot of teachers that “stay in touch” with their students once they graduate) so Cat and I went one day after work. There were a lot of kids there that went to high school during the time I taught there, but I didn’t really know any of them. However, one guy I did know, we’ll call him Jr. I taught Jr. my second year of teaching, and he was quite adorable. He played football, and if he was a couple years older, would have been 100% my type. Beefy, cute, manly… you all know my type. He was pretty quite in the class though, but was always friendly and I thought he was a pretty nice kid. Well, here it is, three years later, I none the older or wiser and here he is, all “grown” up at 21 at this bar. Turns out he’s in the Marines and is about to deploy to Iraq. Well, if my eyes don’t light up at the sound of someone in the military, then I don’t know what does. So, we exchange email addresses and I let him know I want to send him a care package. I was serious about that. Well, Cat and I leave to meet up with some friends at another bar. That night, I get a text from JPP wanting to know if I have a boyfriend. I tell him no, and he says that Jr. wants to get with me and thinks I’m hot, or something along those lines. I was flattered, but not overly conceited, and am pretty sure that his thinking I’m hot has 100% to do with the whole teacher/student fantasy thing, and nothing to do with me as a person.
Fast forward one and half years, two care packages and a dozen email exchanges later. A few weeks ago, I get a late night call from JPP. He’s with Jr. and they are leaving the most ridiculous drunken message ever. I actually saved it because it made me laugh so hard. Anyways, a few nights later, JPP asks if I want to come see his band play again. I accept, knowing full well that Jr. is going to be there. It’s at a pool hall, and I know A will definitely be down. She and some of her friends were going to be there anyways playing pool that night, so it all worked out perfectly. A little bit later into the night, and I am already buzzing pretty heavily, and here comes Jr., looking super hot. He does have a mighty fine body, by the way. We ended up talking the whole night and he comes to the late night diner with me and my friends. By this time, his ride was long gone, and it was pretty obvious he was staying over. Needless to say, we made out, but it was all very PG, even despite the fact he’s an ex-student, I’m not trying to hook up like that with a guy on the first night, especially without a proper date! :) He was very adorable, and it was a fun time. He was loving some Maxi, I will say that. The next morning (or more accurately next afternoon) when I had to take him to his car, I said something along the lines of “Eh, it was bound to happen eventually, may as well have been with you.” Haha! But once again, I’m not so vain to think it was all me, I do know about the whole “hot for teacher” thing. But, what I am vain enough to say, is that I know I gave Jr. one heck of an awesome story to tell his buddies, and that made the whole night worth it!
xoxo under the mistletoe,
Maxine
Monday, December 8, 2008
Shenanigans are Back!
Friday Night: Office Party – The usual drinking, gambling and having a good time. I was in charge of the office party this year, so that meant I had free reign over the mic all night long. And for those that know me, know that there’s nothing Maxi loves better than alcohol and a mic. I could be up there all night long. I also won two of the prizes: a door prize and the wine basket. Some were a little suspicious, but I swear it was all fair! For the door prize, I was narrating when I said “And now is going to pick Maxine’s name from the bowl.” And sure enough, my name was selected! So you see, other than positive thinking, I had no control over whose name was selected! After last night, I’m thinking “The Secret” might not be such a load of crap (I had also been coveting the wine basket since May when I purchased it)…but then again, MK never did ask me out, so maybe not.
Later Friday Night: One of our usual hot spots – This confirmed I was back in the game when an E3 22 year old and salesman 24 year old were both vying for my attention. Why do the danged salesmen love me so much? But it was good for old Maxi’s ego!
Saturday Night: SW’s wedding –Perhaps the most gorgeous wedding I’ve ever been to. It was at an Inn out in the country, and it was decorated so lovely for Christmas. SW and her husband both looking most dapper, Christmas trees, lights inside and outside, poinsettias, bridesmaids dresses in perfect Christmas red, and the most perfect light snow dancing in the light outside. Oh, if it wasn’t the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen, I don’t know what was. The reception was just as lovely with gorgeous tall white vases for centerpieces with red berries glistening with sparkles, and the ground covered in the lightest dusting of snow outside the windows. If I could have a dream wedding, that was it!
Later Saturday Night: Our favorite hot spot – Cat and I were super ready by this time to start some shenanigans, and this was just the place for it. We hadn’t been inside for more than 10 minutes when we spotted our targets. Two obvious military men. It wasn’t more than 5 minutes after that then they came up and started talking to us. Of course, that’s usually par for the course. Anyways, we spent the rest of the night dancing, drinking, talking, etc. After the bar closed they did come back to my house for a late night cap and a little MOing. They stayed maybe an hour or so before we kicked them out.
Sunday morning: Applebees - So this afternoon when Cat and I were enjoying our usual favorite hungover meal of Chicken Fajita Rollup and fries from Applebees, I discussed how far I’ve come in the past two years… About two years ago I was trying to wrangle a date to the Marine Corp Ball from an E5, met Coach (who was 23 at the time), and had the entire local college’s men’s basketball coaching staff in my house the night after the office party. So two years older, and none the wiser, I’m still fooling around with E5s, having late night debacles at my house after the holiday party, and being hit on by 24 years olds. My, how time does mature you.
Sunday evening: Cat’s back alley while taking the trash out - Cat’s walking along, taking out her trash, minding her own business, probably humming a tune, and whoops! She trips over a trash can lid spraining her ankle! Yikes! Not really the best way to end the weekend. Today at work, of course, everyone assumes she sprained her ankle in some drunken debacle at the holiday party or late night afterwards. But no, she managed to get through the debacles unscathed. It is a pretty bad situation, you don’t really see a lot of adults hobbling along on crutches, and I know it has to hurt! But she should be back to normal after a week or two.
xoxo, Maxine
Later Friday Night: One of our usual hot spots – This confirmed I was back in the game when an E3 22 year old and salesman 24 year old were both vying for my attention. Why do the danged salesmen love me so much? But it was good for old Maxi’s ego!
Saturday Night: SW’s wedding –Perhaps the most gorgeous wedding I’ve ever been to. It was at an Inn out in the country, and it was decorated so lovely for Christmas. SW and her husband both looking most dapper, Christmas trees, lights inside and outside, poinsettias, bridesmaids dresses in perfect Christmas red, and the most perfect light snow dancing in the light outside. Oh, if it wasn’t the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen, I don’t know what was. The reception was just as lovely with gorgeous tall white vases for centerpieces with red berries glistening with sparkles, and the ground covered in the lightest dusting of snow outside the windows. If I could have a dream wedding, that was it!
Later Saturday Night: Our favorite hot spot – Cat and I were super ready by this time to start some shenanigans, and this was just the place for it. We hadn’t been inside for more than 10 minutes when we spotted our targets. Two obvious military men. It wasn’t more than 5 minutes after that then they came up and started talking to us. Of course, that’s usually par for the course. Anyways, we spent the rest of the night dancing, drinking, talking, etc. After the bar closed they did come back to my house for a late night cap and a little MOing. They stayed maybe an hour or so before we kicked them out.
Sunday morning: Applebees - So this afternoon when Cat and I were enjoying our usual favorite hungover meal of Chicken Fajita Rollup and fries from Applebees, I discussed how far I’ve come in the past two years… About two years ago I was trying to wrangle a date to the Marine Corp Ball from an E5, met Coach (who was 23 at the time), and had the entire local college’s men’s basketball coaching staff in my house the night after the office party. So two years older, and none the wiser, I’m still fooling around with E5s, having late night debacles at my house after the holiday party, and being hit on by 24 years olds. My, how time does mature you.
Sunday evening: Cat’s back alley while taking the trash out - Cat’s walking along, taking out her trash, minding her own business, probably humming a tune, and whoops! She trips over a trash can lid spraining her ankle! Yikes! Not really the best way to end the weekend. Today at work, of course, everyone assumes she sprained her ankle in some drunken debacle at the holiday party or late night afterwards. But no, she managed to get through the debacles unscathed. It is a pretty bad situation, you don’t really see a lot of adults hobbling along on crutches, and I know it has to hurt! But she should be back to normal after a week or two.
xoxo, Maxine
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Reason 10,098 I Hate Working
I am currently missing Britney Spears on GMA. Yes, as I type this she is performing and I cannot watch it because I am a slave to my desk.
I think I'll have to hit up Target or Circuit City at lunch to get her new album today.
xoxo, Maxine
I think I'll have to hit up Target or Circuit City at lunch to get her new album today.
xoxo, Maxine
Monday, December 1, 2008
Gym Overdrive
We all know how Cat and I love a goal. Last December, we made a goal to increase gym utilization by 10%. Of course, only now, with one month left in the year, do I decide to see how we're doing.
YTD: I have exercised 134 times. That is only 4 times less than last year! So far, not too shabby. I will note, however, that a good amount of those were not actually in the gym, but were exercising nonetheless, as I did a lot of outdoor running with Z over the summer and fall, and even into winter. Running early morning in the cold makes you very aware of your thighs! (note to Santa - Maxi could use some long johns for running).
Anyways, to meet our (well, really my as Cat and I were not as religious working out together as last year, and I'm not sure how she's doing as she is no where near as anal as I am with logging down everything I eat and how much I exercise) goal of 10% utilization, I need to hit the gym 18 times this month! Yikes! That is a lot to handle especially when there are holiday parties, happy hours, etc., every day after work, hung over Saturdays and Sundays where going to the gym is out of the question, and unusually busy days at work where lunch time is out due to work meetings over lunch. I hate the lunch meetings because 1. they assume I want to work over lunch, and 2. they always bring in really delicious fattening foods, which I just can't resist!
Well, back to the 18 times this month, I did manage to go 17 times in November, and there's an extra day in December. I'm going to try my darndest to do it! Starting today at lunch, I'll take the step class, and gosh darn it, I'm going to like it. Plus, this very well may keep the holiday weight gain under control. Wish me luck!
xoxo, Maxine
PS. Why do I feel like the 29 - 31st, I'm going to have to go 4 times a day to meet my goal? :)
YTD: I have exercised 134 times. That is only 4 times less than last year! So far, not too shabby. I will note, however, that a good amount of those were not actually in the gym, but were exercising nonetheless, as I did a lot of outdoor running with Z over the summer and fall, and even into winter. Running early morning in the cold makes you very aware of your thighs! (note to Santa - Maxi could use some long johns for running).
Anyways, to meet our (well, really my as Cat and I were not as religious working out together as last year, and I'm not sure how she's doing as she is no where near as anal as I am with logging down everything I eat and how much I exercise) goal of 10% utilization, I need to hit the gym 18 times this month! Yikes! That is a lot to handle especially when there are holiday parties, happy hours, etc., every day after work, hung over Saturdays and Sundays where going to the gym is out of the question, and unusually busy days at work where lunch time is out due to work meetings over lunch. I hate the lunch meetings because 1. they assume I want to work over lunch, and 2. they always bring in really delicious fattening foods, which I just can't resist!
Well, back to the 18 times this month, I did manage to go 17 times in November, and there's an extra day in December. I'm going to try my darndest to do it! Starting today at lunch, I'll take the step class, and gosh darn it, I'm going to like it. Plus, this very well may keep the holiday weight gain under control. Wish me luck!
xoxo, Maxine
PS. Why do I feel like the 29 - 31st, I'm going to have to go 4 times a day to meet my goal? :)
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Blog Brain Freeze
I know it has been an unforgivably long time since I last blogged, but I do not have internet access at my home anymore, and surprisingly have not had time to blog at work as much as I would like! Cat and I did celebrate our one year blog anniversary this past month! Such a hoopla we didn't even have time to blog about it! The worst part is that I haven't really had much to blog about anyways.
I've decided I've come to a point in my life where I need to accept the fact that I am no longer cool and fun and the life of the party (which, yes, I was). Things that used to excite me in my youth now bring a stifled yawn. I'm not really sure where this slump is coming from, and I don't like it. Is it the changing of the seasons to winter? Is it the current economy and no one wants to go out (although, I have heard that cigarettes and alcohol are making a comeback. Now's the time to invest in sin funds! *Note: I am not licensed to give investment advice)? Is it the fact that I've gained about 100 pounds and can't fit into any of my old clothes? Ding Ding Ding! I think we have a winner!
Let's see what else is going on:
Cat's in California visiting her guy. She had dated a guy that she really liked for about three months when he moved to Cali. The results of that trip and the "relationship" to be determined, and I will be the first to admit I am waiting with bated breath!
I have been training for an 8K the past few weeks, and while I know it's not a big thing to people that always run, 5 miles is a huge freaking deal to me. The first time I ran 3.5 miles a few months ago, I amazed myself, I'd never run that far at one time without walking. And now, I will tell you, I am doing 5 miles like it ain't no thang! My original goal was after this 8K to start training for a half marathon, but I will tell you, I can't commit to that time commitment. I normally run 3 miles three times a week during the week, and 5 miles on Saturday. 5 miles takes nearly an hour, then you have to shower, etc. It's just too much time. If I train for a half marathon, then I'll have to run 5 miles during the week. I don't know how people do it! Really? How are they doing it? Oh, and as a side note, all this running has not contributed to any weight loss! >:(
I ran into my FAVORITE former ex-student the other day. He was just as cute and polite and adorable as I remembered. He was very excited to see me and invited me to his soccer game that week. He plays for the men's soccer team at the local university. I went, and unfortunately they lost. I could write a whole blog about him and why I just adore him, and in fact, I think that will be the topic of my next blog (if I ever get around to it, that is).
We had some layoffs at work. Yes, us and the rest of the country, but it's really sad and scary. I just pray for the economy every night.
Well, that’s about all I have time for today. I have to go tutor.
xoxo, Maxine
I've decided I've come to a point in my life where I need to accept the fact that I am no longer cool and fun and the life of the party (which, yes, I was). Things that used to excite me in my youth now bring a stifled yawn. I'm not really sure where this slump is coming from, and I don't like it. Is it the changing of the seasons to winter? Is it the current economy and no one wants to go out (although, I have heard that cigarettes and alcohol are making a comeback. Now's the time to invest in sin funds! *Note: I am not licensed to give investment advice)? Is it the fact that I've gained about 100 pounds and can't fit into any of my old clothes? Ding Ding Ding! I think we have a winner!
Let's see what else is going on:
Cat's in California visiting her guy. She had dated a guy that she really liked for about three months when he moved to Cali. The results of that trip and the "relationship" to be determined, and I will be the first to admit I am waiting with bated breath!
I have been training for an 8K the past few weeks, and while I know it's not a big thing to people that always run, 5 miles is a huge freaking deal to me. The first time I ran 3.5 miles a few months ago, I amazed myself, I'd never run that far at one time without walking. And now, I will tell you, I am doing 5 miles like it ain't no thang! My original goal was after this 8K to start training for a half marathon, but I will tell you, I can't commit to that time commitment. I normally run 3 miles three times a week during the week, and 5 miles on Saturday. 5 miles takes nearly an hour, then you have to shower, etc. It's just too much time. If I train for a half marathon, then I'll have to run 5 miles during the week. I don't know how people do it! Really? How are they doing it? Oh, and as a side note, all this running has not contributed to any weight loss! >:(
I ran into my FAVORITE former ex-student the other day. He was just as cute and polite and adorable as I remembered. He was very excited to see me and invited me to his soccer game that week. He plays for the men's soccer team at the local university. I went, and unfortunately they lost. I could write a whole blog about him and why I just adore him, and in fact, I think that will be the topic of my next blog (if I ever get around to it, that is).
We had some layoffs at work. Yes, us and the rest of the country, but it's really sad and scary. I just pray for the economy every night.
Well, that’s about all I have time for today. I have to go tutor.
xoxo, Maxine
Thursday, August 14, 2008
KGB at work
Just as a quick FYI, I was ready to get pretty down and dirty on that last blog with some strong opinions, but have to keep it tame so I don't get dooced. Someone at work is spying on Cat and me, we have our ideas, but no confirmation.
'yaaaay go vote cause its cool and hott!!!!'
Today I read the following article on Brooke Hogan and voting. Now, while I definitely believe Brooke Hogan is an idiot (she made the same inane comment about Hilary Clinton on her show - wait, I just admitted I watched the show, whoops!!), she has an unbelievably valid point here. While on one hand, it is very exciting to see throngs of young voters (defined by one under age 35), a good amount of these voters are in fact voting just because some celebrity tells them too. Or, what's worse, because they don't like George W, and usually because the aforementioned celebrity tells them to dislike GW. They have no idea of any issues other than the war. No idea about taxes, healthcare, foreign policy, the economy, etc. I'm not saying they don't have a right to dislike GW, or to want to vote, but learn about the issues, become an educated voter before casting that ballot. And do it because you believe in who you vote for. Understand that "agent of change" losely translates into "higher taxes in an already fragile economy." Without naming parties, we all know darn well who these uneducated voters are voting for because "it's cool." What? They couldn't be bothered to register to vote prior to this election (for those that are over the age of 22), or if under 22, probably wouldn't have registered to begin with, except Kayne West tells them who to vote for.
- max
- max
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Lazy summer days
Things have still been as crazy as ever, but here I find myself with a few extra minutes at work (really, I'm taking my "lunch break" and hoping no one gets upset that I'm not doing work, when clearly, I'm just taking my lunch break in).
I did meet up with Engineer again last Friday. After work we met halfway again and had the most adorable date. I like how since we're meeting halfway, our dates are more thoughtful and more like old fashioned courting, as opposed to dinner and movie, or just drinks (as many of my friends can attest, this is the new cheapskate date). We have no problem talking, so it looks like Dr. Warren really may have hit on something here. At the end of the night, he gave me a little peck (so adorable) and said he'd like to see me again. But here it is Wednesday, and all I've received is two emails from him, but no suggestions of a next date. I'm just really fearing that between his shyness and the distance, things might fade out, where if he lived here, we wouldn't have that problem. So, I'm trying to make sure I encourage him a lot, but there's only so much a girl can do. There does get to a point where you want to know the guy likes you, and isn't just going out with you because you're suggesting it.
This week I'm getting a little break from all my obligations. In fact, I even managed to take off Friday and Monday! Friday, I just wanted to sleep in and go to the pool, so a friend from work and I did just that. Then Saturday I headed over to parents' house, where my brother was visiting from California. He was here with his new girlfriend (6 months I think) and she is just too adorable. We had a nice time, not doing anything too crazy, but definitely had a nice relaxing time.
Well, I guess that's it, the tales from my boring life. Back to work.
xoxo, Maxine
I did meet up with Engineer again last Friday. After work we met halfway again and had the most adorable date. I like how since we're meeting halfway, our dates are more thoughtful and more like old fashioned courting, as opposed to dinner and movie, or just drinks (as many of my friends can attest, this is the new cheapskate date). We have no problem talking, so it looks like Dr. Warren really may have hit on something here. At the end of the night, he gave me a little peck (so adorable) and said he'd like to see me again. But here it is Wednesday, and all I've received is two emails from him, but no suggestions of a next date. I'm just really fearing that between his shyness and the distance, things might fade out, where if he lived here, we wouldn't have that problem. So, I'm trying to make sure I encourage him a lot, but there's only so much a girl can do. There does get to a point where you want to know the guy likes you, and isn't just going out with you because you're suggesting it.
This week I'm getting a little break from all my obligations. In fact, I even managed to take off Friday and Monday! Friday, I just wanted to sleep in and go to the pool, so a friend from work and I did just that. Then Saturday I headed over to parents' house, where my brother was visiting from California. He was here with his new girlfriend (6 months I think) and she is just too adorable. We had a nice time, not doing anything too crazy, but definitely had a nice relaxing time.
Well, I guess that's it, the tales from my boring life. Back to work.
xoxo, Maxine
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Blind date success
Ah, I have been so busy, all over the place. I swear my house has become simply a dirty hotel room where I sleep, and don't have maids to come clean up after me. Between work, kickball, softball, happy hours, weddings, going out of town, other social activities, I just haven't had the time to take care of myself. But I am finding a few minutes right now to blog, but I'm warning, it may be a little ADD and all over the place.
So, last Saturday I met up with Engineer. He was so adorably dorky and cute I couldn't stand it. Really, he's totally a cute dork. The kind I like the best! You know, the type that you always had a secret crush on back in high school and college. I really liked him, he was funny, cute, smart, and nice, and we got along swimmingly.
Of course prior to meeting him, I was so nervous about would he like me, would he think I was attractive, or too fat, or what. But as soon as I saw him and saw how nervous he was too, I was instantly put at ease because he was clearly more nervous than me! We had the best conversation, never an awkward silence, and both of us really hit it off. I'm usually a good reader of people, and I could tell he was digging me. We met at the winery around 12:30, and our tour ended about 2. He suggested we get something to eat at the nearby town, which we did, and we walked around the street, looking at stuff. The town is a historic town, so there was lots to see, do, and talk about. Really though, we certainly did not have problems talking each others ears off. Around 4:30, I guess it was time to go. I know we both could have talked for hours more, but had things to do that evening. At the end, it was kind of awkward, both of us being like "urm, yea, so, uh, I had a really nice time." But I gave him a hug and that was it.
Sunday, I sent him an email saying I had a great time, and suggesting that we meet up again on Friday. He emailed back saying he thought that was a great idea, so I guess we are on for next Friday. I do think it's a little weird that we're still emailing, but I'm going to give him a call this week (between kickball, softball and country concert, not sure when I'll fit it in, unless it's late when I'm drunk, probably not a good idea) to make plans. I'm actually really excited, and excited to see him again without the first date jitters. And, it's even worse than first date jitters, because it was blind eH first date jitters, and especially for me, since it was my first eH date, I know I was kind of a spastic, airheaded fool. So, it's good that he liked that, because I can only get better as I get more confident. So, all in all, it was a huge success, and I am very pleased with it. I can't wait until Friday. Maybe you'll see me in the eH commercials soon! Haha, or maybe not. It's way too early to tell, plus I still fear I put all my eggs in Engineer's basket, so we'll see what happens!
xoxo, Maxi
So, last Saturday I met up with Engineer. He was so adorably dorky and cute I couldn't stand it. Really, he's totally a cute dork. The kind I like the best! You know, the type that you always had a secret crush on back in high school and college. I really liked him, he was funny, cute, smart, and nice, and we got along swimmingly.
Of course prior to meeting him, I was so nervous about would he like me, would he think I was attractive, or too fat, or what. But as soon as I saw him and saw how nervous he was too, I was instantly put at ease because he was clearly more nervous than me! We had the best conversation, never an awkward silence, and both of us really hit it off. I'm usually a good reader of people, and I could tell he was digging me. We met at the winery around 12:30, and our tour ended about 2. He suggested we get something to eat at the nearby town, which we did, and we walked around the street, looking at stuff. The town is a historic town, so there was lots to see, do, and talk about. Really though, we certainly did not have problems talking each others ears off. Around 4:30, I guess it was time to go. I know we both could have talked for hours more, but had things to do that evening. At the end, it was kind of awkward, both of us being like "urm, yea, so, uh, I had a really nice time." But I gave him a hug and that was it.
Sunday, I sent him an email saying I had a great time, and suggesting that we meet up again on Friday. He emailed back saying he thought that was a great idea, so I guess we are on for next Friday. I do think it's a little weird that we're still emailing, but I'm going to give him a call this week (between kickball, softball and country concert, not sure when I'll fit it in, unless it's late when I'm drunk, probably not a good idea) to make plans. I'm actually really excited, and excited to see him again without the first date jitters. And, it's even worse than first date jitters, because it was blind eH first date jitters, and especially for me, since it was my first eH date, I know I was kind of a spastic, airheaded fool. So, it's good that he liked that, because I can only get better as I get more confident. So, all in all, it was a huge success, and I am very pleased with it. I can't wait until Friday. Maybe you'll see me in the eH commercials soon! Haha, or maybe not. It's way too early to tell, plus I still fear I put all my eggs in Engineer's basket, so we'll see what happens!
xoxo, Maxi
Friday, July 18, 2008
eHarmon-me at last...
Note to readers: I started to type this last Thursday or Friday, but was unable to finish it, so I am going to post it as I left it last week, then post again today with the updates! - Max
Are you all ready for some exciting news? I am finally going out with Engineer! Woo hoo! And yes, while I have closed out my eHarmony account (although technically it still doesn’t expire until late next week), I have been emailing him on the side. As you know from my previous posts, I gave up on eHarmony pretty quickly, but I didn’t give up on Engineer. I do realize I put all my eggs in the same proverbial eHarmony basket, but that’s okay. I just realized I wasn’t at a point where I was ready to commit to eH. It was too time consuming. Maybe it’s more of a winter activity, rather than summer. And the matches get out of control so fast. You really have to devote time and energy to it. But I can definitely see myself signing back up in the future, it wasn’t terrible. There were some quality guys on there, I just wasn’t ready to commit to it. That’s all. So, before I talk about my date, I want to say that although I signed on most skeptically, I think eHarmony is a pretty good dating site, and if you are willing to commit to it, can provide some decent caliber people. The process does take time, so know that ahead of time, don’t get frustrated, and hopefully you’ll get good results as well. As far as the ones that fall along the wayside, be glad. It means they just aren’t that into you (or else, they’d respond), or you don’t want someone lazy like that anyways? Either way, only worry about the ones that
Back to Engineer. If this date works out, we will have to dub him a new name. I will have Cat help me think of something perfect. We have been emailing for 2 months now, and I cannot reiterate enough how great the email banter has been. He’s very clever, I really enjoy reading his emails, and he enjoys mine. I know so much about him! It’s just so bizarre how I feel like I’ve known him forever, but we haven’t even met. I guess this is what eH is supposed to do, right? I mean, when I think about it, I’m not really surprised, this is what everyone who’s had success on these sites have said, that they wrote these long emails, etc., and when they finally met, it was like they’d known the person forever. We’ll see what happens in real life, but Dr. Warren might be on to something. I might be a believer. But then again, I do think it’s risky that he’s the only guy I’m pursuing at all. Just the Law of Large Numbers would suggest that I should have gone out with several guys to ensure that one would work. But I guess it does just take one, right? Last night, we finally talked, and when we finally hung up the phone I was shocked to learn we’d been talking for 50 minutes! I would have bet money it was only 15. Our conversation was so cute! I am super excited about finally meeting him. I called Cat immediately after and her response was “Oh Maxi, you just sound so giddy!” We are meeting a winery half way between our two cities. Isn’t that the cutest first date ever? It’s a day date, I guess that follows the internet date protocol right? At least we aren’t meeting at Starbucks!!
Are you all ready for some exciting news? I am finally going out with Engineer! Woo hoo! And yes, while I have closed out my eHarmony account (although technically it still doesn’t expire until late next week), I have been emailing him on the side. As you know from my previous posts, I gave up on eHarmony pretty quickly, but I didn’t give up on Engineer. I do realize I put all my eggs in the same proverbial eHarmony basket, but that’s okay. I just realized I wasn’t at a point where I was ready to commit to eH. It was too time consuming. Maybe it’s more of a winter activity, rather than summer. And the matches get out of control so fast. You really have to devote time and energy to it. But I can definitely see myself signing back up in the future, it wasn’t terrible. There were some quality guys on there, I just wasn’t ready to commit to it. That’s all. So, before I talk about my date, I want to say that although I signed on most skeptically, I think eHarmony is a pretty good dating site, and if you are willing to commit to it, can provide some decent caliber people. The process does take time, so know that ahead of time, don’t get frustrated, and hopefully you’ll get good results as well. As far as the ones that fall along the wayside, be glad. It means they just aren’t that into you (or else, they’d respond), or you don’t want someone lazy like that anyways? Either way, only worry about the ones that
Back to Engineer. If this date works out, we will have to dub him a new name. I will have Cat help me think of something perfect. We have been emailing for 2 months now, and I cannot reiterate enough how great the email banter has been. He’s very clever, I really enjoy reading his emails, and he enjoys mine. I know so much about him! It’s just so bizarre how I feel like I’ve known him forever, but we haven’t even met. I guess this is what eH is supposed to do, right? I mean, when I think about it, I’m not really surprised, this is what everyone who’s had success on these sites have said, that they wrote these long emails, etc., and when they finally met, it was like they’d known the person forever. We’ll see what happens in real life, but Dr. Warren might be on to something. I might be a believer. But then again, I do think it’s risky that he’s the only guy I’m pursuing at all. Just the Law of Large Numbers would suggest that I should have gone out with several guys to ensure that one would work. But I guess it does just take one, right? Last night, we finally talked, and when we finally hung up the phone I was shocked to learn we’d been talking for 50 minutes! I would have bet money it was only 15. Our conversation was so cute! I am super excited about finally meeting him. I called Cat immediately after and her response was “Oh Maxi, you just sound so giddy!” We are meeting a winery half way between our two cities. Isn’t that the cutest first date ever? It’s a day date, I guess that follows the internet date protocol right? At least we aren’t meeting at Starbucks!!
Saturday, July 5, 2008
ChicagoLand
I'm sitting here in the airport and thought I'd write a quick blog during my layover. I'm coming back from spending 4th of July in Chicago with a friend that used to work with Cat and I. Chicago is, without a doubt, fabulous! I am so ready to up and move there. Except I can't stand the cold, at all. I become a whining, complaining, little brat and you don't want to be around me. Then, and when my feet hurt.
But back to the weekend. I had a great time. Thursday night, we went out to a fun bar, they played the best country music, which we all loved and sang along to. I met some basketball players from Loyola. Haha! Between basketball players and military men, I think I know my type. They were a little young though. I met a lot of the people from the Chicago office, which were all really fun and nice. We just had a great time. Then the next day, we all went out to North Beach, which is on Lake Michigan. I knew there was a beach there, and I knew people went there, but I was not at all prepared for what appeared to be spring break in Cancun. There were throngs of attractive people playing music, playing volleyball, drinking, having a good time. There was a bar on the lake, where people were milling around, dancing. What was so bizarre though, was the temperature difference just 50 feet out from the lake. As we walked to the lake, I could literally feel the temperature drop. I did get a little burned, because I couldn't tell how much sun I was getting. It's never ever mid-70s here. It goes from 50 to 100 overnight, so it was quite pleasant to enjoy the gorgeous weather. Honestly, the whole weekend, I couldn't have requested more gorgeous weather. Then that night we went out again to another bar. We didn't stay too late, we were tired from a late night the night before, and of course the sun always tires you. The today, we went to Garrett's popcorn, which is sooooo delicious, you must try it if you are ever in Chicago, it's definitely worth the wait. And we went up to the Signature Room at the Hancock building. They have the most amazing views, and you don't have to pay the fee to go on the observatory. Anyways, the whole weekend was just perfect. I can't wait to go again. Chicago is just awesome, that's all I can say. Everything about the city was amazing. More bars that you know what to do with. Each one filled with young, attractive people. The city is so clean and beautiful. The lake looks like the Caribbean, bright blue waters, the color of this blog. The cool breezes coming off the water made the city seem crisp and pleasant and friendly. I've been to lots of places in this country, and there really is no place like Chicago. It was a nice place to spend our Nation’s birthday!
Now time for SBP updates. The Marine has been crazy calling, but he is still as ridiculous as ever. Last Friday, he called to let me know he was coming into town, but was stopping at a friend's house. I was at the river concert series, and told him to call when he was here, which he estimated around 9. Well, the concert ends, we go out for drinks, and still no call. Maybe around 12, I was tired, and ready to go home and to bed, so I call to see what's up, and honestly to tell him it's too late now. He's drunk as a skunk at the friend's house. I wanted to be like "see, this is why I can't take you serious." Then, he calls me twice on Thursday while he's at a friend's cookout. Each time, he asks me the same questions, where are you? when are you coming home? and will you call me when you get in? He was like "promise me you'll call. please please." It was weird, he sounded so desperate. I really have no idea why he's so adamant about us getting together. I mean, I met him over a month ago, so it’s getting to the point where, yea, it was fun meeting and hanging out, but now, is it worth it? Is it going to happen? Probably not, and really, what can happen? He’s so out of control wild, it’s just not for me at this point. He was also bragging about how big his tongue is. Bizarre. I mean, I know what he's getting at, but I'm so not interested. Anyways, I got a text too last night saying "I really want to get crazy with you." I think I will call him Sunday and tell him that it was fun meeting him, but let's just call it like it is, and stop trying to get together and pretend anything's going to happen.
The Engineer from eH finally suggested we meet! I am beyond excited about this! He actually suggested we meet at a vineyard halfway between our houses, which is so cute! We'd been talking about how much we both like wine, so it was really appropriate, plus he was so cute. We had meet talking about meeting "protocol" and he suggested the vineyard than said "but I’m not sure if that’s your cup of tea for an initial encounter. I mean, I could be like completely sketchy or something." Ha, which I think is adorable. I don’t know, maybe you don’t, but I think it is. Cat doesn't like it, but I've told a few other people, and they all say go for it, so I think I will! I just can't get drunk, but it is perfect because I do love wine, and I absolutely think it's important to have alcohol at an initial meeting. Plus, if I can't drive back, I can stay at the Super 8 or something for $59.99.
The last SBP (the one my friend from work tried to set me up with) is no longer a SBP. I guess he's dating someone else. He was probably just seeing what was up while he decided whether he really liked that other girl, but I guess he made his mind up. He really was super cute, but I guess it's not meant to be.
So, Cat really wants me to go out tonight when I get back in town, but I'm not sure if I'm up for it. But she did drop and pick me up, so I guess it's the least I owe her. I guess I just feel so unbelievably fat and bloated from all the Chicago food and alcohol I ate this weekend. The stuffed pizza is to die for delicious, but it turns you into a stuffed slice!
xoxo, Maxi
But back to the weekend. I had a great time. Thursday night, we went out to a fun bar, they played the best country music, which we all loved and sang along to. I met some basketball players from Loyola. Haha! Between basketball players and military men, I think I know my type. They were a little young though. I met a lot of the people from the Chicago office, which were all really fun and nice. We just had a great time. Then the next day, we all went out to North Beach, which is on Lake Michigan. I knew there was a beach there, and I knew people went there, but I was not at all prepared for what appeared to be spring break in Cancun. There were throngs of attractive people playing music, playing volleyball, drinking, having a good time. There was a bar on the lake, where people were milling around, dancing. What was so bizarre though, was the temperature difference just 50 feet out from the lake. As we walked to the lake, I could literally feel the temperature drop. I did get a little burned, because I couldn't tell how much sun I was getting. It's never ever mid-70s here. It goes from 50 to 100 overnight, so it was quite pleasant to enjoy the gorgeous weather. Honestly, the whole weekend, I couldn't have requested more gorgeous weather. Then that night we went out again to another bar. We didn't stay too late, we were tired from a late night the night before, and of course the sun always tires you. The today, we went to Garrett's popcorn, which is sooooo delicious, you must try it if you are ever in Chicago, it's definitely worth the wait. And we went up to the Signature Room at the Hancock building. They have the most amazing views, and you don't have to pay the fee to go on the observatory. Anyways, the whole weekend was just perfect. I can't wait to go again. Chicago is just awesome, that's all I can say. Everything about the city was amazing. More bars that you know what to do with. Each one filled with young, attractive people. The city is so clean and beautiful. The lake looks like the Caribbean, bright blue waters, the color of this blog. The cool breezes coming off the water made the city seem crisp and pleasant and friendly. I've been to lots of places in this country, and there really is no place like Chicago. It was a nice place to spend our Nation’s birthday!
Now time for SBP updates. The Marine has been crazy calling, but he is still as ridiculous as ever. Last Friday, he called to let me know he was coming into town, but was stopping at a friend's house. I was at the river concert series, and told him to call when he was here, which he estimated around 9. Well, the concert ends, we go out for drinks, and still no call. Maybe around 12, I was tired, and ready to go home and to bed, so I call to see what's up, and honestly to tell him it's too late now. He's drunk as a skunk at the friend's house. I wanted to be like "see, this is why I can't take you serious." Then, he calls me twice on Thursday while he's at a friend's cookout. Each time, he asks me the same questions, where are you? when are you coming home? and will you call me when you get in? He was like "promise me you'll call. please please." It was weird, he sounded so desperate. I really have no idea why he's so adamant about us getting together. I mean, I met him over a month ago, so it’s getting to the point where, yea, it was fun meeting and hanging out, but now, is it worth it? Is it going to happen? Probably not, and really, what can happen? He’s so out of control wild, it’s just not for me at this point. He was also bragging about how big his tongue is. Bizarre. I mean, I know what he's getting at, but I'm so not interested. Anyways, I got a text too last night saying "I really want to get crazy with you." I think I will call him Sunday and tell him that it was fun meeting him, but let's just call it like it is, and stop trying to get together and pretend anything's going to happen.
The Engineer from eH finally suggested we meet! I am beyond excited about this! He actually suggested we meet at a vineyard halfway between our houses, which is so cute! We'd been talking about how much we both like wine, so it was really appropriate, plus he was so cute. We had meet talking about meeting "protocol" and he suggested the vineyard than said "but I’m not sure if that’s your cup of tea for an initial encounter. I mean, I could be like completely sketchy or something." Ha, which I think is adorable. I don’t know, maybe you don’t, but I think it is. Cat doesn't like it, but I've told a few other people, and they all say go for it, so I think I will! I just can't get drunk, but it is perfect because I do love wine, and I absolutely think it's important to have alcohol at an initial meeting. Plus, if I can't drive back, I can stay at the Super 8 or something for $59.99.
The last SBP (the one my friend from work tried to set me up with) is no longer a SBP. I guess he's dating someone else. He was probably just seeing what was up while he decided whether he really liked that other girl, but I guess he made his mind up. He really was super cute, but I guess it's not meant to be.
So, Cat really wants me to go out tonight when I get back in town, but I'm not sure if I'm up for it. But she did drop and pick me up, so I guess it's the least I owe her. I guess I just feel so unbelievably fat and bloated from all the Chicago food and alcohol I ate this weekend. The stuffed pizza is to die for delicious, but it turns you into a stuffed slice!
xoxo, Maxi
Monday, June 23, 2008
Man I love these younger boys
Well, I now have SBP4. Haha, not really in the least, but potential for some serious scandal! This past Saturday, Cat and I and another friend went to one of my favorite bars. I usually have good success at this bar. I met the Major, Coach, and another guy I dated on and off for over a year at this bar. Like I said, this bar usually turns out some dates. Cat, M and I are sitting at a high table, and I see someone at the bar that I recognize. It took a little while for it to register, but then I remembered it was a guy I used to teach a few years ago. (I used to teach high school math, but have been at my current job for 3 years now).
I tap him on the shoulder, and he instantly recognizes me. We get to talking, and it sounds like he's doing well for himself. He really was a complete slacker in high school. I had him in Geometry as a junior (it was his second go round). He used to drive me crazy, but in a good, kind of weird way. For example, he was wildly inappropriate all the time. He would ask me all these sex questions, like had I ever had a threesome, when did I lose my virginity, would I ever sleep with a 17 year old. I think at the time, he was living with his sister instead of at home, and whenever I would call the mom, she was like "he's not my responsibility anymore." I do remember once he was getting something out of his wallet and a ton of condoms fell out. I was like "what do you need these for?" He was like "girl, I can rock your world better than any guy your age." (I think I was 23 at the time). Apparently he was dating a 22 year old and he would always bring that up as reason why it was okay for him to be so sexually inappropriate with me. I don't know why, but I liked it in a weird, perverse way.
So, this might sound bad, but I always wanted to make out with a former student, just for the story, and just so he would have one hell of a story to tell his buddies. So, the more I'm talking, the more I'm remembering how I secretly enjoyed his inappropriate attention, and the more I'm thinking he would be the perfect guy to make out with. So, in the middle of the conversation, I just blurt out "So, I think we should make out." He looks at me, trying to take it all in, and goes "okay." So, I proceed to tell him that I've always wanted to make out with a former student, and just never found the right one, and I think he'd be the right one. And really I wanted to do it so that the guy would have a good story for his friends, and wouldn't he like to tell all his friends that he made out with me? Seriously, it was like telling a five year old they may get a puppy. He was ecstatic! So, I continue with this perverse conversation, but tell him I'm probably not drunk enough to do it, but I want us to do it, we need to set it up. He's trying to buy me shots of tequila and all this.
A little bit later, Cat's ready to go, so I tell him I have to leave. He manages to get my number (and by manage, he simply asks for it, I'm such a number whore!). Well, this is where it gets really out of control! He texts me later that night.
Ex-High School Student (HSS): "you know what ms. (last name)/maxi i have always thought about hooking up with you, but thought it was just a dream. I may be young, but i know how to make you forget your name."
Me: HSS i'm serious, i'm all about it
I go to bed at this time and don't get these until the next morning.
HSS: I really wish you were. Cause i would love to spend the night with you and show you a hell of a time. But i feel like you would not be down."
HSS: That was prob a little too forward. Sorry
HSS:I guess that was a little forward
HSS: Ok nevermind
The next morning I wake up and see these wildly inappropriate texts and reply back with:
Me: Haha, I just got these now.
HSS:Haha.
HSS: I ended up getting wasted last night
HSS: I don't remember what i said (yea effing right, he just doesn't want to feel foolish)
Me: Nothing bad, I mean, I thought you were fun. And anything that you may have said that could be construed as inappropriate was completely instigated by me
HSS: Yea you did instigate this whole thing. But now you got me thinkin about it, but either way im still glad we ran into each other
Isn't that the most ridiculous story ever? And here's the worst part, his texts got me really intrigued! I was purely just talking about making out, and he took it to a whole new level. And now, I sort of want to find out if he really can make me forget my name. I am so not one to be involved in scandals like this. The number of guys I've been intimate with can be counted on one hand, and here I am, wanting to increase my number with a 21 year old, who never went to college, has 2 DUI's, probably no license or job, and is a former student. I mean, the story would spread like wildfire. I have a reputation to uphold and although the part of me that never misbehaves is dying to find out, the part that realizes I have to live in this city and potentially have my name associated with sleeping with a guy 7 years my junior, and a former student, is winning the debate (fortunately, I might add. We all know I'd regret this the next morning).
Anyways, I doubt I hear from him again, but even if we didn't make out, the story that he has for his friends about how I propositioned him, may be just as good as actually making out.
Summertime always makes me feel wild, but then fall comes around, and I have to deal with the repercussions. The more situations I get in with people such as HSS, or the college sophomore, the more I realize, I have MAJOR cougar potential.
xoxo, Maxi
I tap him on the shoulder, and he instantly recognizes me. We get to talking, and it sounds like he's doing well for himself. He really was a complete slacker in high school. I had him in Geometry as a junior (it was his second go round). He used to drive me crazy, but in a good, kind of weird way. For example, he was wildly inappropriate all the time. He would ask me all these sex questions, like had I ever had a threesome, when did I lose my virginity, would I ever sleep with a 17 year old. I think at the time, he was living with his sister instead of at home, and whenever I would call the mom, she was like "he's not my responsibility anymore." I do remember once he was getting something out of his wallet and a ton of condoms fell out. I was like "what do you need these for?" He was like "girl, I can rock your world better than any guy your age." (I think I was 23 at the time). Apparently he was dating a 22 year old and he would always bring that up as reason why it was okay for him to be so sexually inappropriate with me. I don't know why, but I liked it in a weird, perverse way.
So, this might sound bad, but I always wanted to make out with a former student, just for the story, and just so he would have one hell of a story to tell his buddies. So, the more I'm talking, the more I'm remembering how I secretly enjoyed his inappropriate attention, and the more I'm thinking he would be the perfect guy to make out with. So, in the middle of the conversation, I just blurt out "So, I think we should make out." He looks at me, trying to take it all in, and goes "okay." So, I proceed to tell him that I've always wanted to make out with a former student, and just never found the right one, and I think he'd be the right one. And really I wanted to do it so that the guy would have a good story for his friends, and wouldn't he like to tell all his friends that he made out with me? Seriously, it was like telling a five year old they may get a puppy. He was ecstatic! So, I continue with this perverse conversation, but tell him I'm probably not drunk enough to do it, but I want us to do it, we need to set it up. He's trying to buy me shots of tequila and all this.
A little bit later, Cat's ready to go, so I tell him I have to leave. He manages to get my number (and by manage, he simply asks for it, I'm such a number whore!). Well, this is where it gets really out of control! He texts me later that night.
Ex-High School Student (HSS): "you know what ms. (last name)/maxi i have always thought about hooking up with you, but thought it was just a dream. I may be young, but i know how to make you forget your name."
Me: HSS i'm serious, i'm all about it
I go to bed at this time and don't get these until the next morning.
HSS: I really wish you were. Cause i would love to spend the night with you and show you a hell of a time. But i feel like you would not be down."
HSS: That was prob a little too forward. Sorry
HSS:I guess that was a little forward
HSS: Ok nevermind
The next morning I wake up and see these wildly inappropriate texts and reply back with:
Me: Haha, I just got these now.
HSS:Haha.
HSS: I ended up getting wasted last night
HSS: I don't remember what i said (yea effing right, he just doesn't want to feel foolish)
Me: Nothing bad, I mean, I thought you were fun. And anything that you may have said that could be construed as inappropriate was completely instigated by me
HSS: Yea you did instigate this whole thing. But now you got me thinkin about it, but either way im still glad we ran into each other
Isn't that the most ridiculous story ever? And here's the worst part, his texts got me really intrigued! I was purely just talking about making out, and he took it to a whole new level. And now, I sort of want to find out if he really can make me forget my name. I am so not one to be involved in scandals like this. The number of guys I've been intimate with can be counted on one hand, and here I am, wanting to increase my number with a 21 year old, who never went to college, has 2 DUI's, probably no license or job, and is a former student. I mean, the story would spread like wildfire. I have a reputation to uphold and although the part of me that never misbehaves is dying to find out, the part that realizes I have to live in this city and potentially have my name associated with sleeping with a guy 7 years my junior, and a former student, is winning the debate (fortunately, I might add. We all know I'd regret this the next morning).
Anyways, I doubt I hear from him again, but even if we didn't make out, the story that he has for his friends about how I propositioned him, may be just as good as actually making out.
Summertime always makes me feel wild, but then fall comes around, and I have to deal with the repercussions. The more situations I get in with people such as HSS, or the college sophomore, the more I realize, I have MAJOR cougar potential.
xoxo, Maxi
Friday, June 20, 2008
Musings from a woman scorned...
Some people in Cat’s and my office think they’re so smart. Little do they know who they’re dealing with! And one may think that this would make me cease my blog, but no, I am not going to let the likes of these two jokesters ruin my blog!
I know it’s been a long time, but I don’t have internet connection at my house anymore so I haven’t had the chance to blog in awhile.
Here’s the short and long of what’s been going on.
Last week I thought I had three potential summer BF’s, but, true to form, I now have zero. Oh well, isn’t that how it always goes?
Last weekend I went on stage to get hypnotized by a hypnotist that comes around to the local comedy club ever two or three months. It was pretty fun. It’s the type of show where he hypnotizes a couple of people and makes them act crazy. Well, there was a pretty cute guy up there who was in the Marines. We were sitting next to each other and acting foolish with one another. When the show was over, I ran down to Cat and another friend we were with and suggested that we get the Marine to come out with us that night! Cat, who is never the shy one, found him and told him that her friend, the one that was up there, wanted to meet him. Well, we hung out that Friday night, and then again Sunday night. He spent the night both times (yikes! I know! But nothing happened, I swear, purely PG-13) and the next week he was calling, wanting me to come visit this weekend coming up. He is super cute, he’s an officer (I must be sending out the signals for Officers after Major Dad), I haven’t laughed that hard in years, and he is one good snuggler, I will tell you what! So, there’s Summer Boyfriend Potential 1.
SBP2 is CJ. My friend from work set it up so that we had a quasi-double date. And it was a lot of fun. I feel like CJ thinks I’m cute. I mean, I’m not that dumb, I can tell when guys are into me, and I felt like I was getting the vibe, but I don’t know. He hasn’t asked for my number or made any other moves. I can’t be making the first move around these dunderheads, or else I’ll be initiating everything our whole relationship. If the guy can’t be man enough in the beginning, then when can he be?
SBP3 is Engineer from eH. He gave me his real email address a little while ago, and we’ve been emailing for over a month now! His emails are still super cute and fun to read. And in fact, we had a cute little banter where he was asking if I had any secret talents. I told him something about how I didn’t think I did, and I was feeling very un-special and needed to call my mom for some ego boost. Well, in his next email he said he didn’t know if it was a secret talent or not, but my emails made him laugh and are “way entertaining to read and that should count for something.” Haha, he loves me! But I will admit, writing him emails is a stressful process. I take time and energy making sure they’re the right mix of wit and seriousness. (Unlike this blog, which my first draft goes to publishing, and is more of stream of consciousness).
Ok, now that I’ve set the stage for the SBP’s, let’s explain how they all quickly turned into nothing.
The Marine is 24 and ridiculous. Just out of control, wild, and while that would be fun for the weekend to go down and visit and go out with a bunch of officers (you know I would be in hog heaven in that situation), he’s just too unreliable. He called me Sunday and said he thought he may have to work through the weekend. Well, Maxi ain’t no fool. I knew what was up. I told him “well, should we just cancel now?” He said “no, I want to see you, it’s just that I may not be able to let you know until Friday.” Uh huh. I see. So, I told him that I didn’t think I had any plans yet, but if I got an offer, I would take it, and if not, and he wasn’t working, I’d still like to come. Because honestly, I wanted to lay out and get tan, and I wanted to go out and party with the 24 year old officers! But he called last night, and confirmed he had to work. I let him know I figured as much, and hadn’t been holding my breath. I think that’s the last I’m going to hear from him. I guess he found some other lady the other weekend that he fancies better. How that is possible, of course I don’t know, but that’s what I think is going on.
SBP2 just isn’t that into me I don’t think. I mean, on one hand, I think I’m getting the vibe from him, but on the other, he’s not making any moves that would suggest that he is into me. I’m not going to suggest to my friend that we meet up or anything like that again. If something happens, or if he wants to get proactive, then fine, but otherwise, he’s officially crossed off my SBP list.
SBP3 is the biggest dunderhead of all! He’s not making any suggestions that we meet in real life, and while I am thoroughly enjoying the email banter, it can only go on for so long. I have a feeling this will fade away by two weeks time.
This will be my last eH update I think. Yesterday, I emptied out my account. I still have a month on it, but hadn’t been receiving matches for over a month. I signed up mainly to see what was going on, but I wasn’t impressed. I think I can still do it the old fashioned way. I closed out everyone, including fun fat, the guy that doesn’t know how to spell his own name, and a couple of other random ones. My final count is 143 closed matches. (I technically left Engineer open though, just because I thought that would be weird). I received these matches in about a month and felt like the quickly got out of control. I think I’ll hold off into foraying back into online dating until after I’m 30. I think that’s the age where I’ll be less likely to be petrified that every time I go out, I’m going to run into someone that “knows.”
Hopefully I’ll have some good updates on SBP 2 or 3 (or even 4+) soon!
xoxo, Maxine
I know it’s been a long time, but I don’t have internet connection at my house anymore so I haven’t had the chance to blog in awhile.
Here’s the short and long of what’s been going on.
Last week I thought I had three potential summer BF’s, but, true to form, I now have zero. Oh well, isn’t that how it always goes?
Last weekend I went on stage to get hypnotized by a hypnotist that comes around to the local comedy club ever two or three months. It was pretty fun. It’s the type of show where he hypnotizes a couple of people and makes them act crazy. Well, there was a pretty cute guy up there who was in the Marines. We were sitting next to each other and acting foolish with one another. When the show was over, I ran down to Cat and another friend we were with and suggested that we get the Marine to come out with us that night! Cat, who is never the shy one, found him and told him that her friend, the one that was up there, wanted to meet him. Well, we hung out that Friday night, and then again Sunday night. He spent the night both times (yikes! I know! But nothing happened, I swear, purely PG-13) and the next week he was calling, wanting me to come visit this weekend coming up. He is super cute, he’s an officer (I must be sending out the signals for Officers after Major Dad), I haven’t laughed that hard in years, and he is one good snuggler, I will tell you what! So, there’s Summer Boyfriend Potential 1.
SBP2 is CJ. My friend from work set it up so that we had a quasi-double date. And it was a lot of fun. I feel like CJ thinks I’m cute. I mean, I’m not that dumb, I can tell when guys are into me, and I felt like I was getting the vibe, but I don’t know. He hasn’t asked for my number or made any other moves. I can’t be making the first move around these dunderheads, or else I’ll be initiating everything our whole relationship. If the guy can’t be man enough in the beginning, then when can he be?
SBP3 is Engineer from eH. He gave me his real email address a little while ago, and we’ve been emailing for over a month now! His emails are still super cute and fun to read. And in fact, we had a cute little banter where he was asking if I had any secret talents. I told him something about how I didn’t think I did, and I was feeling very un-special and needed to call my mom for some ego boost. Well, in his next email he said he didn’t know if it was a secret talent or not, but my emails made him laugh and are “way entertaining to read and that should count for something.” Haha, he loves me! But I will admit, writing him emails is a stressful process. I take time and energy making sure they’re the right mix of wit and seriousness. (Unlike this blog, which my first draft goes to publishing, and is more of stream of consciousness).
Ok, now that I’ve set the stage for the SBP’s, let’s explain how they all quickly turned into nothing.
The Marine is 24 and ridiculous. Just out of control, wild, and while that would be fun for the weekend to go down and visit and go out with a bunch of officers (you know I would be in hog heaven in that situation), he’s just too unreliable. He called me Sunday and said he thought he may have to work through the weekend. Well, Maxi ain’t no fool. I knew what was up. I told him “well, should we just cancel now?” He said “no, I want to see you, it’s just that I may not be able to let you know until Friday.” Uh huh. I see. So, I told him that I didn’t think I had any plans yet, but if I got an offer, I would take it, and if not, and he wasn’t working, I’d still like to come. Because honestly, I wanted to lay out and get tan, and I wanted to go out and party with the 24 year old officers! But he called last night, and confirmed he had to work. I let him know I figured as much, and hadn’t been holding my breath. I think that’s the last I’m going to hear from him. I guess he found some other lady the other weekend that he fancies better. How that is possible, of course I don’t know, but that’s what I think is going on.
SBP2 just isn’t that into me I don’t think. I mean, on one hand, I think I’m getting the vibe from him, but on the other, he’s not making any moves that would suggest that he is into me. I’m not going to suggest to my friend that we meet up or anything like that again. If something happens, or if he wants to get proactive, then fine, but otherwise, he’s officially crossed off my SBP list.
SBP3 is the biggest dunderhead of all! He’s not making any suggestions that we meet in real life, and while I am thoroughly enjoying the email banter, it can only go on for so long. I have a feeling this will fade away by two weeks time.
This will be my last eH update I think. Yesterday, I emptied out my account. I still have a month on it, but hadn’t been receiving matches for over a month. I signed up mainly to see what was going on, but I wasn’t impressed. I think I can still do it the old fashioned way. I closed out everyone, including fun fat, the guy that doesn’t know how to spell his own name, and a couple of other random ones. My final count is 143 closed matches. (I technically left Engineer open though, just because I thought that would be weird). I received these matches in about a month and felt like the quickly got out of control. I think I’ll hold off into foraying back into online dating until after I’m 30. I think that’s the age where I’ll be less likely to be petrified that every time I go out, I’m going to run into someone that “knows.”
Hopefully I’ll have some good updates on SBP 2 or 3 (or even 4+) soon!
xoxo, Maxine
Thursday, June 5, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 39
Oh my, do I have some news for you! Last night, Cat was doing some snooping on Match and found Fun Fat! Haha! Of course, he had the usual “Over the bar scene” line going on. I need to get rid of him (didn't I say that a few days ago?). The only reason I got this far with him anyways is because Cat was egging me on. I never thought he was cute, I was never attracted to anything about his personality. Plus, he's really intense. His first email to me was May 19. I responded May 22. He wrote back May 23. I didn’t reply back yet, then he wrote again on the 26th. I was sort of leaving him out to dry (I feel a little bit bad about that, but not too much), then he wrote again on June 2nd asking was anyone home and he hoped I wasn't ignoring him because he thought we had a lot of potential, and he was looking forward to getting to know me, and he could see us together!! I finally wrote him back last night, saying I was sorry I was busy. He immediately wrote back. His emails are kind of intense, and I’m just not into his emails. Anyways, seeing him on Match just confirmed that I need to close him out. I wonder how many people he’s talking to. Or (and this is going to sound vain, but it’s the truth), if I’m one of the more attractive girls he’s talking to so he’s excited.
Oh! And someone else interesting was found on Match. There was another guy that I'm in OC with. He's okay. Normal, cute, okay emails with him. Well, on eH, he said he had a son, who was the light of his life, and all this. I even asked about him in 2nd questions, and the guy was all about how great his son was, unfortunately he didn't get to see him as much as he wanted because he lives with the mom. Well, on match, this guy definitely said he didn't have any kids! That's a little weird, right? Kind of shady? Also, let's say his name was Steve? He spelled it Steven on one site, and Stephen on the other. Even more shady. Weird. I think he needs to get the boot as well.
Engineer and I have still been emailing, but nothing has matriculated as far as talking on the phone or meeting. We have some good banter, I will say that. He’s very clever and witty and smart, and our emails really feed off of each other’s well. I definitely would like for us to meet. We’ll see what happens. I don’t know how to proceed. What’s the average time on OC before it either goes to the next level or fades away? Who needs to make the next move? I started communication with him (pretty brazen of me, huh?) but still want him to be traditional and ask to meet me first.
All this flirty email reminds me of TC. This blog was not around during TC’s time, but let me give you some quick background. My friend thought TC and I would make a cute couple, so she gave him my myspace page. He must have liked what he saw, because he started emailing me. We flirted back and forth for a few weeks, but he wasn’t making any moves. Finally, I wrote “well, it was nice emailing you, maybe we’ll bump into each other sometime.” It was just getting old just emailing. Anyways, he wrote back “maybe we should bump into each other on purpose” (or something like that) and we met. Unfortunately I can’t do that with Engineer for two reasons. 1. I’m on this site, isn’t the purpose to meet someone, not just have an email buddy? 2. He doesn’t live in the same city as me. So, I’m kind of at a lose on how to proceed. Oh! This is important about TC. We had some great, witty, funny, flirty email banter. Much like Engineer and I do. However, when I met TC in real life, he was such a dud, I couldn’t believe it. Zero personality. How can someone be so great online, but so terrible in real life? I wonder if that’s how Engineer’s going to be (if we ever meet that is).
No new news on the CJ front. The girl from my work is going to try to plan a happy hour next Thursday and see if he comes. I think if he doesn't come then that will let me know what he thinks about me, because if he really liked me, he'd make sure he was there. Then, if he doesn't ask for my digits then, then I'm going to not worry about him anymore. Because the first meeting (at the cookout) I think set the stage. Then, at the concert, we were hard core flirting, then Saturday at the bar, it was more like tension flirting, you know what I mean, right? When I say tension? So, I think the next meeting is going to be do or die. If he does, then awesome, if he doesn't, then time to move on, I don't need a bumblehead like that anyways.
xoxo, Max
Oh! And someone else interesting was found on Match. There was another guy that I'm in OC with. He's okay. Normal, cute, okay emails with him. Well, on eH, he said he had a son, who was the light of his life, and all this. I even asked about him in 2nd questions, and the guy was all about how great his son was, unfortunately he didn't get to see him as much as he wanted because he lives with the mom. Well, on match, this guy definitely said he didn't have any kids! That's a little weird, right? Kind of shady? Also, let's say his name was Steve? He spelled it Steven on one site, and Stephen on the other. Even more shady. Weird. I think he needs to get the boot as well.
Engineer and I have still been emailing, but nothing has matriculated as far as talking on the phone or meeting. We have some good banter, I will say that. He’s very clever and witty and smart, and our emails really feed off of each other’s well. I definitely would like for us to meet. We’ll see what happens. I don’t know how to proceed. What’s the average time on OC before it either goes to the next level or fades away? Who needs to make the next move? I started communication with him (pretty brazen of me, huh?) but still want him to be traditional and ask to meet me first.
All this flirty email reminds me of TC. This blog was not around during TC’s time, but let me give you some quick background. My friend thought TC and I would make a cute couple, so she gave him my myspace page. He must have liked what he saw, because he started emailing me. We flirted back and forth for a few weeks, but he wasn’t making any moves. Finally, I wrote “well, it was nice emailing you, maybe we’ll bump into each other sometime.” It was just getting old just emailing. Anyways, he wrote back “maybe we should bump into each other on purpose” (or something like that) and we met. Unfortunately I can’t do that with Engineer for two reasons. 1. I’m on this site, isn’t the purpose to meet someone, not just have an email buddy? 2. He doesn’t live in the same city as me. So, I’m kind of at a lose on how to proceed. Oh! This is important about TC. We had some great, witty, funny, flirty email banter. Much like Engineer and I do. However, when I met TC in real life, he was such a dud, I couldn’t believe it. Zero personality. How can someone be so great online, but so terrible in real life? I wonder if that’s how Engineer’s going to be (if we ever meet that is).
No new news on the CJ front. The girl from my work is going to try to plan a happy hour next Thursday and see if he comes. I think if he doesn't come then that will let me know what he thinks about me, because if he really liked me, he'd make sure he was there. Then, if he doesn't ask for my digits then, then I'm going to not worry about him anymore. Because the first meeting (at the cookout) I think set the stage. Then, at the concert, we were hard core flirting, then Saturday at the bar, it was more like tension flirting, you know what I mean, right? When I say tension? So, I think the next meeting is going to be do or die. If he does, then awesome, if he doesn't, then time to move on, I don't need a bumblehead like that anyways.
xoxo, Max
Sunday, June 1, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 35
It's been a little over a month, and I'm definitely over eHarmony. It was really fun and exciting at first, but the excitement wore off as I realized 90% of my matches were complete duds (and that a good portion of those matches were also probably not active). I haven't been receiving matches for over a week, and have just been communicating with my active matches.
13 current matches
11/13 in communication - I actually took this afternoon to either respond or close out everyone that I was communicating with
130 closed
I'm still excited about the engineer. We've each emailed 2 times. No mention of actually meeting, but the emails have been promising, and at the very least, fun to read and respond.
I'm going to close fun fat. I don't think I'm going to like him, and he seems a little intense for me.
In non-eHarmony news. I definitely have a real life, non-internet crush. A girl at work's been wanting me to meet her friend CJ for about a year now, but either he was seeing someone, or I was. At her Memorial Day cookout, we finally met, and he was super duper adorable. We talked a little at the cookout. This past Friday, the girl invited a bunch of people out to hang out at the free Friday concerts, and CJ came. He was definitely flirting with me. I was definitely feeling that he was digging me. But he didn't ask for my number. Last night, I went to a local bar with some friends and CJ was there. Once again, he was flirting with me, which was cute. We danced, and talked and it was fun. But that was it. I got hugs both nights, I know he likes me, or at least is interested in me, but he hasn't asked for my number or anything. Cat thinks he might be one of those types that likes to hang out with a girl a number of times before he decides to make a move. I'm just excited because I have a straight on crush. I haven't "crushed" on someone in a long time. I've liked guys that I've been dated, but no real "crush" so to speak. I hope this crush goes to the next level, and soon. I think he will be the perfect summertime boyfriend. And hopefully longer! ;)
I saw Sex and the City this weekend as well. It was really good. I enjoyed the movie, I laughed, I cried, it was great. I couldn't believe how old the characters got, in just 4 years, it was unbelievable. I had a good time, saw it was 8 girlfriends, then we went out for dinner (then to the bar where I saw CJ). I don't know that I would have gotten back together with Big though, just that the wedding wasn't the first time he's screwed her over. What happened to that saying, screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me? Well, Carrie's at screw me 12 times, and we'll still live happily ever after. I thought that guy that wrote He's Just Not That Into You helped with the series. Well, I think the countless times Big's screwed Carrie over would have been clear signs that he's not that into you. Talk about giving girls a false hope. Yes, he'll get married to someone else, dump you twice, cheat on his wife, leave you at the alter, convince you to commit adultery, not introduce you to his mom or friends, constantly keep you in the dark about how he feels, but hey, there still might be a chance for you. Ok, enough of that. Seriously, I did love the movie though.
I know it's only 9:30, but I think I might go to bed. I haven't been sleeping well lately, and I'm exhausted, so I hope that means I'll sleep well tonight. Oh joy, a nice sleep to be excited for work tomorrow! Ugh!
Take care, talk to you all later.
xoxo, Maxi
13 current matches
11/13 in communication - I actually took this afternoon to either respond or close out everyone that I was communicating with
130 closed
I'm still excited about the engineer. We've each emailed 2 times. No mention of actually meeting, but the emails have been promising, and at the very least, fun to read and respond.
I'm going to close fun fat. I don't think I'm going to like him, and he seems a little intense for me.
In non-eHarmony news. I definitely have a real life, non-internet crush. A girl at work's been wanting me to meet her friend CJ for about a year now, but either he was seeing someone, or I was. At her Memorial Day cookout, we finally met, and he was super duper adorable. We talked a little at the cookout. This past Friday, the girl invited a bunch of people out to hang out at the free Friday concerts, and CJ came. He was definitely flirting with me. I was definitely feeling that he was digging me. But he didn't ask for my number. Last night, I went to a local bar with some friends and CJ was there. Once again, he was flirting with me, which was cute. We danced, and talked and it was fun. But that was it. I got hugs both nights, I know he likes me, or at least is interested in me, but he hasn't asked for my number or anything. Cat thinks he might be one of those types that likes to hang out with a girl a number of times before he decides to make a move. I'm just excited because I have a straight on crush. I haven't "crushed" on someone in a long time. I've liked guys that I've been dated, but no real "crush" so to speak. I hope this crush goes to the next level, and soon. I think he will be the perfect summertime boyfriend. And hopefully longer! ;)
I saw Sex and the City this weekend as well. It was really good. I enjoyed the movie, I laughed, I cried, it was great. I couldn't believe how old the characters got, in just 4 years, it was unbelievable. I had a good time, saw it was 8 girlfriends, then we went out for dinner (then to the bar where I saw CJ). I don't know that I would have gotten back together with Big though, just that the wedding wasn't the first time he's screwed her over. What happened to that saying, screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me? Well, Carrie's at screw me 12 times, and we'll still live happily ever after. I thought that guy that wrote He's Just Not That Into You helped with the series. Well, I think the countless times Big's screwed Carrie over would have been clear signs that he's not that into you. Talk about giving girls a false hope. Yes, he'll get married to someone else, dump you twice, cheat on his wife, leave you at the alter, convince you to commit adultery, not introduce you to his mom or friends, constantly keep you in the dark about how he feels, but hey, there still might be a chance for you. Ok, enough of that. Seriously, I did love the movie though.
I know it's only 9:30, but I think I might go to bed. I haven't been sleeping well lately, and I'm exhausted, so I hope that means I'll sleep well tonight. Oh joy, a nice sleep to be excited for work tomorrow! Ugh!
Take care, talk to you all later.
xoxo, Maxi
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 31
I know, I know, I have been ONE BAD BLOGGER lately. But like I said earlier, it’s because the novelty has worn off, and I haven’t had any matches that have excited me. I’ve been on for about a month now, and no real progress to speak of.
Let’s see here. I closed out matches for about a week now. I only have 15 “open” matches, of which I am communicating with 12. Some that I’m “communicating” with, I’d rather not. For example, one of the duds that I went into OC with turned out to be a super email dud. It was so hard to squeak any sort of response back to him, and I’m sure he could notice that because he hasn’t replied back to me either. Fun fat emailed me a while ago for the second time, I haven’t responded back, and he sent me another email today! Yikes! I couldn’t read it at work, so I will be interested in seeing what he has to say. The only one I’m somewhat excited about is the engineer. He is still just as cute and funny as ever. I wrote him a second email back yesterday. But the more I think about it, the more I wonder if it will work. He lives about 1 hour and 45 minutes away, and the more I think about this, the more I don’t think I can literally afford a long distance, driving every weekend relationship. First, the gas alone will send me to the poor house, secondly, when am I going to do anything on my house? I cannot, I repeat CANNOT neglect my house!
I’ll probably open matches up again, but I wanted to take a break, so to speak. Plus, there was the free weekend. Oh, radio guy commented back to my close message “I thought we had potential…” I think he must have been able to log on for the free weekend. He was the one that sent me his email address. Maybe I’ll shoot him an email, we’ll see.
Speaking of emails, I wanted to write a quick update on Major. I finally wrote him an email, (I spent lots of time making sure it wasn’t accusatory, or give him any ultimatums, etc.). Basically I said I was confused as to why he was calling me and wanting me to come out. I really couldn’t tell if it was because he was being nice or whether he really cared for me. I would have liked for us to maintain a relationship, but understand if he doesn’t, given his situation. I thought it was a well written email. He responded with telling me he cared very deeply for me, I helped him through a very rough time in his life. He would like to see me, that’s why he invited me out, but to talk about a future without seeing the whole picture would be premature. He definitely wanted me to come out, meet his daughter, see where he lives, etc. But with that all said, he indicated long distance relationships are tough. It was a very adult response, and he had a lot of valid points. But I don’t really know where I see this going now. I emailed him back and told him I had a lot to think about and would call him, but that was almost a week ago. I just don’t know what I want. I wish it could be easy and simple and he lived here, child and all. But I really don’t see how I can afford to fly out there, and he’s right, long distance relationships are hard, and they’re even harder if you can’t afford to see the person. So, I’m wondering if I just let us be as friends, and who knows, maybe in 6 months, a year’s time, things will be different and if it’s meant to be, then things will work out so that it is. But at least I feel good that I let him know how I felt, and I can’t ever be like “what if?”
Memorial Day weekend was really nice. Had a few cookouts Thursday through Sunday. Then Sunday, I headed to my parents where my parents, aunt, uncle and I went out on the boat on the lake. It was such an amazingly perfect day! I got some serious tan! Woo hoo! I am a sun lover 100%! I actually took work off on Tuesday as well and spent some extra time at the pool. Everyone was commenting about how tan I looked, and for those that know me, saying I look tan is just as good as saying I look skinny or pretty!
xoxo, Maxi
Let’s see here. I closed out matches for about a week now. I only have 15 “open” matches, of which I am communicating with 12. Some that I’m “communicating” with, I’d rather not. For example, one of the duds that I went into OC with turned out to be a super email dud. It was so hard to squeak any sort of response back to him, and I’m sure he could notice that because he hasn’t replied back to me either. Fun fat emailed me a while ago for the second time, I haven’t responded back, and he sent me another email today! Yikes! I couldn’t read it at work, so I will be interested in seeing what he has to say. The only one I’m somewhat excited about is the engineer. He is still just as cute and funny as ever. I wrote him a second email back yesterday. But the more I think about it, the more I wonder if it will work. He lives about 1 hour and 45 minutes away, and the more I think about this, the more I don’t think I can literally afford a long distance, driving every weekend relationship. First, the gas alone will send me to the poor house, secondly, when am I going to do anything on my house? I cannot, I repeat CANNOT neglect my house!
I’ll probably open matches up again, but I wanted to take a break, so to speak. Plus, there was the free weekend. Oh, radio guy commented back to my close message “I thought we had potential…” I think he must have been able to log on for the free weekend. He was the one that sent me his email address. Maybe I’ll shoot him an email, we’ll see.
Speaking of emails, I wanted to write a quick update on Major. I finally wrote him an email, (I spent lots of time making sure it wasn’t accusatory, or give him any ultimatums, etc.). Basically I said I was confused as to why he was calling me and wanting me to come out. I really couldn’t tell if it was because he was being nice or whether he really cared for me. I would have liked for us to maintain a relationship, but understand if he doesn’t, given his situation. I thought it was a well written email. He responded with telling me he cared very deeply for me, I helped him through a very rough time in his life. He would like to see me, that’s why he invited me out, but to talk about a future without seeing the whole picture would be premature. He definitely wanted me to come out, meet his daughter, see where he lives, etc. But with that all said, he indicated long distance relationships are tough. It was a very adult response, and he had a lot of valid points. But I don’t really know where I see this going now. I emailed him back and told him I had a lot to think about and would call him, but that was almost a week ago. I just don’t know what I want. I wish it could be easy and simple and he lived here, child and all. But I really don’t see how I can afford to fly out there, and he’s right, long distance relationships are hard, and they’re even harder if you can’t afford to see the person. So, I’m wondering if I just let us be as friends, and who knows, maybe in 6 months, a year’s time, things will be different and if it’s meant to be, then things will work out so that it is. But at least I feel good that I let him know how I felt, and I can’t ever be like “what if?”
Memorial Day weekend was really nice. Had a few cookouts Thursday through Sunday. Then Sunday, I headed to my parents where my parents, aunt, uncle and I went out on the boat on the lake. It was such an amazingly perfect day! I got some serious tan! Woo hoo! I am a sun lover 100%! I actually took work off on Tuesday as well and spent some extra time at the pool. Everyone was commenting about how tan I looked, and for those that know me, saying I look tan is just as good as saying I look skinny or pretty!
xoxo, Maxi
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 24
Well, here we are... 24 days and Maxi finally entered into Open Communication! I had two outstanding messages since Monday, but I was too afraid to open them and see what they said. I don't know why I'm afraid. It reminds me again of C, who just chickened out altogether. It seems like it's becoming a possibility to meet someone (I don't meet as in "meet" but literally go out and meet someone in person). I read their messages and responded back. But let me tell you, it was really hard. It's really awkward once you're in open communication.
I'm at the stage with the engineer (and no, not on the railroad!) where I have to initiate open communication. But once again, I am really nervous. From what I can gather, he is really great and I'm really excited that I made it to this point with him. So far, we've had great banter in the 2nd questions, and he really is super witty and clever. I just know I want to meet him. I'm really stressing out though, I want to make my first email perfect, so I'm waiting while I think about it. I can't wait too long though, or he'll lose interest. But does anyone else get as stressed out in OC as me? The only problem is he lives far away. But I've been excited about this guy since they matched me up. I bet nothing happens though. Isn't that the way it always goes?
Another question I have, what's the average number of people that eHarmony users have in open communication at any time? It really was a lot harder to get to this point than I thought. I thought I'd be be-bopping all over this thing, which I was, just not be-bopping to OC. It was more of a be-bop straight to the dumping! haha!
Oh, and I have another question! I doubt any of these get answered, but I want to know the protocol. Do we reference eHarmony at all? I mean, in the OC, say something about how it's weird, or how about when/if you meet someone? Do you say something then? I don't know what the proper procedure is.
So many questions. And I'm about done with my first month!
21 current matches (15 in communication)
122 closed matches
I've received 7 matches every day that I've been able to receive them. Over the course of this month, I probably closed down for a total of about 7 or 8 days. Today, I got 9 matches. That was weird. I think I'll close down again. My new matches are not great. They've been really far away and have had less traits that I'm interested in. Besides, the more matches I receive, the more likely it is that I'll know one of them...yikes! But on the other hand, the more I get, the more likely one will be a real match. So, who knows. It's tough navigating this on your own. I really want to know what the people on the other side of the match are doing and thinking!
Tomorrow I have a game night/cook out at a friend's house, so either I won't have time to log on, or I'll be drunk and get into another EWI situation! haha! Better not communicate with anyone I care about if that's the case! Especially not in open communication!
xoxo, Maxi
I'm at the stage with the engineer (and no, not on the railroad!) where I have to initiate open communication. But once again, I am really nervous. From what I can gather, he is really great and I'm really excited that I made it to this point with him. So far, we've had great banter in the 2nd questions, and he really is super witty and clever. I just know I want to meet him. I'm really stressing out though, I want to make my first email perfect, so I'm waiting while I think about it. I can't wait too long though, or he'll lose interest. But does anyone else get as stressed out in OC as me? The only problem is he lives far away. But I've been excited about this guy since they matched me up. I bet nothing happens though. Isn't that the way it always goes?
Another question I have, what's the average number of people that eHarmony users have in open communication at any time? It really was a lot harder to get to this point than I thought. I thought I'd be be-bopping all over this thing, which I was, just not be-bopping to OC. It was more of a be-bop straight to the dumping! haha!
Oh, and I have another question! I doubt any of these get answered, but I want to know the protocol. Do we reference eHarmony at all? I mean, in the OC, say something about how it's weird, or how about when/if you meet someone? Do you say something then? I don't know what the proper procedure is.
So many questions. And I'm about done with my first month!
21 current matches (15 in communication)
122 closed matches
I've received 7 matches every day that I've been able to receive them. Over the course of this month, I probably closed down for a total of about 7 or 8 days. Today, I got 9 matches. That was weird. I think I'll close down again. My new matches are not great. They've been really far away and have had less traits that I'm interested in. Besides, the more matches I receive, the more likely it is that I'll know one of them...yikes! But on the other hand, the more I get, the more likely one will be a real match. So, who knows. It's tough navigating this on your own. I really want to know what the people on the other side of the match are doing and thinking!
Tomorrow I have a game night/cook out at a friend's house, so either I won't have time to log on, or I'll be drunk and get into another EWI situation! haha! Better not communicate with anyone I care about if that's the case! Especially not in open communication!
xoxo, Maxi
Saturday, May 17, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 20
Nothing too much in the eHarmony world. I guess the initial infatuation has worn off, but I'm still on there, receiving matches, closing matches out, and communicating with some.
I thought I was about to enter into open communication (it's been over 2 weeks on eHarmony, and I have yet to make it to that stage yet, I guess just the timing back and forth) but I don't know what happened. I sent second questions, he answered, sent second questions. Then I clicked on "Read Dr. Warren's Message" and then it said "your message has been to sent to ____." I'm so confused without some explanation and details. That is something I really would like to change about eHarmony, is that they'd provide more details on how the communication process works. Fortunately, eHarmony Blog provided me on some insight (as in the person who does not initiate communication must be the first person to send MHCS, and second questions. But what's going on with the open communication. I didn't receive any message from Dr. Warren. Does the other person also have to select to read the message? I can't go anywhere now, when I click on "read Dr. Warren's message" it just says my message was sent to that person on May 15. I just really have no idea what's going on.
Secondly, I find that I'm losing guys at the open question stage. I'm not really sure why. Either I had to send questions first, or they sent to me, I answered and sent ones back, but that's when they're dropping off the face of the earth. I have a few outstanding ones that I'll take care of tomorrow, but it's a little confusing. Are my questions/answers THAT bad? Or is there some sort of glitch in the system? (At least that makes me sleep better at night, thinking it's the system).
So, two guys have been in communication with me that I am super excited about. They are both so funny and cute and I really like their answers and all that. But they are both soooo attractive and fit. This really concerns me. I'm just afraid they'll take one look at me and run. That really won't be too good for the old ego!
Here's my match update (I actually turned off matching this weekend because it's a free communication weekend, and I don't want any Joe Blow seeing me if they're not serious, or just want the free personality profile).
Current matches: 26
In communication: 13 of those above 26. 1 that initiated with me and I haven't responded yet, 5 that I need to do something, and 7 that I'm waiting for.
94 closed: 11 that closed me
One other thing I've learned, is that you shouldn't close someone out just because they hadn't responded yet (like I closed out the police officer after two weeks). You don't want to burn any bridges, because people fall off along the way. And if these people aren't responding because they're too busy, than that's okay. If it's because they aren't members anymore, who knows, they may join again. I haven't closed too many that I regret, but I do regret the police officer.
I have some good options that I'm communicating with right now. A lot of them live about an hour away though. I thought I was okay with that, but now, with the price of gas and the fact I'm always broke anyways, I might have to reconsider.
On a side note, I've been so stressed at work lately, and my face is showing it! Me, who never gets acne, has three zits right now! And it's the cystic acne kind (which if you ever get it, do not, under any circumstances, pop it! It will turn 100x worse) which is so bad, and just proves it's stress, and not that I'm not washing my face. Plus, I don't know if it's this new BC I switched too. I don't know why, but 2 months ago, I decided I wanted to try a new BC. I thought maybe a new one might help with my extra testosterone problem. But instead, all it's done is give me weird periods, and potentially is adding to my face problems. I need to call my doctor and go back to my original kind. The kind that's been true to me for over 5 years.
Well, I guess that's it for now. I'm heading off to get ready to go to Becca's bachelorette party tonight. Should be fun!
xoxo, Max
I thought I was about to enter into open communication (it's been over 2 weeks on eHarmony, and I have yet to make it to that stage yet, I guess just the timing back and forth) but I don't know what happened. I sent second questions, he answered, sent second questions. Then I clicked on "Read Dr. Warren's Message" and then it said "your message has been to sent to ____." I'm so confused without some explanation and details. That is something I really would like to change about eHarmony, is that they'd provide more details on how the communication process works. Fortunately, eHarmony Blog provided me on some insight (as in the person who does not initiate communication must be the first person to send MHCS, and second questions. But what's going on with the open communication. I didn't receive any message from Dr. Warren. Does the other person also have to select to read the message? I can't go anywhere now, when I click on "read Dr. Warren's message" it just says my message was sent to that person on May 15. I just really have no idea what's going on.
Secondly, I find that I'm losing guys at the open question stage. I'm not really sure why. Either I had to send questions first, or they sent to me, I answered and sent ones back, but that's when they're dropping off the face of the earth. I have a few outstanding ones that I'll take care of tomorrow, but it's a little confusing. Are my questions/answers THAT bad? Or is there some sort of glitch in the system? (At least that makes me sleep better at night, thinking it's the system).
So, two guys have been in communication with me that I am super excited about. They are both so funny and cute and I really like their answers and all that. But they are both soooo attractive and fit. This really concerns me. I'm just afraid they'll take one look at me and run. That really won't be too good for the old ego!
Here's my match update (I actually turned off matching this weekend because it's a free communication weekend, and I don't want any Joe Blow seeing me if they're not serious, or just want the free personality profile).
Current matches: 26
In communication: 13 of those above 26. 1 that initiated with me and I haven't responded yet, 5 that I need to do something, and 7 that I'm waiting for.
94 closed: 11 that closed me
One other thing I've learned, is that you shouldn't close someone out just because they hadn't responded yet (like I closed out the police officer after two weeks). You don't want to burn any bridges, because people fall off along the way. And if these people aren't responding because they're too busy, than that's okay. If it's because they aren't members anymore, who knows, they may join again. I haven't closed too many that I regret, but I do regret the police officer.
I have some good options that I'm communicating with right now. A lot of them live about an hour away though. I thought I was okay with that, but now, with the price of gas and the fact I'm always broke anyways, I might have to reconsider.
On a side note, I've been so stressed at work lately, and my face is showing it! Me, who never gets acne, has three zits right now! And it's the cystic acne kind (which if you ever get it, do not, under any circumstances, pop it! It will turn 100x worse) which is so bad, and just proves it's stress, and not that I'm not washing my face. Plus, I don't know if it's this new BC I switched too. I don't know why, but 2 months ago, I decided I wanted to try a new BC. I thought maybe a new one might help with my extra testosterone problem. But instead, all it's done is give me weird periods, and potentially is adding to my face problems. I need to call my doctor and go back to my original kind. The kind that's been true to me for over 5 years.
Well, I guess that's it for now. I'm heading off to get ready to go to Becca's bachelorette party tonight. Should be fun!
xoxo, Max
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day17
Just got off the phone with my friend E's friend C. We had a very long discussion about E's "boyfriend," how we both hate him, he makes people uncomfortable because of the rude things he says about E (in front of us), and how rude and straight up mean he is to her. And we don't know if it's that she doesn't care, or doesn't know, but it's really sad how she has all these excuses for why he treats her so mean. "I deserve it." I CANNOT believe she said that! That really is the sign of an abusive relationship when you start believing the terrible things the abuser says. C and I are really close to calling an intervention!
C and I were talking, because I finally told E how I felt. C's been wanting to say something for years, and now feels like she can, since I broke the ice. But this is what was interesting, she said "I always feel like I can't say something about some one's boyfriend unless I have a boyfriend, because they'll just think I'm jealous." And she really hit the nail on the head. It doesn't matter that the guy treats you poorly, or that he doesn't have a job, or is an alcoholic, or is married, or is just a straight up douche-bag loser, you don't like him because you're jealous. People in relationships can be so self-righteous!
Well, anyways, the point is, after we talked about not having boyfriends, I made a joke about how I was about ready to sign up for eHarmony (as of now, only Cat knows, and she's been sworn to blood sister secrecy!). Turns out C signed up for eHarmony earlier this year, and she regaled me of her experience! Turns out, it was very similar to mine. She got tons of matches, tons of communications, a few closes, and zero dates. Well, actually, she ended up deleting out her photos and profile information and basically chickening out, but her stories were so classic! She actually even had gone out with someone previously that she got matched up with. He closed her out pronto with "other." C said "I guess 'I already went out with and slept with her' wasn't an option!" Haha! Anyways, she said she was so paranoid on her way to work. If anyone even looked at her "did they get matched up with me and dump me?" "Do they recognize me and think 'geez, she looks so much better in her picture?'" I mean, it is EXACTLY what I had joked about with Cat. She thinks she might sign back up again, and this time take it seriously. Oh, one more thing she mentioned, was the matches getting out of control. Like me, she said there were just too many. One day, she actually had to go in and close out 85 of them to get her matches under control. But it was shortly thereafter that she was just too chicken and overwhelmed, that she just closed everything out.
So, even though C does not know that I signed up, I took her testimony to heart, and went in and closed out everyone! And I mean everyone! I have only 16 active matches right now. I even closed out police officer and no picture/now picture because it's been about 2 weeks with no response from them. I also closed out 5 of the 7 matches I received today. I now have 76 closed matches! But I feel good. I feel like I cleaned up a lot of the riff raff. And by riff raff, I mean those that are not active profiles and those that I'm not interested in. Unfortunately there were a few cute ones, but hey, they're gone now! Then, in the spirit of cleaning everything up, I made my communication with all those that were outstanding. I even sent second questions to a few guys, and I actually have second questions from a few as well. This is getting serious folks, the time for open communication is almost upon us. I can see why C chickened out. I don't know if I can do it. Can I actually meet someone at the trite Starbucks and order a tall soy, double espresso, light latte? (I actually don't drink coffee, so what am I going to have, a diet coke? Please.). But let's be honest for a second, Maxi needs booze on a first date. I can't be meeting someone on Sunday afternoon for a coffee. I need to get happy hour drinks after work to loosen up a little.
Back to my current communications. I think one of the guys I'm about to get into open communication with is serious! Let me post some items from his profile:
30 and in the one of the Armed Forces (one thing I learned from Major, military men are serious family guys).
"...can't wait until my own family is my absolute passion."
"I am looking for a woman that completes me"-this one actually makes me gag
"Relationships are really important to me"
His MH - "I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children."
Maxi is nervous here guys. I think we have another Gorilla Arms (a guy that used to work in my office and was like "have job, have 4 bedroom suburban family home, enter wife, 2.5 kids, and dog here" Wait, actually, he already had a dog) on our hands here. I know I'm probably getting way ahead of myself here. Chances are pretty good that either a) we'll never meet, b) we will meet but he won't be up for boozing on the first night, and will be turned off that that's what I want, c) he'll take one look at me and be like "Um, what part of 'I enjoy being physically fit' made you think I'll date someone who needs to drop a quick 40?' or d) "it" just won't be there if we do meet. One thing I love is to worry about things that most likely never happen (was that on my eHarmony questionnaire?)
I'm logging off for now. Have a great night, and I'll talk to you tomorrow.
xoxo, Maxine
C and I were talking, because I finally told E how I felt. C's been wanting to say something for years, and now feels like she can, since I broke the ice. But this is what was interesting, she said "I always feel like I can't say something about some one's boyfriend unless I have a boyfriend, because they'll just think I'm jealous." And she really hit the nail on the head. It doesn't matter that the guy treats you poorly, or that he doesn't have a job, or is an alcoholic, or is married, or is just a straight up douche-bag loser, you don't like him because you're jealous. People in relationships can be so self-righteous!
Well, anyways, the point is, after we talked about not having boyfriends, I made a joke about how I was about ready to sign up for eHarmony (as of now, only Cat knows, and she's been sworn to blood sister secrecy!). Turns out C signed up for eHarmony earlier this year, and she regaled me of her experience! Turns out, it was very similar to mine. She got tons of matches, tons of communications, a few closes, and zero dates. Well, actually, she ended up deleting out her photos and profile information and basically chickening out, but her stories were so classic! She actually even had gone out with someone previously that she got matched up with. He closed her out pronto with "other." C said "I guess 'I already went out with and slept with her' wasn't an option!" Haha! Anyways, she said she was so paranoid on her way to work. If anyone even looked at her "did they get matched up with me and dump me?" "Do they recognize me and think 'geez, she looks so much better in her picture?'" I mean, it is EXACTLY what I had joked about with Cat. She thinks she might sign back up again, and this time take it seriously. Oh, one more thing she mentioned, was the matches getting out of control. Like me, she said there were just too many. One day, she actually had to go in and close out 85 of them to get her matches under control. But it was shortly thereafter that she was just too chicken and overwhelmed, that she just closed everything out.
So, even though C does not know that I signed up, I took her testimony to heart, and went in and closed out everyone! And I mean everyone! I have only 16 active matches right now. I even closed out police officer and no picture/now picture because it's been about 2 weeks with no response from them. I also closed out 5 of the 7 matches I received today. I now have 76 closed matches! But I feel good. I feel like I cleaned up a lot of the riff raff. And by riff raff, I mean those that are not active profiles and those that I'm not interested in. Unfortunately there were a few cute ones, but hey, they're gone now! Then, in the spirit of cleaning everything up, I made my communication with all those that were outstanding. I even sent second questions to a few guys, and I actually have second questions from a few as well. This is getting serious folks, the time for open communication is almost upon us. I can see why C chickened out. I don't know if I can do it. Can I actually meet someone at the trite Starbucks and order a tall soy, double espresso, light latte? (I actually don't drink coffee, so what am I going to have, a diet coke? Please.). But let's be honest for a second, Maxi needs booze on a first date. I can't be meeting someone on Sunday afternoon for a coffee. I need to get happy hour drinks after work to loosen up a little.
Back to my current communications. I think one of the guys I'm about to get into open communication with is serious! Let me post some items from his profile:
30 and in the one of the Armed Forces (one thing I learned from Major, military men are serious family guys).
"...can't wait until my own family is my absolute passion."
"I am looking for a woman that completes me"-this one actually makes me gag
"Relationships are really important to me"
His MH - "I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children."
Maxi is nervous here guys. I think we have another Gorilla Arms (a guy that used to work in my office and was like "have job, have 4 bedroom suburban family home, enter wife, 2.5 kids, and dog here" Wait, actually, he already had a dog) on our hands here. I know I'm probably getting way ahead of myself here. Chances are pretty good that either a) we'll never meet, b) we will meet but he won't be up for boozing on the first night, and will be turned off that that's what I want, c) he'll take one look at me and be like "Um, what part of 'I enjoy being physically fit' made you think I'll date someone who needs to drop a quick 40?' or d) "it" just won't be there if we do meet. One thing I love is to worry about things that most likely never happen (was that on my eHarmony questionnaire?)
I'm logging off for now. Have a great night, and I'll talk to you tomorrow.
xoxo, Maxine
Monday, May 12, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 16
Well, here it is, a little over 2 weeks, and no dates, nothing even too exciting. I have tons of open communication, some that I'm excited about, some, I'm not. More that I've closed, some (around 5) that have closed me. I'm starting to wonder if I'll even get 1 date out of this 3-month subscription.
Any thoughts on this? What's better... To be rejected from the get-go, or to go through a few stages, then reject?
I'm trying not to be close minded, but I feel like there's a difference between not thinking someone is "hot," and just getting that creepy feeling of just pure unattraction. Those are the ones I'm closing out. In fact, I will let you know, I have left several open and am communicating with some that I don't find overly attractive (watch one of them be the one I marry! haha), but they didn't give me that instant creep vibe. To some extent, you have to be attracted to your partner, regardless of what's on the inside, and if someone makes you vomit a bit inside when you look at their picture (and honestly, some that gave me this feeling were by society standards "attractive"). I think that's one thing I've definitely learned through this process, is that attraction to someone is an instant feeling you get when you look at them. And I think you shouldn't be repulsed when you look at someone. I know that sounds terribly bitchy and shallow, but in my defense, there are some ugly people out there that I don't get repulsed by. It's just an instant feeling that you get, and I think that is important. Actually, the more I think about this, I think the Date Doctor that I saw a few months ago said something to that effect. I don't remember what all he said, but that attraction was what made you want to talk to someone, and chemistry is what keeps you talking to someone. I guess eHarmony is trying to say all these people they match you with, you should have "chemistry" with, now you just have to find the ones that you are attracted to.
The more I am on eHarmony, the more I hate people that don't post pictures. Okay, it's fine if you hold off for a little while, but if you are initiating the conversation, then show your pictures!
Ok, so today I actually got 8 matches. 3 of these 8 started communication. One had a son, and I think I'm really thankful that Major showed me not to discard someone because they were divorced and had kids. That definitely used to be a deal breaker, and I think I'm more open to it now, and that's especially important with the whole eHarmony thing, were you shouldn't just close people off because of one trait (even though I did just expound on the whole looks thing and just closing out left and right, haha). I did close out one. Gosh, I love the "I think the physical distance is to great." I did close someone else out I was talking to due to their response "...everyone needs there..." Ugh.
So, here's the update:
32 current matches
18 in communication (out of those 32)
53 closed.
So, I have received 85 matches, and have closed over 60% of them. I guess that sounds about right. If not more should be closed out. I think out of every 10 people you see, maybe you're only really attracted to 2 of them. Uh oh, does that mean I need to go in and close out 15 of those that are left? Because I could easily do that!
Something else I've learned through this process, is you don't have to go out with everyone. I guess for the past few years, I've gone out with just about anyone who asks me out. I always figured "how are you going to know unless you give them a chance?" But this is the difference, you know straight up if there's something about the guy that you just aren't going to like, and you don't have to go out with them to find out whatever it is. I do like this about eHarmony. Otherwise, I might almost bet that I'd go out with all 85 of my matches (well, only 80, 5 did close me out).
xoxo, Maxi
Any thoughts on this? What's better... To be rejected from the get-go, or to go through a few stages, then reject?
I'm trying not to be close minded, but I feel like there's a difference between not thinking someone is "hot," and just getting that creepy feeling of just pure unattraction. Those are the ones I'm closing out. In fact, I will let you know, I have left several open and am communicating with some that I don't find overly attractive (watch one of them be the one I marry! haha), but they didn't give me that instant creep vibe. To some extent, you have to be attracted to your partner, regardless of what's on the inside, and if someone makes you vomit a bit inside when you look at their picture (and honestly, some that gave me this feeling were by society standards "attractive"). I think that's one thing I've definitely learned through this process, is that attraction to someone is an instant feeling you get when you look at them. And I think you shouldn't be repulsed when you look at someone. I know that sounds terribly bitchy and shallow, but in my defense, there are some ugly people out there that I don't get repulsed by. It's just an instant feeling that you get, and I think that is important. Actually, the more I think about this, I think the Date Doctor that I saw a few months ago said something to that effect. I don't remember what all he said, but that attraction was what made you want to talk to someone, and chemistry is what keeps you talking to someone. I guess eHarmony is trying to say all these people they match you with, you should have "chemistry" with, now you just have to find the ones that you are attracted to.
The more I am on eHarmony, the more I hate people that don't post pictures. Okay, it's fine if you hold off for a little while, but if you are initiating the conversation, then show your pictures!
Ok, so today I actually got 8 matches. 3 of these 8 started communication. One had a son, and I think I'm really thankful that Major showed me not to discard someone because they were divorced and had kids. That definitely used to be a deal breaker, and I think I'm more open to it now, and that's especially important with the whole eHarmony thing, were you shouldn't just close people off because of one trait (even though I did just expound on the whole looks thing and just closing out left and right, haha). I did close out one. Gosh, I love the "I think the physical distance is to great." I did close someone else out I was talking to due to their response "...everyone needs there..." Ugh.
So, here's the update:
32 current matches
18 in communication (out of those 32)
53 closed.
So, I have received 85 matches, and have closed over 60% of them. I guess that sounds about right. If not more should be closed out. I think out of every 10 people you see, maybe you're only really attracted to 2 of them. Uh oh, does that mean I need to go in and close out 15 of those that are left? Because I could easily do that!
Something else I've learned through this process, is you don't have to go out with everyone. I guess for the past few years, I've gone out with just about anyone who asks me out. I always figured "how are you going to know unless you give them a chance?" But this is the difference, you know straight up if there's something about the guy that you just aren't going to like, and you don't have to go out with them to find out whatever it is. I do like this about eHarmony. Otherwise, I might almost bet that I'd go out with all 85 of my matches (well, only 80, 5 did close me out).
xoxo, Maxi
Thursday, May 8, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 11
In the harsh light of reality (aka the computer screen), I logged back into eHarmony to see what mess Cat and I had made last night.
22 current matches - 7 of which were new matches today.
12 of whom I am in communication with - only 3 of which Cat and I initiated last night, so that's not as bad as I originally feared.
34 of which are closed.
I'm not going to do any answering or anything like that tonight, I need to decide if I'm going to visit Coach or not. So, check this, he conveniently forgot to tell me he has a roommate at the hotel! Please, I am too old. I told him "no, no way, sorry but no." And he got really upset. I can't believe he thinks I'm going to go when he has a roommate! Seriously! Anyways, so I am going to look and see how much rooms are and debate whether he's worth it. Point being, I may or may not log back in, depending on whether I see Coach or not.
And for the record, no, I do not need to get laid that badly!
xoxo, Maxi
22 current matches - 7 of which were new matches today.
12 of whom I am in communication with - only 3 of which Cat and I initiated last night, so that's not as bad as I originally feared.
34 of which are closed.
I'm not going to do any answering or anything like that tonight, I need to decide if I'm going to visit Coach or not. So, check this, he conveniently forgot to tell me he has a roommate at the hotel! Please, I am too old. I told him "no, no way, sorry but no." And he got really upset. I can't believe he thinks I'm going to go when he has a roommate! Seriously! Anyways, so I am going to look and see how much rooms are and debate whether he's worth it. Point being, I may or may not log back in, depending on whether I see Coach or not.
And for the record, no, I do not need to get laid that badly!
xoxo, Maxi
EWI
I have been charged with eHarmony-ing While Intoxicated!
Yesterday, we had a work happy hour from 4 to 6. Cat and I stayed until about 8, then came over to my house to have wine and look at eHarmony! I was glad for Cat to finally see everyone and just get a feel for the site. Since Cat had nothing to lose, and since I was highly buzzing, we went to town on all my matches, either starting communication, responding to communication, or closing everyone out. As of yesterday, I had 49 ...
Ok, I have to break my usual post with a news update! Last night, after happy hour, Cat and I came into the office to put the extra food away, and apparently OC was still here! The whole office was dark, and we were talking very loudly. OC's cube is right next to the kitchen. This morning, OC made a comment about something we said last night, so I know he was here. I don't know what all he heard, I don't remember how long we were in the office, but Cat and I are both extremely embarrassed because I'm sure we were talking about personal stuff. I'm sure I mentioned eHarmony. Shit Shit Shit! He won't tell us what all he knows, but Cat and I both freaked out when we found out. We may have even said something about him! I mean, I can't even describe the true fear I feel right now that our dirty laundry is going to be airing all over the office. No, OC's not like that, but still, if he knows I'm on eHarmony...If he knows who Cat's crush at the office is...if he knows who my crush is...did we talk about sex? Probably! This is bad, very very bad!
Ok, back to the regularly scheduled blog...I had 49 matches, and I think we closed out about 35 of them. I did get 7 new matches yesterday. They weren't that great, but they were tall, which is an improvement. I think I closed all of them out! Haha! Just things they said in their profile, and like I said, Cat was ruthless. I already got 7 more this morning, and what's peculiar is two, both from today, are brewery engineers. I just think it's weird that I get a lot of these people that have the same jobs, like the College Administrator. I still don't even know what that means. Anyways, this morning, some of the guys wrote back already. I can't log on until I get home, so I'll just have to be in suspense all day!
On a side note though, Coach is going to be relatively in town this weekend. I guess there's a AAU basketball tournament in a city about 1 hour away and he's going as a recruiting even. Of course he wants to meet up. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I know he's going to want to sleep with me. A lot of the same feelings I felt when I went up to visit him for NYE are coming back. I probably will see him, but it's going to be like me driving there, just to spend the night, just to drive back the next day. Is it even worth it? And am I leading him on? Does this make me a slut? Just going to him for booty? I mean, at least my number doesn't go up, but... Am I going to be upset afterwards? And what about Major? Will it be like he never even happened? I know I'm way over thinking all this, but that's what I do.
Major did call last night, as usual. But by this point, I don't really need the phone calls anymore. I wonder why he's still calling.
xoxo, Maxi
Yesterday, we had a work happy hour from 4 to 6. Cat and I stayed until about 8, then came over to my house to have wine and look at eHarmony! I was glad for Cat to finally see everyone and just get a feel for the site. Since Cat had nothing to lose, and since I was highly buzzing, we went to town on all my matches, either starting communication, responding to communication, or closing everyone out. As of yesterday, I had 49 ...
Ok, I have to break my usual post with a news update! Last night, after happy hour, Cat and I came into the office to put the extra food away, and apparently OC was still here! The whole office was dark, and we were talking very loudly. OC's cube is right next to the kitchen. This morning, OC made a comment about something we said last night, so I know he was here. I don't know what all he heard, I don't remember how long we were in the office, but Cat and I are both extremely embarrassed because I'm sure we were talking about personal stuff. I'm sure I mentioned eHarmony. Shit Shit Shit! He won't tell us what all he knows, but Cat and I both freaked out when we found out. We may have even said something about him! I mean, I can't even describe the true fear I feel right now that our dirty laundry is going to be airing all over the office. No, OC's not like that, but still, if he knows I'm on eHarmony...If he knows who Cat's crush at the office is...if he knows who my crush is...did we talk about sex? Probably! This is bad, very very bad!
Ok, back to the regularly scheduled blog...I had 49 matches, and I think we closed out about 35 of them. I did get 7 new matches yesterday. They weren't that great, but they were tall, which is an improvement. I think I closed all of them out! Haha! Just things they said in their profile, and like I said, Cat was ruthless. I already got 7 more this morning, and what's peculiar is two, both from today, are brewery engineers. I just think it's weird that I get a lot of these people that have the same jobs, like the College Administrator. I still don't even know what that means. Anyways, this morning, some of the guys wrote back already. I can't log on until I get home, so I'll just have to be in suspense all day!
On a side note though, Coach is going to be relatively in town this weekend. I guess there's a AAU basketball tournament in a city about 1 hour away and he's going as a recruiting even. Of course he wants to meet up. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I know he's going to want to sleep with me. A lot of the same feelings I felt when I went up to visit him for NYE are coming back. I probably will see him, but it's going to be like me driving there, just to spend the night, just to drive back the next day. Is it even worth it? And am I leading him on? Does this make me a slut? Just going to him for booty? I mean, at least my number doesn't go up, but... Am I going to be upset afterwards? And what about Major? Will it be like he never even happened? I know I'm way over thinking all this, but that's what I do.
Major did call last night, as usual. But by this point, I don't really need the phone calls anymore. I wonder why he's still calling.
xoxo, Maxi
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
I'm one brazen eHarmony Hussy!
Haha, not really, but I just wanted to log back in real quick to write this update. I initiated conversation with someone! Haha! There we go! I made the first move. There was just something about his profile. So, we shall see. Plus, this will answer a lot of my other questions about the communication process. If he sends questions back, will I be able to send MHCS, or does he (as I felt like I had to when they guy initiated). So many questions!! Why is this so stressful!!?
I wonder if he's not active anymore, does he still get updates saying communication wants to talk to him?
I wonder if he's not active anymore, does he still get updates saying communication wants to talk to him?
eHarmon-me: Day 10
This morning, everything was back to normal, my inbox was filled with 7 new matches, and one request for communication. These matches were all pretty normal. I wasn't thrilled with the location though, only 2 lived in the city that I did, the rest were 30 minutes to 3 hours away!
While I was bee bopping around on eHarmony, apparently a match closed me out! I went to the "communicating" matches, and one said "read closed message." I don't know how long it was there. I didn't receive an email, and it wasn't on an update or anything like that when I logged on. It wasn't that big of a loss, he was 5'8", which means he was probably 5'6", but he was okay other than that. If he had initiated something, I probably would have responded.
Oh, and I didn't get an option to send him a good bye message back, so there goes that theory about those other guys not being active members, that's why they didn't send the good bye message back. But since I actively closed him out, does he get an email like "Match received communication" letting him know I closed him out, but that's it? So many questions!!! And really, the only way to know is to be communicating online with someone you talk to in real life!
So, I wrote questions back to no picture/now picture guy. Still no word from police officer. I can only imagine he's pursuing some other girl now, or his subscription expired. That's too bad. Makes me kind of sad.
In other news, my TV is still on the fritz. I put in a DVD and that sounds fine, so it's definitely the cable. I don't have time to have the cable guy come out here. On one hand I think it's good it's out so I can do some work, which I need to do. But don't worry, I got my Hills in last night, I went over to Cheer's house, so that crisis was averted!
And just as a side note, comments from random people are MORE than welcome!
Open matches: 24
Communicating: 8
Ones that I'm actually communicating back with: 4
Closed: 18
Total Matches Received: 42
xoxo, Maxi
While I was bee bopping around on eHarmony, apparently a match closed me out! I went to the "communicating" matches, and one said "read closed message." I don't know how long it was there. I didn't receive an email, and it wasn't on an update or anything like that when I logged on. It wasn't that big of a loss, he was 5'8", which means he was probably 5'6", but he was okay other than that. If he had initiated something, I probably would have responded.
Oh, and I didn't get an option to send him a good bye message back, so there goes that theory about those other guys not being active members, that's why they didn't send the good bye message back. But since I actively closed him out, does he get an email like "Match received communication" letting him know I closed him out, but that's it? So many questions!!! And really, the only way to know is to be communicating online with someone you talk to in real life!
So, I wrote questions back to no picture/now picture guy. Still no word from police officer. I can only imagine he's pursuing some other girl now, or his subscription expired. That's too bad. Makes me kind of sad.
In other news, my TV is still on the fritz. I put in a DVD and that sounds fine, so it's definitely the cable. I don't have time to have the cable guy come out here. On one hand I think it's good it's out so I can do some work, which I need to do. But don't worry, I got my Hills in last night, I went over to Cheer's house, so that crisis was averted!
And just as a side note, comments from random people are MORE than welcome!
Open matches: 24
Communicating: 8
Ones that I'm actually communicating back with: 4
Closed: 18
Total Matches Received: 42
xoxo, Maxi
Monday, May 5, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 9
I think it's day 9 anyways...
Let me start off by saying how much of a cliche I feel like right now. I'm sitting at home, in mismatched PJ's, freshly scrubbed face, hair in a ponytail, eating a lean cuisine for dinner, blogging, and checking eHarmony. If I'm not the poster child for stereotypical single white female, then I don't know what is...oh wait, I think I need to get a cat.
Anyways, let me start off with some super exciting news! My shed was demolished today! I hired some guy for $300 to come and tear it down. Since the city will haul away for free, I just needed him to stack it neatly in the back. My new shed is coming Wednesday, but I need my dad to come into town to help me put it up, so right now, I have a huge dirt spot in my back yard, and all my tools, lawn mower, etc., sitting on my back porch. But the point is, I am well on my way to having that shed gone from my life! Like it never existed to begin with!
In other exciting news, I saw MK at lunch today, and for the very first time, was able to glance at his left hand which DEFINITELY did NOT have a wedding band on! That was all that happened. I saw him eating his lunch in the courtyard. He was looking mighty fine in his suit, but of course, there was no interaction. Unfortunately I didn't see him until after Cat and I sat down, or else, I'd have chosen to sit near him, so that we could strike up some friendly banter. Or maybe it's best I didn't sit next to him, so I can pretend he would have talked to me. Now, I'll never know. Gee, I really am a freshman in love with the senior quarterback!
Ok, time for the eHarmony update! Today was the first time I've logged in since Thursday.
Still no word from the police officer! I can't believe it! Is he rejecting me??!!! I guess now I understand why people get insulted when they get rejected before the person even gets to know them, but I guess that is the problem with online dating. I almost feel like you get rejected more often online than you would in real life. But anyways, maybe he's really busy. Maybe it's legit. Maybe he's playing the game too. What I like to think is he's taking the time to answer my awesome questions with perfect answers, and then think of fabulous questions for me! And I'm clinging to that. De'Nile isn't just some river in Egypt my friends!
Ok, back to the other guys. I received some answers from one guy, but it took him about a week to answer. Then, the guy with no picture sent his MHCS back to me. His picture finally appeared. He's actually pretty cute. Very GQ, very manly, beefy, just the way I like them! But I guess now I have to write him some second questions.
Oh, and Radio answered my questions, but in one of them he wrote "Hey Maxi, nice getting to know you, but my eHarmony subscription is going to end in a few days. If you'd like to email me, it's _____." Of course I immediately tried to find him on myspace, but to no avail. Anyways, I don't know what I think about that. Interesting.
I still have some outstanding communications, but now that I know they never remove your profile, I think I just won't answer, and have the guys think I'm no longer active. Then, they can close me out, and I don't have to feel badly anymore for closing out people left and right.
And last, but not least, I turned matching back to on. I was surprised they didn't immediately send me matches, but we'll see what I have tomorrow, if anything.
I think I'll think of some great questions for no picture/now has picture guy, see what people think about Radio, and hope for the best with police officer. The other guy, I think I'll wait a few days, then send him my MHCS.
I wish eHarmony would tell you the last time someone logged on.
Oh! So, my TV isn't working, or something! I just tried to turn it on (only adding to the SWF stereotype, maybe I need to get some ice cream too). And my volume is coming in terribly, like the speaker blew out. But when I turn cable off and just turn to regular TV, it's fine. I am SOOOOOOOOO pissed right now! Where am I going to watch "The Hills??" Agh! I am starting to FREAK OUT!!!
$#%^*@!, Maxi
Let me start off by saying how much of a cliche I feel like right now. I'm sitting at home, in mismatched PJ's, freshly scrubbed face, hair in a ponytail, eating a lean cuisine for dinner, blogging, and checking eHarmony. If I'm not the poster child for stereotypical single white female, then I don't know what is...oh wait, I think I need to get a cat.
Anyways, let me start off with some super exciting news! My shed was demolished today! I hired some guy for $300 to come and tear it down. Since the city will haul away for free, I just needed him to stack it neatly in the back. My new shed is coming Wednesday, but I need my dad to come into town to help me put it up, so right now, I have a huge dirt spot in my back yard, and all my tools, lawn mower, etc., sitting on my back porch. But the point is, I am well on my way to having that shed gone from my life! Like it never existed to begin with!
In other exciting news, I saw MK at lunch today, and for the very first time, was able to glance at his left hand which DEFINITELY did NOT have a wedding band on! That was all that happened. I saw him eating his lunch in the courtyard. He was looking mighty fine in his suit, but of course, there was no interaction. Unfortunately I didn't see him until after Cat and I sat down, or else, I'd have chosen to sit near him, so that we could strike up some friendly banter. Or maybe it's best I didn't sit next to him, so I can pretend he would have talked to me. Now, I'll never know. Gee, I really am a freshman in love with the senior quarterback!
Ok, time for the eHarmony update! Today was the first time I've logged in since Thursday.
Still no word from the police officer! I can't believe it! Is he rejecting me??!!! I guess now I understand why people get insulted when they get rejected before the person even gets to know them, but I guess that is the problem with online dating. I almost feel like you get rejected more often online than you would in real life. But anyways, maybe he's really busy. Maybe it's legit. Maybe he's playing the game too. What I like to think is he's taking the time to answer my awesome questions with perfect answers, and then think of fabulous questions for me! And I'm clinging to that. De'Nile isn't just some river in Egypt my friends!
Ok, back to the other guys. I received some answers from one guy, but it took him about a week to answer. Then, the guy with no picture sent his MHCS back to me. His picture finally appeared. He's actually pretty cute. Very GQ, very manly, beefy, just the way I like them! But I guess now I have to write him some second questions.
Oh, and Radio answered my questions, but in one of them he wrote "Hey Maxi, nice getting to know you, but my eHarmony subscription is going to end in a few days. If you'd like to email me, it's _____." Of course I immediately tried to find him on myspace, but to no avail. Anyways, I don't know what I think about that. Interesting.
I still have some outstanding communications, but now that I know they never remove your profile, I think I just won't answer, and have the guys think I'm no longer active. Then, they can close me out, and I don't have to feel badly anymore for closing out people left and right.
And last, but not least, I turned matching back to on. I was surprised they didn't immediately send me matches, but we'll see what I have tomorrow, if anything.
I think I'll think of some great questions for no picture/now has picture guy, see what people think about Radio, and hope for the best with police officer. The other guy, I think I'll wait a few days, then send him my MHCS.
I wish eHarmony would tell you the last time someone logged on.
Oh! So, my TV isn't working, or something! I just tried to turn it on (only adding to the SWF stereotype, maybe I need to get some ice cream too). And my volume is coming in terribly, like the speaker blew out. But when I turn cable off and just turn to regular TV, it's fine. I am SOOOOOOOOO pissed right now! Where am I going to watch "The Hills??" Agh! I am starting to FREAK OUT!!!
$#%^*@!, Maxi
Sunday, May 4, 2008
eHarmony Weekend Update
Cat, in all her infinite wisdom, decided we needed to blog in different colors, you know, because she writes so many posts. But here's my color. It may not always be this exact color, but I'll be in the blue family, and she'll be in the red.
Today I just wanted to catch up with the eHarmony weekend happenings. First, I decided not to log onto to eHarmony all weekend. Everyone who knows me, knows I love rules, and that's what I decided a rule for me was. No logging on, or answering questions, etc. on the weekend. And since I was pretty busy, it was pretty easy.
I got two communications Friday while I was at work, and now I'm at the point where the next step is for me to send them both my must haves/can't stands. I haven't heard back from the police officer, but that's okay, maybe he plays by the same weekend rules. So, I had no updates all weekend since I was waiting for police officer, and everyone else is waiting for me.
I did do a little Internet researching and discovered that eHarmony does not remove profiles. So, once you're done, before your subscription expires, you need to delete everything from your account. I certainly don't want my profile out there when I don't know who's receiving it. So, this was good to know. Additionally, it makes sense why out of my matches, over half never viewed me, nor responded. Also, out of all the ones I closed, only one responded with the "good luck on your search." (I'm not sure if there are other options available since I've never received one, nor had anyone close me out). I bet these people are not active matches. I think when I log on later tonight, I'll turn my receive matches back to on, because out of my 35 matches (remembering I turned matches off a few days ago), I think only 13 are active members. I would like the police officer to respond though.
In other weekend news, on Saturday, I went to a baby shower. It's for a girl that I'm not super close with, but like, so I agreed to go. Thursday, I get a frantic call from the girl hosting the shower saying "Please don't bail on Saturday!" Apparently, no one RSVP'd to the shower. On Wednesday, she called the girl for whom the shower was for to see if anyone RSVP'd to her, because apparently I was the only one who did. No, that was it, just me, the girl having the baby, and the girl throwing the shower. I feel terrible. That is so sad. Who are these people that don't know how to RSVP one way or the other? I just was appalled by how rude some people are. I felt bad, it was going to take her two seconds to open our gifts, but on the bright side, I didn't have to play any "Guess How Big Mommy Is" games. Also, I always get a giant box of diapers as my gift. That's my thing. Most people get little clothes and cute things, because they are more fun to buy. But half the time, most of those things don't even get worn because the baby out grows them. At 10 diapers a day, I've decided diapers are the way to go, and are usually the most appreciated gift. Albeit, not the cutest, or most fun. No one is gooing and gawing when the mom opens a box of 200 Huggies, but I've always heard great feed back. Well, since there weren't a lot of people there at the shower, I did feel bad that she wouldn't have any cute things to open, but my gift was already bought, and I certainly wasn't going back into Babies R Us for fear that I might get pregnant just being around all those women and babies! The girl throwing the shower, went out and bought a ton of gifts, and wrapped them all separately so the girl would have a lot of presents to open. That girl has a heart of gold, I tell you. I mean, usually the shower is the gift.
I guess that's it. I may post again when I log on tonight. My rule was no eHarmony all day Friday -Sunday at 7pm. So, we'll see if I have any updates by that time.
xoxo, Maxine
Today I just wanted to catch up with the eHarmony weekend happenings. First, I decided not to log onto to eHarmony all weekend. Everyone who knows me, knows I love rules, and that's what I decided a rule for me was. No logging on, or answering questions, etc. on the weekend. And since I was pretty busy, it was pretty easy.
I got two communications Friday while I was at work, and now I'm at the point where the next step is for me to send them both my must haves/can't stands. I haven't heard back from the police officer, but that's okay, maybe he plays by the same weekend rules. So, I had no updates all weekend since I was waiting for police officer, and everyone else is waiting for me.
I did do a little Internet researching and discovered that eHarmony does not remove profiles. So, once you're done, before your subscription expires, you need to delete everything from your account. I certainly don't want my profile out there when I don't know who's receiving it. So, this was good to know. Additionally, it makes sense why out of my matches, over half never viewed me, nor responded. Also, out of all the ones I closed, only one responded with the "good luck on your search." (I'm not sure if there are other options available since I've never received one, nor had anyone close me out). I bet these people are not active matches. I think when I log on later tonight, I'll turn my receive matches back to on, because out of my 35 matches (remembering I turned matches off a few days ago), I think only 13 are active members. I would like the police officer to respond though.
In other weekend news, on Saturday, I went to a baby shower. It's for a girl that I'm not super close with, but like, so I agreed to go. Thursday, I get a frantic call from the girl hosting the shower saying "Please don't bail on Saturday!" Apparently, no one RSVP'd to the shower. On Wednesday, she called the girl for whom the shower was for to see if anyone RSVP'd to her, because apparently I was the only one who did. No, that was it, just me, the girl having the baby, and the girl throwing the shower. I feel terrible. That is so sad. Who are these people that don't know how to RSVP one way or the other? I just was appalled by how rude some people are. I felt bad, it was going to take her two seconds to open our gifts, but on the bright side, I didn't have to play any "Guess How Big Mommy Is" games. Also, I always get a giant box of diapers as my gift. That's my thing. Most people get little clothes and cute things, because they are more fun to buy. But half the time, most of those things don't even get worn because the baby out grows them. At 10 diapers a day, I've decided diapers are the way to go, and are usually the most appreciated gift. Albeit, not the cutest, or most fun. No one is gooing and gawing when the mom opens a box of 200 Huggies, but I've always heard great feed back. Well, since there weren't a lot of people there at the shower, I did feel bad that she wouldn't have any cute things to open, but my gift was already bought, and I certainly wasn't going back into Babies R Us for fear that I might get pregnant just being around all those women and babies! The girl throwing the shower, went out and bought a ton of gifts, and wrapped them all separately so the girl would have a lot of presents to open. That girl has a heart of gold, I tell you. I mean, usually the shower is the gift.
I guess that's it. I may post again when I log on tonight. My rule was no eHarmony all day Friday -Sunday at 7pm. So, we'll see if I have any updates by that time.
xoxo, Maxine
Thursday, May 1, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 5
Today's update will be pretty short. I didn't have the usual flood of emails into my inbox since I had turned matching off for awhile. Also, if I read correctly on eHarmony Blog, the person who initiates communication has to be the first to answer open ended questions, so I sent police officer some questions.
Let me tell you, thinking of good questions was stressful! There was a list you could choose from, but they were very serious, and marriage-oriented. I thought I did okay. We'll see what happens. I'm still waiting to hear back from two other guys. I think I'll see how next week goes, then maybe turn matching back on if I haven't heard anything.
On a side note, back to Major. He's been calling every other day. I wonder if he's trying to wean me off. As I sort of mentioned in my Day 1 Blog, last Sunday I had a lot to drink and decided to call Major. I talked to him about going and visiting. I said I didn't think I'd be able to get out there for a couple of months, and perhaps by the time I got out there, he'd be seeing someone, and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to come visit. His response was just "I doubt that" and sort of laughed. But he didn't say anything about me being the only one for him, or something like that. Then, I said I really missed him. I wasn't expecting "I love you Maxi. I think we should be serious and try this long distance." But I certainly wasn't expecting "thank you." That really hurt. Hence the reason I joined eHarmony to begin with. I was feeling rather fragile! But anyways, the calls are coming every other day now, instead of every day. And our conversations are quite shorter. I think it's time to let go. I do think he's just calling either out of habit, or because he's lonely. Either way, it's not an ideal foundation for a relationship.
xoxo, Maxi
Let me tell you, thinking of good questions was stressful! There was a list you could choose from, but they were very serious, and marriage-oriented. I thought I did okay. We'll see what happens. I'm still waiting to hear back from two other guys. I think I'll see how next week goes, then maybe turn matching back on if I haven't heard anything.
On a side note, back to Major. He's been calling every other day. I wonder if he's trying to wean me off. As I sort of mentioned in my Day 1 Blog, last Sunday I had a lot to drink and decided to call Major. I talked to him about going and visiting. I said I didn't think I'd be able to get out there for a couple of months, and perhaps by the time I got out there, he'd be seeing someone, and it wouldn't be appropriate for me to come visit. His response was just "I doubt that" and sort of laughed. But he didn't say anything about me being the only one for him, or something like that. Then, I said I really missed him. I wasn't expecting "I love you Maxi. I think we should be serious and try this long distance." But I certainly wasn't expecting "thank you." That really hurt. Hence the reason I joined eHarmony to begin with. I was feeling rather fragile! But anyways, the calls are coming every other day now, instead of every day. And our conversations are quite shorter. I think it's time to let go. I do think he's just calling either out of habit, or because he's lonely. Either way, it's not an ideal foundation for a relationship.
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Blog Update
First, I want to say thank you to eHarmony Blog. I noticed today that you took the time to answer all my questions, and it was very much appreciated! When I get home, I can't wait to log onto your blog and see what all it's about. Unfortunately, I can get away with this mini blog while at work, but don't think I can get away with hours of reading blogs, when I should be working!
I do have another question then, if you'll be so kind as to answer (provided you read this).
As you've read, Radio answered my questions. Whose court is the ball in now? Do I have to make the next move? Or can either of us? And same with the police officer. He sent back his must haves/can't stands. I notice when I log in that it suggests for me to send second questions. Is he getting the same notice, or does he have to wait for me?
Thank you!
xoxo, Maxi
I do have another question then, if you'll be so kind as to answer (provided you read this).
As you've read, Radio answered my questions. Whose court is the ball in now? Do I have to make the next move? Or can either of us? And same with the police officer. He sent back his must haves/can't stands. I notice when I log in that it suggests for me to send second questions. Is he getting the same notice, or does he have to wait for me?
Thank you!
xoxo, Maxi
eHarmon-me: Day 4
I know I'm posting this a little late, but I didn't have time yesterday to update you. Of course I received the usual 7 matches in the morning.
Open: 18
In communication: 7
Closed: 17
Total matches received: 35
I felt like the matches were getting out of control, and I was just closing everyone, and was getting confused as to who was who, so I turned my matching status to "off." This means I won't receive any new matches until I change it back.
This makes me wonder something else. All the matches that haven't responded. Are their matches getting out of control as well? That's why they don't have time respond?
The police officer sent his must haves/can't stands back. And I received answers from one of the guys (the radio broadcaster) I was waiting for. But now I don't know who makes the next move. Technically for the police officer, I should send him my second questions. I haven't explored that yet, so I don't know what they are. And with Radio, I need to send my must haves. It seems like the person who makes the first communication gets it easy. The other person has to continue after that. I think I'm going to hold off for a little while and see if any of them respond back.
So, I didn't do anything last night other than log in, close some matches, and turn my match preference to "off."
xoxo, Maxi
Open: 18
In communication: 7
Closed: 17
Total matches received: 35
I felt like the matches were getting out of control, and I was just closing everyone, and was getting confused as to who was who, so I turned my matching status to "off." This means I won't receive any new matches until I change it back.
This makes me wonder something else. All the matches that haven't responded. Are their matches getting out of control as well? That's why they don't have time respond?
The police officer sent his must haves/can't stands back. And I received answers from one of the guys (the radio broadcaster) I was waiting for. But now I don't know who makes the next move. Technically for the police officer, I should send him my second questions. I haven't explored that yet, so I don't know what they are. And with Radio, I need to send my must haves. It seems like the person who makes the first communication gets it easy. The other person has to continue after that. I think I'm going to hold off for a little while and see if any of them respond back.
So, I didn't do anything last night other than log in, close some matches, and turn my match preference to "off."
xoxo, Maxi
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
eHarmon-me: Day 3
This morning, when I checked my email at work, I found 7 new matches, 0 requests for communication from these new matches, and 2 that had answered my questions that I posed back for them.
When I got home and logged on, I found the matches were pretty true to form. The usual 50/25/25. 50% with no photos, 25% I was not attracted to in the least, and 25% okay. I had a lot of "students" this time and I am not interested in a student, unless it says law student. One was actually, and he was a hottie, but no communication requests from him. Also, I was back to the shorties again (as in they are all coincidentally 5'8").
eHarmony Conclusion 1: Short men love eHarmony.
What bothers me the most about this, is most likely, they are lying about their height. For every guy that says he's 5'8", I'm betting he's more like 5'6".
I closed out the ones that I just was not attractive to. I read the answers from the two that replied back. One was the police officer that I found cute from the other day. I sent him my must haves/can't stands. The other, I'm still a little hesitant on, because he's the one that hasn't shown his picture. I think I'll wait this one out a little bit.
I don't have responses from the other two that I sent questions back to. So, either they just haven't logged on yet, or they didn't like my answers. But seriously, how much are guys looking at those answers? I seriously doubt they're ruling girls out based on their answers. If the girl's mildly attractive, he's probably meeting up with her and then going from there.
So, I decided to search for new matches. I received 7 new ones. They really love 7 at a time, and the demographics fit the same 50/25/25. Just for kicks, I ran the search for new matches again, and they said they didn't have any new matches. But you know what, I guarantee I have 7 new matches when I wake up tomorrow.
Right now, I have 28 total matches. 18 that are open. 7 of which I am in communication with - 2 that I am waiting for answers, 1 that I sent must haves, 1 that responded to my questions, but doesn't have a photo, and the 3 that I don' know what to do with - the ones from yesterday. I'm thinking I might close them out. I just am not attracted to them, but I think I'll let them live in limbo for a little bit longer.
Something I'm curious about. I haven't had anyone close me out, but I have 11 that haven't done anything with me. Are these guys keeping me in limbo? Or are they exploring something with someone right now and want to see how that goes before they try someone new? Also, some may be people that signed up to receive their free personality profile, and 5 free matches. Also, I've read about how sometimes they don't close down accounts. This is a problem in a lot of these sites, or so I have heard. So, they may not even be logging in. That's why I think I'll wait to have the guy make the first move on me!
xoxo, Maxi
When I got home and logged on, I found the matches were pretty true to form. The usual 50/25/25. 50% with no photos, 25% I was not attracted to in the least, and 25% okay. I had a lot of "students" this time and I am not interested in a student, unless it says law student. One was actually, and he was a hottie, but no communication requests from him. Also, I was back to the shorties again (as in they are all coincidentally 5'8").
eHarmony Conclusion 1: Short men love eHarmony.
What bothers me the most about this, is most likely, they are lying about their height. For every guy that says he's 5'8", I'm betting he's more like 5'6".
I closed out the ones that I just was not attractive to. I read the answers from the two that replied back. One was the police officer that I found cute from the other day. I sent him my must haves/can't stands. The other, I'm still a little hesitant on, because he's the one that hasn't shown his picture. I think I'll wait this one out a little bit.
I don't have responses from the other two that I sent questions back to. So, either they just haven't logged on yet, or they didn't like my answers. But seriously, how much are guys looking at those answers? I seriously doubt they're ruling girls out based on their answers. If the girl's mildly attractive, he's probably meeting up with her and then going from there.
So, I decided to search for new matches. I received 7 new ones. They really love 7 at a time, and the demographics fit the same 50/25/25. Just for kicks, I ran the search for new matches again, and they said they didn't have any new matches. But you know what, I guarantee I have 7 new matches when I wake up tomorrow.
Right now, I have 28 total matches. 18 that are open. 7 of which I am in communication with - 2 that I am waiting for answers, 1 that I sent must haves, 1 that responded to my questions, but doesn't have a photo, and the 3 that I don' know what to do with - the ones from yesterday. I'm thinking I might close them out. I just am not attracted to them, but I think I'll let them live in limbo for a little bit longer.
Something I'm curious about. I haven't had anyone close me out, but I have 11 that haven't done anything with me. Are these guys keeping me in limbo? Or are they exploring something with someone right now and want to see how that goes before they try someone new? Also, some may be people that signed up to receive their free personality profile, and 5 free matches. Also, I've read about how sometimes they don't close down accounts. This is a problem in a lot of these sites, or so I have heard. So, they may not even be logging in. That's why I think I'll wait to have the guy make the first move on me!
xoxo, Maxi
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